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21 August 2014 @ 08:44 am
I just bought a Diva cup (size 2). Day 1 of my period was great. Yesterday was day 2 and it was a complete nightmare. The cup kept sliding out & leaking. I tried pushing it in, as well as taking it out, washing it and reinserting it no less than 10 times during the day. At one point, when I went to go to the bathroom, it actually fell out! It even leaked last night. I have very, very heavy flow on days 2 & 3 of my period. For example, this morning I was woken up by the leaking at 5:55, washed everything and when I re-woke up at 6:30, the cup had 1/4 oz of blood in it. It wasn't feeling one bit comfortable this morning at 7:30, so I re-did it again, and it had another 1/4 oz. When I put it in at 6:30 this morning, the uncomfortableness was due to the stem pinching my labia, and also the bottom part of the cup outside of my vagina. My cervix is low during my period, I think - I can feel it when my finger is only half way in my vagina. Right now, it seems a little uncomfortable, but it's hard to tell if it's from the cup or just because of all the fiddling around all day yesterday.
I do not know if I need another brand of cup. I was looking through all the pages on this community to figure it out, but think that personal advice would be better. If it matters, I've had 3 children and am in my 40s.
Another problem I'm having is that I was hoping to have my 12 yr old daughter try one. She does ballet 6 days a week & just got her period last month. I had been doing a little research about dancers & their periods and had found the Diva Cup. I didn't even realize that there were other brands :-( If I'm having all these issues with Diva, I do not know if the Diva cup size 1 would work for her, but really have no clue. Any advice on that?
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on August 21st, 2014 01:04 pm (UTC)
Not only is the Diva one of the longest cups out there (= unhappy for a low cervix) but your PC muscles are probably not what they used to be after having 3 kids...even if yours were C-sections. You will probably be happier with a wider, softer cup--the large Fleur seems to be a hit with most moms and I think the capacity is better than the Diva anyway. Same for large Si-Bell--you may like Melunas too. For your daughter a size 1 Diva may well be her Goldilocks, since young girls without kids are more likely to have a high cervix, but she will need to figure out where her cervix is first (don't automatically go for the tiniest cup or she may have to spend 3 hours removing a Meluna because it migrated WAY UP THERE in her high cervix...been there)...and she may need something a little stiffer for those dancer PC muscles. I have had no problem with the large Si-Bell though, and I haven't had kids, though I am 28 and have 2 left feet/don't do anything like dancing or yoga...
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on August 21st, 2014 01:15 pm (UTC)
Yep, that's my guess too... the Diva is too long and your PCs are out of shape. Flip your Diva inside out to shorten it. And read the section about the pelvic floor at the tail end of http://kuradi8.livejournal.com/ It also links to one of the many sets of size and capacity charts for if you'd like to buy a different cup and/or one for your daughter.

I don't usually recommend cups but the large Fleurcup has a good reputation as a high capacity "Mommy sized" cup. Compare it to others -- dimensions, capacity, texture, shape, stiffness, etc -- and see if it or another cup appeals to you more.
motherofhavokmotherofhavok on September 3rd, 2014 06:24 pm (UTC)
Same boat, kinda...

I saw this post when I was first looking to buy a reusable menstrual cup. I had "known" about cups for a few years and have used the disposable SoftCup for some time, but had really only known about the Diva and the Keeper as reusable options. When choosing a cup, I called Gladrags for support, since they sell the Diva, Lunette, Keeper, and Moon Cup (US). I had a lot of questions about age, like you. I'm 31, three kids (all c-section), and I also have a twelve year old girl (cheerleader, not dancer) who is thinking about a cup. (She got her period at 10, so has had time to realize just how uncomfortable/leaky pads can be).

I think the general consensus is that over 30, especially after kids, a softer cup may be better. I cannot speak from vast knowledge of menstrual cups. I wear one almost every day, since I'm waiting for my period to come, but haven't used one for a full period yet. I have two. A Moon Cup size B (the one recommended by the Gladrags representative) and a Rainbow Cup, size L. The Moon Cup is much firmer, narrower, and slightly longer. The Rainbow Cup is way softer, slightly shorter, and more rounded.

I cannot get my softer cup to work. I can get it to seal, but it feels like a crushed up pop can. It never fully opens, even when I reach in to "manually unfold" it. Don't get me wrong, I'm still going to try to make it work. It holds 10mL more than my Moon Cup, and I'm a gushy, heavy bleeding kind of gal. My version of a light day is filling a S+ tampon in 4-5 hours, and what I consider spotting, is using a regular tampon 4x a day. I don't think the Moon Cup can handle my heavier days. But, the firmer of my two cups opens and stays in place better. No fiddling required. It doesn't break its seal, or slide down too far, like my softer cup. It has never fallen out, either, like the soft one has. I tell you, if it held more, I wouldn't dream of looking for another cup. I'm thinking a large MeLuna Classic might be more my style, as it's nearly the same size/shape as my Moon Cup, with more capacity. I'm not suggesting YOU should definitely get a smaller or firmer cup. I'm just throwing out a different example of someone who is over the 30 mark, with kids, and a cup that slips or falls out.

I wonder... I am heavy set. I have no idea if this applies to you. But, many of us who are heavier, will have crazy strong legs and behinds. Mostly, because our muscles have to work harder to support our weight. Could the same be true for pelvic floor muscles? Those also have to work harder to support our weight.