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14 June 2014 @ 06:59 pm
Yesterday I received my mooncup, size B (I'm 14, virgin) it's my first menstrual cup and I was pretty excited to try it because in about two weeks I'm going on a school trip and we will be spending a lot of time in the water, lucky me, I'm going to be on my period.

So I figured a menstrual cup was the only
option, I ordered it, received it, sterilised it and got down to business. Inserting took about fifteen minutes but once I got it in I was super proud, I only wore it for around ten minutes because it was a little uncomfortable (which I'm pretty sure was just due to the stem but I didn't want to cut it in case I needed it for removal)

I was all ready to take it out and then came one of the most horrible experiences of my life. I managed to pretty quickly get most of the stem out but from there it was awful, I was bearing down as much as I possibly could, pulling and twisting the stem, I tried reaching up and pinching the base of the cup to release suction, I tried every position possible but it wouldn't come out. Eventually after about ten minutes I managed to very slowly, very painfully pull it out.

I'm now completely terrified of trying to use it again because of how painful it was but I know i have to keep trying because I have no choice. Please help me, was I doing something wrong, how can I make removal less painful and quicker and easier, and also, do you think I should cut the stem and will it be ok for swimming? My flow has been pretty light recently so hopefully that means it won't leak. Thank you ~
 
Ashatenlegspider on June 14th, 2014 06:51 pm (UTC)
Why have you discounted tampons? If it's possible to use them I think you should consider it so you have a backup option if you can't get the hang of your cup in time. You got it in first try which is pretty great for a young virgin so maybe you'll get it all sorted soon, but it'll be easier if you don't have a deadline.

Do you think you managed to release the suction, and keep it from reforming? If so, my main advice is to walk it out - move one side down a bit, then the other, repeat until it's out. Alternatively, try to fold it while it's inside. If you do that when you're actually bleeding you'll probably want to be in a bath or shower, but don't worry about that for now.

If you couldn't release the suction or it came back, you need a better grip. If you were already bearing down in different positions you probably got it as low as you could, although when you're menstruating it's likely to be lower. If you had trouble getting your fingers where you needed them then a small amount of lube may help, and cut your fingernails right down so you don't have to worry about scratching yourself.

Another possibility is that you just had trouble getting it past your pelvic floor muscles because you were anxious, and that got worse the longer you tried. Do what you can to remain calm, so if you're struggling just leave it. Watch some tv, have dinner, even go to bed and try again in the morning. You're not bleeding so there's really no hurry. (This is why it would help if you weren't relying on it for your school trip.)

You must be sore now, so wait a couple of days before you try again. It's not worth practising when you're sore because you'll just have another bad experience that'll give you more reason to tense up.

As for the stem, your cervix is unlikely to be any higher up when you're on your period, so you should be fine to cut it now and you might want to trim it some more later.

Cups are great for swimming but tampons are ok too! (I couldn't get them positioned right when I was a virgin, but they worked fine for swimming somehow.)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on June 14th, 2014 07:52 pm (UTC)
Go to the Community FAQ and read the Virgin's Guide to Cups. And also read the replies to the posts under the "removal" tag for lots of really good advice.

If you are terrified to use your cup again, then don't. Put it away until you are mentally and physically more ready. Try tampons. Try other methods. You don't have to use just ONE exclusively. It's perfectly OK to mix and match.
annagracexo on June 14th, 2014 10:08 pm (UTC)
I won't be able to use tampons because I will be doing activities throughout the day and most likely won't have a chance to change my tampon for about 6-10 hours, if I leave a tampon in that long, I risk getting TSS.
bklynmom on June 15th, 2014 01:00 am (UTC)
Are you sure about the time? I mean, most people have to pee more frequently than every 10 hours, so I'd imagine there must be some way to access a bathroom. You probably won't be the only girl having her period on the trip and others will need bathrooms too.

I agree with trying tampons. Although I love my cups, the learning curve is a bit longer than it is for tampons (usually) so trying to rely on it in a time pressured way might not be the best.

And I also agree with the advice not to try again right away. Wait until you're no longer sore and anxious. And, dry runs don't seem to work for everyone so maybe wait until your period?
Ashatenlegspider on June 15th, 2014 11:28 am (UTC)
I agree, It's a school trip not boot camp! You can leave a tampon in for eight hours, and they're not going to keep you going for longer than that without food and toilet breaks.

If you're not sure it's going to be ok, talk to someone who's involved in supervising the trip, or any teacher you trust (they'll be able to follow it up for you). You might feel awkward about that but it's something they'll have dealt with many times before.

Even at 14 some girls will be heavy bleeders and need to change a tampon (or even a cup) every couple of hours, which is something that any reasonable organisation would make adjustments for if necessary. You don't need to sort it all out yourself.
maelkeboette on June 14th, 2014 10:25 pm (UTC)
Hi there.
The best advice is that you just keep practicing until you're comfortable with it. Don't fear the cup. Try to completely relax when you remove it. Do not panic, because that will make you all tense, and that's not good when you're about to remove a cup.

Are you using the Mooncup UK? I have heard rumors that this is not a good cup for first time users. If you have time, you could try to buy another cup (maybe a soft MeLuna small or medium?). If you don't have time, I will recommend that you keep trying with the Mooncup until it gets more comfortable for you.
Sal McGhostface Killahbeuk on June 15th, 2014 03:35 pm (UTC)
My opinion from reading posts like these is that dry runs aren't all that useful and you'd get more value from getting familiar with your body with clean fingers (including flexing and relaxing pelvic muscles around a finger or two) and playing with the cup outside the body - practicing folds and squeezing the bottom to see how easily it collapses.

But yeah, if you're sore, don't do anything for at least a couple days. And don't give yourself a hard deadline to start using your cup.