Back once more - making strides but...

Okay, I got my period again and for the first time ever used my cup for an extended amount of time. Insertion is no longer a too-difficult affair for me so yay! I might actually be able to use this thing regularly soon...

But removal IS. A. FREAKING. PAIN.

Well, not a pain per-se, it's actually not that painful, but it's extremely TEDIOUS. How do you people do it? I can easily feel the bottom of cup with my index finger just fine, but I can only insert my index finger and thumb both in far enough to grab the stem, and even then, only the very tip of it. My removal process has basically been me bearing down and tugging onto the stem until it's close enough to my pubic bone that I can grab the base and pull it out - and I have to be fast otherwise I either accidentally let go and it just moves right back up. There is pain, but it's only because I have to try so many times to grab the thing that my fingers start chafing my vagina. My fingers are sore now from trying so much -_-'. I'm getting scared too that I have to rely so much on the stem - there's actually a small weak spot a few millimeters down the stem and if that snaps/weakens further and i have to cut it off, I'm afraid I'll have an even harder time. I don't understand how people can remove it either just sitting down or without a stem. Am I doing something wrong?