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28 September 2014 @ 11:22 am
Hi ladies,

First time post, so apologies for any errors of etiquette. I have tried a search for the answers to my questions however, I got 100 pages of posts. :-/

A bit of background: I'm 39, and I've had two children - one normal birth with a third degree tear, and one caesarean with a rather large baby. Prior to kids I was rather tight - mini tampons were almost too uncomfortable. After babies, a totally different story - super tampons slid out. I also pee myself when jogging on occasion. I've been trying to work on this.

Because I get a rash from paper products, I've been using cloth pads for about 7 years. In the begining I tried a Diva cup in the large size, but it just slid down and was extremely uncomfortable despite several attempts to change the way I've put it in and completely trimming off the stem. In the end I gave up and put it away and I've since lost it. Fast forward a few years - I can now wear a super tampon wihtout it falling out for long enough to go for a swim, and then I have to remove it so I' don't get thrush. I'm ready to try again with the cup.

A friend was doing a promotion for cups, where for every one purchased a company would donate a cup to a woman in Cambodia. I bought one - I don't know which brand it is. Its purple, quite stiff, and had a long flattish stem with ribs on the bottom of the cup and stem. I've tried again. I trimmed off the stem completely but I could still feel the ribs on the bottom of the cup. I beleive my cervix is low and my pelvic floor still needs work. I have turned it inside out and it is far more comfortable, enabling me to wear it successfully at night, however after a little while walking around, it too slides down and almost out. I have it in inside out at the moment and its fine comfort-wise, but I'm pretty sure I'm leaking and I'm only sitting. I have checked the suction, made sure it is open, etc. I'm at the point where its probably the wrong cup for me too.

Does anyone have suggestions for a short cup, that is stiff so opens easily for a beginner, that doesn't have ribs on the bottom (I'm really sensitive it seems), and is wide enough for a *ahem* loose woman such as myself? Can anyone point me in the direction of where to find this info in posts already existing? Can anyone help with suggestions on how to get this one right first?

Thank you so much.

TL;DR: Need good cup for sensitive vaginal opening, stiff, short and no ribbing on bottom!
becstaroo on September 28th, 2014 02:08 am (UTC)
PS. the current cup looks like a Lunnette, without Lunette written on the side.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on September 28th, 2014 02:43 am (UTC)
Paging Kuradi8 with suggestions on pelvic floor exercises! That will be the biggest help...without working out the PC muscles every cup you try will slide out. You may actually prefer softer cups too (the large Fleur is a favorite for moms and though it's soft, the design makes it pop open very easily...or for a super soft one without grips on the bottom, try the large Si-Bell, identical shape to the Fleur). Usually stiff cups work best for girls with really tight PC muscles from gymnastics, yoga, etc. whose muscles would crush softer cups.

Edited at 2014-09-28 02:44 am (UTC)
jchammondsjchammonds on September 28th, 2014 11:59 am (UTC)
Another recommendation for Fleur cup! Love mine.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on September 28th, 2014 02:57 am (UTC)
Sizing guidelines and size charts found at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ Also follow the link in the first section to my Answers to Common Questions, including a paragraph or two about pelvic floor strength.
elisamba on September 28th, 2014 06:42 am (UTC)
I'm going to take a stab that you may have a Miacup (?). A more pronounced rim may be what you need. I would recommend the large Keeper, though just be aware it is a large-dimension cup with the capacity of other brands' small sizes, unfortunately. Might not be great for heavy flow. There are no grip rings on the stem or bottom, yet I found the latex easy to grip (but no good if you have an allergy). It is also available in silicone, and if you are in the UK a similar cup available domestically is the Mooncup UK.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on September 28th, 2014 01:04 pm (UTC)
The US Moon Cup is identical to the Keeper (same company) but it's made of silicone, not latex. But at 54mm, I think it might be too long for you, becstaroo. The UK Mooncup (MCUK) is a shorter version. It's the yellow cup in my user-pic. They're clear nowadays. But it doesn't have a very high capacity so I use it as a light days cup.

By your description, you probably have a Miacup. 46mm wide and 53mm long with a fairly pointy base.

If flipping the Miacup inside out to shorten it and turn the base from pointy to blunt isn't working, then I don't think ANY cup will stay in until you tone up your pelvic floor muscles.

It doesn't warrant a special trip but next time you go to your Gyno, bring your cup and mention how it seems too long and feels like it wants to escape. It sounds like you have some age/childbirth related prolapse and your Dr can probably recommend some good exercises to get your PC back into shape. In the mean time, Google Kegel exercises and exercisers and get a jump start on toning them back up.

In the short term, they'll make whoopee more fun and in the long term, they'll help keep you from piddling your panties as a little old lady.

Edited because I changed my mind about what I'd written.

Edited at 2014-09-28 02:07 pm (UTC)
m03m on September 28th, 2014 08:57 am (UTC)
I'm thinking that a less pointy, more round-bottomed cup might work for you. One option might be a large Fleurcup, worn inside out to make it smooth. It's not a very stiff cup but it is nice and springy so it opens easily.