Log in

No account? Create an account
22 March 2014 @ 05:08 pm
How do you decide to trim a stem? I've heard of some who decided to right away but it ended up being a mistake. I still haven't gotten my yuuki cups and I started spotting yesterday (28 day cycle, a miracle for my unpredictableness, thank you parsley tea!) I never was able to find my cervix so yesterday I tried inserting a plastic spoon handle just to see how far it could go. At about 3 and a quarter inches it seemed to bottom out. But it also felt like whatever I was poking was kind of putting tension on my bowel(?). But the very tip of the spoon had some blood on it so I'm thinking I may have reach the end of the canal. In any case I have been using my made in china cup for the first few times and can only seem to get it in far enough that the stem sits at the entrance. Sitting or laying doesnt feel bad but bending over or anything like that causes me to feel the stem yo-yo up and down. The stem is helpful for removal as I can pinch it between my thumb and middle finger while using my index finger to collapse the cup, but at the same time if the cup is bottoming out like I think it is than I guess I wouldn't be risking pushing it out of reach during retrieval.. Thus the stem may not be nessisary? Sorry to be long winded, just looking for advice from the pros.


Ps. I've seen some people say their cervixes drop even further when their flow is heavier? Because I am still just spotting and having these issues.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 22nd, 2014 11:32 pm (UTC)
If you're not absolutely sure, then don't trim it. Yet. You can always trim it later. But you can never put it back.
sunshinein321 on March 23rd, 2014 03:13 am (UTC)
I'm not a pro at this yet, but I left the stem of my cup in its entirety. My cervix is usually very high, and the cup rides up, so it gives me comfort to know I can always get it out. I have a very soft cup though, so the stem doesn't bother me even if it's sticking out a bit
Luceafaraluceafara on March 23rd, 2014 03:20 am (UTC)
I know how low my cervix is, that's why I can cut mine off without an issue. My cervix is much lower than yours sounds to be, though.
If you end up cutting anything, I'd suggest doing it little by little and not all at once, and only if the stem bothers you.
denise: lightbulbcarpetfish on March 23rd, 2014 04:06 am (UTC)
I'm no expert, but do you know what's the minimum amount of stem you need to get it out? I like to have at least ~1cm so I can pinch it with a couple fingers for stabilization. I've never had trouble with cups migrating up, but that may just be me.

I only trim a few mm at a time and then only if it really pokes. You can always take a bit more off but you can't put it back on.
elisamba on March 23rd, 2014 06:33 am (UTC)
Also, give your cup a couple minutes with you up and walking around a bit before deciding the stem is too long. My one cup, the stem sticks out a bit but wiggles its way up within a few minutes. (It should not hang out like a tampon string). And by the end of the day, it is quite far in. So I'm glad I didn't cut it on my first runs when I had less experience.

The vagina is elastic and from what I understand it continues past the cervix, so you could have by-passed your cervix with your spoon. Can you locate your cervix with a finger? That is the better indicator.

I might be reading too much between the lines here, so ignore if not applicable, but if you are not used to inserting your fingers in your vagina, I recommend you get used to that before inserting the cup :) At least forefinger and thumb, because those are what you'll need to get it out afterwards. :-)
msphat on March 25th, 2014 02:11 pm (UTC)
It really is one of those things where YMMV, but I've always trimmed the stems off all my cups soon after I got them, because for me, not having the stem on is the difference between a cup being my period salvation and being just another annoying way to manage my period. I think it does depend, though, on things like cervix positioning (mine seems to get low a lot during that time) and your comfort/skill level in getting the cup out without the stem. Personally, I've had great success, even when the cup's up higher, in bearing down to bring the cup lower, then gently loosening the suction and gradually pulling it out.