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24 July 2014 @ 08:55 pm
So I'm deciding what to get for my first cup!

I'm in my early twenties, sexually active, and have a relatively heavy but short period. I use 3-4 Always overnight/regular pads a day on heavier days and always need wings. Generally they last four days, and an additional 2-3 days of spotting. I recently tried Instead Softcup as it's in local grocery stores, to test if I'm comfortable putting in/taking out/mess etc. and I loved it! It's dramatically less mess and damp than pads, didn't need to wipe nearly so much when changing. It leaked a little, so I still wore a pad jic, but dramatically better.

So I'm looking at getting my first real cup, as I'd like to not need to buy new ones every period. I measured my cervix distance a few times during my period and could just reach it with my longest finger, 8 cm. So I'm thinking I'm probably fine with longer cups. I'm considering the Meluna L, Yuuki, Ladycup L, and Femmecup

I'm leaning towards the Yuuki and Meluna if only because they're less expensive, and I'm cheap. I'm also not sure how I feel about stems, as I'm open to the idea of PIV intercourse during my period, so something that would be smooth would be nice. I like that they have rounded bottoms for the same reason. But I'm also uncertain what would be easy to take out, so which ones would be ok to cut the stem off? I'm thinking the meluna ball or ring, but I don't know if you can cut them or not. I'm comfortable with reaching up in there to get it out, so if I can go without a stem and get it out reliably I'm thinking I will.

Also I have no idea firmness wise. Maybe I should aim for average firmness and see how it goes from there?

All advice super welcome, thanks!
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on July 25th, 2014 05:53 pm (UTC)
The Ladycup will probably be too short and hard to remove because it's slippery. You may like the Si-Bell if you're going for softness though (the stem is nice and long, but the cup itself is shorter--great for me because my pubic bone is very high and would pinch/steal capacity from any cup long enough to sit partly below it)

Unfortunately you won't really be able to have sex with a reusable cup in--they sit completely differently from the way Insteads sit inside you. (I guess if he is VERY poorly endowed he may not notice/reach the cup but that would be, um, unfortunate)

If you'd like to be able to have sex on your period, I've heard of some users actually taking a diaphragm and wearing it like a cup. I don't remember who described this though (you could search the site and see if you dig anything up)
Sal McGhostface Killahbeuk on July 25th, 2014 06:52 pm (UTC)
Many people have had sex with menstrual cups in, tho: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2697093.html
hariah on September 8th, 2014 02:42 am (UTC)
Yeah, I got the idea from several threads in the sexual activity tag and I'm open to the idea. It isn't a #1 priority but it helped me reduce my candidate list to a number I could manage.

Thanks for the feedback.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 25th, 2014 08:42 pm (UTC)
There are sizing guidelines and a link to commonly asked questions at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ as well as size and capacity charts.

Insteads are the only "cups" (even though they're completely different) that say they're OK to use during PIV sex but that hasn't stopped others from using cups successfully.

Use the guidelines and comparison charts to figure out which cups you think will fit/suit you best and then use shape and possibly squishy/stiffness to narrow those choices down to the one you like best.
hariah on September 8th, 2014 02:53 am (UTC)
I ended up getting a Large Meluna because their US branch started taking orders while I was ordering, and that made the shipping much cheaper.

But then my period ended just as it arrived. So I waited for my next cycle and now I've tried it a few days. First try, I got it in but not open, and was a bit sore.

The second try that day I had an epiphany about rushing and relaxing and how the air gets in and out and managed to figure out how to remove and get it in and open. That first day I had a couple moments where the stem kinda poked me a bit, but since I've figured out a way to push it in all the way that just barely gets the stem inside enough that it doesn't poke anything.

Now it's one of my heavy days and I've leaked three times today (yay fabric pantiliner) and when I take it out I spill a bit but its only half full. I kinda squoosh it to release the seal, and that's when it spills. Once it's out, I notice my cup doesn't return to being completely circular, it's kinda squished and the ring at the top is more an oval.

So I was wondering if it's "full" or if there's a way to remove it without spilling, or if my internal shape just doesn't let my cup fill all the way to the holes.