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03 April 2014 @ 03:34 pm
Hello, I would really like your help here...
I've got quite a lot of questions, sorry...

I'm 19, a virgin, and I bought a small Lunette cup. I tried several times but I failed to get it in. It was really uncomfortable and it hurt a bit. I think it's too big for me? I'm considering buying a Meluna cup now because it's smaller but I've read all these stories about not being able to reach it and remove it. I don't know though if I can even get it in - can I be just too narrow down there? I didn't use tampons before but I thought I would be okay getting a cup in because I have no problem inserting a finger. I'm getting worried now - if I can't get my thumb and forefinger inside, how will I be able to remove the cup? Also I have no idea how far the cup would be? I heard that if I buy a meluna (small) cup with the ring grip, I can put a string through there so I'll get it out, is that right? Also should I get a soft or classical? Or maybe some other brand available in the czech republic?

Please help me with this... I'm new here so I 'm hoping I posted this right.
Thank you!
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 3rd, 2014 02:12 pm (UTC)
It's not the cup, it's you. Learn to use the cup that you have. Read the Virgin's Guide to Cups at the Community FAQ and the replies under the virginity tag.

If you "can't" use your cup then put it away until you are more comfortable with the concept of inserting and removing it. In very simplistic terms: if you are afraid of it hurting, then you will clench your muscles involuntarily and if you clench, it will become a self-fulfilling prophesy and it will hurt. If you are not afraid of insertion/removal, then you will stay relaxed, you won't clench and you won't cause yourself any undue pain.
bafikybaf on April 4th, 2014 11:25 am (UTC)
OK, thanks, I'll just keep trying...
Kathlynekathlyne on April 4th, 2014 12:08 am (UTC)
I'm going to second kuradi. There's no reason to buy another cup--it won't solve your problem. The Lunette isn't particularly difficult or large, you just need to relax.

Here is the link to the virgin's guide:
Virgin's Guide
bafikybaf on April 4th, 2014 11:27 am (UTC)
Thanks a lot for the link, the virgin guide is really great!
But all the same, maybe it would be easier to start with the smaller one, even if it's not neccessary?
Kathlynekathlyne on April 4th, 2014 03:58 pm (UTC)
Again, the problem isn't the cup. The small meluna and the small Lunette have the same diameter! Relax your muscles and your mind. You can do it, you just have to keep trying--but not so hard that you tense up!
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bafikybaf on April 4th, 2014 11:27 am (UTC)
Thanks, that makes me hopeful! I was beginning to think I wouldn't be able to use it at all.
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bafikybaf on April 6th, 2014 12:04 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the tip, I thought water would work but it doesn't.
dhrachthdhrachth on April 5th, 2014 01:16 am (UTC)
1) Try lubrication. If you're nervous and dry you can get some chaffing.

2) Don't buy another cup until you've at least used your Lunette. There's not enough size difference between the small models that you'd be able to get any of them in if you can't put in a Lunette.

Once you've used it a few times you may decide you want something smaller/larger/softer/shaped differently for better comfort. Right now buying a second cup would just be a waste of money because you don't have a way of knowing what would be better for you.
bafikybaf on April 6th, 2014 12:05 pm (UTC)
Thank you, I bought lubricant yesterday and I tried it and it's so much easier.

I even got it in today! It just didn't open but I expect if I try different folds I will be able to open it eventually!

Edited at 2014-04-06 12:06 pm (UTC)
bafikybaf on April 6th, 2014 12:07 pm (UTC)
Thank you!
Thank you soooo much everyone. You were right - I finally managed to get in the Lunette today!
It didn't pop open though but I'm sure if I try different folds and practice a bit, I'll be able to open it eventually.
Again - thank you so much, everyone!