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17 April 2014 @ 08:22 pm
Hi, I'm new to the board as well as cups and was hoping for a little advice if you don't mind? Apologies in advance for the essay here!

I've been looking into using cups as I only have 2 days every 2 weeks without bleeding. (Yes gynae is checking this out for me.) Amounts vary so much in one day that tampon size cannot be judged and frequently end up using one that is too absorbent or having to change every hour or so. That left me with the option of liners - not the best since I'm a fitness instructor and need to be on a bike for several hours at a time, teach pilates and various other activities, I am also learning to pole dance so need to be able to move around a lot.

Since coming across this board I feel that I've finally found an answer to my problems (until we can suss out whats going wrong with my cycle). Now the question is which cup...?

I've been looking at the Meluna sport as I've found a set with a medium and large in it and it sounds good for active types, but I'm definitely open to changing this providing I can get delivery to the uk.

My major problem is size, when I go for a smear they have to use the extra small speculum and I don't know if it for width or length issues. Ie tight muscles or low cervix.

I 'think' I've found the cervix - if it feels like I've inserted my whole finger to the knuckle and just about feel the 'roof' in there in which case it'd be about 8cm up.

If that means I've not got a low cervix would they be using the extra small for the tight muscles down there and would it affect cup squishyness choice? I was going for the sport due to working pelvic floor regularly but could that mean width of the cup would need to be smaller? I'm 30, haven't been sexually active for the last 2 years due to the issues I'm having with bleeding and have had no kids.

Sooooooo many questions I know but as you can probably tell I'm a bit lost with all the options.


Ashatenlegspider on April 17th, 2014 07:52 pm (UTC)
I expect they're using a narrow speculum, yes, but your vagina is not a tunnel and can probably accommodate anything around the size of a cup once it's in, it's just getting it to relax enough in the first place that's sometimes a problem. I'm guessing that your trouble at the doctor's is a result of the discomfort most people feel in that situation, combined with your very well-conditioned muscles allowing you to really tense up. If you're more comfortable when using the cup on your own that won't be so much of an issue. If you can comfortably insert a couple of fingers you should be able to get a folded cup in and then reach in to get it out, the size it unfolds to is less of a concern.
kiki_kjt on April 17th, 2014 08:01 pm (UTC)
Thank you, do you think the less squishy cups would be more useful for my kind of activity or something little softer for comfort? Not sure which would be the most important at the moment.
m03m on April 17th, 2014 08:15 pm (UTC)
The 'sport' type of Meluna is called that for a reason. Most people with strong pelvic floor muscles do better with firmer cups because a softer cup may collapse under the pressure from the muscles during certain movements.

Once inserted, firmer cups should not be less comfortable. Most users can't feel their cups once they are in place.
kiki_kjt on April 17th, 2014 08:29 pm (UTC)
Thank you, I knew I should just ask on here! I've been trying to decide for a while now but been going round in circles with all the questions, well at least I can go order one to give a go now :)

Thanks again lovely people
Ashatenlegspider on April 17th, 2014 08:26 pm (UTC)
Given your vaginal tone I'd definitely err on the stiff side, but I've only ever used two cups and they've both worked perfectly, so it's not from personal experience. (I went from a small MCUK with it's stiff rim to a teeny and more flexible LC. The only difference was that I found the LC marginally easier to insert and remove; when inserted I don't feel them at all and have never had a leak although I've definitely pole danced with the MC (probably the LC too) and swung 20kg kettlebells with the LC.)

If you're worried about stiffness you could consider going for regular and see if you actually need the sport, but I think when you're wearing it you'll be fine.
Luceafaraluceafara on April 19th, 2014 03:32 am (UTC)
Hi, I also am on the narrow side, and can definitely tell you that even a few mm extra width can be an issue on most days for me. Especially since you are looking into stiffer cups, that's definitely something to consider, since stiffer cups don't give.

It sounds to me that you have a high cervix. Be careful with the Melunas: you need to be able to pinch the base on those cups (on some cups you don't have to, but Melunas really latch on, due to them only having two small holes), and they are rather short. You would be probably getting an M size?

I agree that you may want a stiffer cup, you just need to also look at brands with longer cups. Problem is that the really long cups are also often soft, so check out the softness charts.

Sorry I can't be of more help: what you are going through sounds awful! This may not make you feel any better, but I wear a cup every day. Insert it in the shower and forget it's there until the next shower, so once you find one or two good cups for you, things will get easier! Also, some people here have intercourse with their cups inserted.... Some food for thought ;)

ETA: At the bottom of the following page, there are two videos, identifying the softest cups (morbodo=soft). Those may be useful for you to know which cups to stay away from:

Edited at 2014-04-19 03:36 am (UTC)
kiki_kjt on April 19th, 2014 08:08 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the advice, that link helped a lot :)