maybe you need a slightly wider, or firmer cup? sounds to me like slightly weakened pc muscles. maybe exercises to firm up those muscles again could help too? you are right abou the diva being a long bodied cup though, most other cups are shorter.

Your pelvic floor is probably not what it used to be. Kegel, kegel, kegel to get it back into shape. Until then, it is perfectly OK to wear your Diva inside out if that works for you. If you want another cup, check out the large Fleur. It is wide bodied and blunt bottomed -- two features that make it a favorite of Moms, both old and new.

As for Kegel exercises, there are many different kegel tools. Some are hands-on and require interaction -- such as wands or tethered "orgasm balls" or gizmos that look kinda like speculums. My favorite tool is just plain Ben Wa Balls. Start with ones that are about 1" and 3/4oz apiece and then graduate to those that are appx 3/4" and 1oz apiece. The idea is to insert them and keep them in while you walk around, do the dishes, etc. Start with 20 minutes a day and build from there. The longer you keep them in, they harder they'll be to keep them inside. That's what's working your PCs -- hands free, no interaction required. Do this at home. Be sure to remember to remove them (relax, cough and catch) before going out or using the toilet.

But it has recently come to light that kegel exercises are not enough. You will need to add squats (for the butt muscles) and lower abdominal crunches to your exercise routine. They all work together to tone vaginal muscles.