I tried coconut oil as lubricant and it did hurt a little less but it still wouldn't go in. I don't know that there's much else I can do except keep trying over and over. But if there's anything you think I'm missing, I will try it if I can. Thanks!
(I'm using the mooncup which I read is "rimmy". Is there anyone else who absolutely could not get the mooncup in but could get other cups in? I can't afford another cup but maybe the one I have just won't work.)
Update: Oh my. Oh my. Oh my. I got it in!!! Oh my goodness. I am just - collapses. I could hardly even feel it, except the stem was hurting me so I'm going to cut it partially or all the way out. I have no idea how it finally got in. I guess all the finger practice worked.
Removal was ... not easy. I took about fifteen minutes and it hurt but it was a lot easier than insertion.