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I'm relatively new to the Diva Cup (this is my second cycle using it),and have tried different folds. The c-fold seems to be my best bet. However, I cannot rotate the cup to get it open (how is this physically possible???), but I can get it to pop open if I pull it downwards slightly. However, even on my heaviest days, I cannot then push it back in/up even though that is the advice I see/read all the time. As such, the Diva Cup stem and bottom of cup protrudes a bit; I do know it's one of the longest cups on the market, but my cervix is medium to high when I have my period so I'm pretty sure it's my inability to push the cup back in fully that can be accounting for at least *some* of the stem poking issue.

Any suggestions short of using and even bringing a bottle of lube in my purse (not thrilled with that, as I've already accidentally dropped a cup in the toilet and lube seems like it would make that even more likely) but I'm open to doing it if I need to, and I do know to use water-based, no-glycerin lube). If lube is my best best, have any of you tried both gel and liquid formula lubes and have a preference?
 
Kathlynekathlyne on September 5th, 2014 03:34 am (UTC)
You do not have to rotate the cup. Many cup users get along just fine without rotating or spinning the cup (despite the dumb instructions that come with the cup).

Here are a few things to try:

1. Different folds. Different folds work differently for different people. Also try positioning the folds differently...for instance if you are using the C fold, then try inserting the cup with the back of the C up, down, to the left, right, etc. The punch down fold is my favorite, but a lot of folks say that the more complicated the fold, the easier it opens.

2. Instead of lowering the cup to open it try inserting a finger along side the cup and pushing on the back or side of your vag to allow air in and allow the cup to expand. That's my method if the cup doesn't automatically pop open.

3. If the cup likes to open lower down--then let it open lower down before you push it all the way in--then try to push it in. I don't know if that would make a difference.

4. Fully relax. Keep your jaw relaxed. Spread your knees wide with your panties down around your ankles. When I wear high boots and can't get my pants and panties down, dealing with a cup is MUCH more difficult for me.

5. Instead of pushing the cup up--maybe trying pulling it up with kegels. I know some people use that method.

Maybe on your heaviest days your cervix is really low, and that's why you can't push the cup back up. You are still in the learning curve, so hopefully you'll figure out something that works for you. And you can always cut the stem--just remember, you can't put it back. I have long fingers, so I cut the stems off all of my cups. If you have trouble reaching the cup on your lighter days then you wouldn't want to cut the stem off.
onebookishnurse on September 7th, 2014 11:04 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the advice, it was really helpful! I tried the 7 fold, and it's been working like a charm every time now and I never have a problem getting it open and in place. I have to stand up with my legs wide apart, which might present a problem in small public bathroom stalls, but because this is just cycle 2, I'm working my way up to that next cycle.

I did trim the stem a teeny bit (just to the first notch), and now don't have any issues with feeling poked. Your mentioning that you have long fingers helped, too - I have small hands with short fingers, so I think my cervix may not be as high as I thought it was.
Kathlynekathlyne on September 8th, 2014 10:45 pm (UTC)
Great! I'm glad you found something that works for you.
Work up to the bathroom stalls. I will choose a onsie (single bathroom with toilet and sink inside) over a stall any day. I know that isn't always an option though. You'll figure it out.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on September 5th, 2014 12:34 pm (UTC)
kathlyne gave very good advice. Here's more reading if you'd like: http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/