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25 July 2014 @ 09:29 am
Hi there I'm new to all this menstrual cup malarkey but after considering one for about ten years I finally took the plunge by buying a less expensive 'Aneer' one from ebay to see how I got on.
I'm 38, but haven't had children so I chose the larger cup as recommended.
The only thing is, though I don't really have problems inserting it, I think it isn't opening up properly when it's inside (I'm assuming this is the case as when I've pulled it out there is more blood on the outside of the cup than the inside, and I leak) I've tried the different folds suggested, after reading that the c-fold and the punch-fold don't open up as easily once inside (although they pop open easily enough while I'm trying to insert, grrr).
I've also tried 'rotating' the cup but it is so tightly wedged in that the only direction I can physically move it is down. I've tried wiggling it up and down and all kinds!
I was wondering if perhaps I'm too narrow and maybe that is the issue? I mean, probably tmi but, I haven't had sex for ten years and even before then I wasn't massively sexually active. I understand my bits are supposed to loosen up as I get older, but I wondered if the fact that nothing other than tampons (lubricated or I have troubles getting them in) going up there means I'm not quite as stretchy as I could be? Could it be that even at 38 I need the smaller size?
Do other people find their cups easy to rotate once inside?

That said, I've only been trying (a lot) since yesterday and maybe I'm jumping the gun a little?

Also, how do people in this group know how long their cervix is? How on earth do I measure that?
tobilei on July 25th, 2014 09:17 am (UTC)
I'm not sure if Aneer is the exact brand of what you ordered but I can say that the no name cup (i-care cup) I purchased from ebay is quite a lot softer than most of my other cups and it is harder to open.

Firstly try running it under the cold tap or sticking it in a mug of ice water for a few minutes before using it. This firms up the silicone and helps it open more easily.

Not everyone manages to turn their cup. It doesn't matter if you can't. Do reach in and check that the bottom is roundish and doesn't have any obvious dents. If it has a dented side then it's not open properly as you suspect.

Finally once it's in, doing a sweep with a finger around the rim to make sure your cervix isn't outside the cup helps.

To check your cervix pop your longest finger in and feel around until you feel a kind of lump or bump (people say it feels like the tip of your nose, but I don't think mine does). If you can't feel anything at all it's likely you have a rather high cervix.
Loolaaloolaa on July 25th, 2014 10:07 am (UTC)
Hi! Thank you for replying. :)
The cup says Aneer on the packaging and instruction leaflet, but it could be that it's just a non-branded one, hence the price. I haven't held any menstrual cups other than this one though and it seems quite firm to my untrained squeeze. Still I've had in icy cold water and tried that way but it didn't really make much difference to it's firmness. Though it did sooth the soreness I'm getting from all this experimenting!

Every time I've inserted it recently I've felt around it with a finger and it's been dented on one side and poking and pushing, prodding and wiggling it won't get it to unfold, regardless of the fold I've used. I know it's definitely not unfolding once inserted, and I just can't get it to unfold.
And there is no physical way I can get my finger up alongside the cup to the rim to check my cervix isn't outside it, there just isn't the room, I'd really have to painfully force it to do so.

I checked my cervix and it was nearer than I expected. It felt nothing like a nose and wasn't bumpy at all and felt kind of tender and swollen. But it's the second and heaviest day of my period and I may have one of these 'dangly cervixes' I've been reading about, so maybe I should check it properly another day.

Also with the cup folded inside the way it is it's just not doing it's job at all, I may not have it in for the help it's being, the blood is going straight past it. I think I'll try again in a couple of days and see how it goes.

Edited at 2014-07-25 10:10 am (UTC)
Luceafaraluceafara on July 28th, 2014 12:33 am (UTC)
Good. Now that you know where your cervix is, measure out your finger to the piont that it was inserted. This measurement will help you pick the right cup when looking at size charts of different brands in the FAQ section of this community.

What you describe is what happens to me when I try to insert a cup that is just too wide in diameter (the Ruby cup in my case). It's not really my technique - it's the cup.
Age has nothing to do with how much space you have in there - I'm living proof :)
Apart from the Ruby, all my other cups are small and mini, and they fit much better.
Loolaaloolaa on August 2nd, 2014 08:14 am (UTC)
I'm glad to hear that the same thing happens to you too. I knew it was impossible that I'd be the only one! It seems strange that the manufacturers would expect the insides of someone who hasn't given birth to equal that of someone who has just because of a few years. I mean, I expect to sag, that's a given, but to sag to the proportion of a babies head?

I gave up on it during that last period, the cup is definitely too big, after having a poke about I concluded that I'm a lot smaller in there than I originally thought! I'll measure myself on all the days of my next period and then try to work out the best cup size from there I think, but a narrower one is a definite.

Thanks for your help!
amazonelf78amazonelf78 on July 29th, 2014 08:25 pm (UTC)
loolaa, what material is the Aneer cup? The descriptions say silicone, but stock photos show some type of plastic.
Loolaaloolaa on August 2nd, 2014 08:18 am (UTC)
I assumed silicone because that's what it said on the box and the leaflet. It feels like silicone to me and I don't have any reason to believe otherwise. Have you gt doubts?
Quitteriequitterie on August 8th, 2014 08:44 am (UTC)
Hi loolaa^,
welcome to the menstrual cups world! :D hehe

The Aneer cup reminds me a lot of my iCare cup : like this one, has the Aneer 2 tiny holes, and 2 lines inside for the ml (7.5 and 15, I think) ?
In advance, thank you!
Loolaaloolaa on August 16th, 2014 08:13 pm (UTC)
Hi! Sorry for the late reply.
Yes, the Aneer has two tiny holes and lines inside measuring 15ml and 7.5ml. :) Although with not having used any others I thought that was standard. XD