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20 March 2014 @ 09:32 am
I tried looking in the tags section, but wasn't really sure which one to look at...Searched anything related to stems, but nothing.

So just a quick question: how far down should the stem sit? below or above my Pelvic floor muscles? I have a Meluna Classic in Small and Medium. When I have it inserted the cup tilts to the right (stem sits on right side) above my PC muscles, but I feel like I'm constantly digging inside during removable. Does any one have a cup that has the stem close to PC muscles, or below? Would it be uncomfortable? Since the Fleur is on sale..and the large looks pretty long with the stem, I was thinking of getting one.
Is there an chart like the one on sizecharts that have comparisons of length that includes the stem?

(not-so-quick question)

Thanks in advance for always being infinitely helpful.
missmojorisin71missmojorisin71 on March 20th, 2014 01:11 am (UTC)
I think it depends for each individual where the stem hits. I know that when I had a Divacup the stem irritated me sitting below the PC muscles, because the cup in general didn't fit me very well. Now I have SckoonCup both sizes. The smaller sized SckoonCup is the one I use when my cervix is a little higher up. The stem barely sits below my PC muscles, but I cannot feel at all. For some reason SckoonCup size 1 just fits me more comfortably then the size 2 when my cervix is higher. SckoonCup is known for having a comfortable stem. If you feel you need the stem, try to find a cup that is known for having a comfy one!
megankgrmegankgr on March 20th, 2014 02:13 am (UTC)
For me personally, if the stem is irritating me then I know I need to readjust (my cup will leak at this position). When my cup is correctly positioned it's comfortable - the stem is about an inch from my entrance at this point. This is entirely subjective though. Some people don't even need the stem for removal (I am unfortunately not one of those people but I also have an iud so I'm overly cautious with removal). It really all depends on what you're comfortable with - it should be high enough that it's not irritating but low enough that you feel confident with removal. As long as your comfortable and not leaking it's all good
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 20th, 2014 03:14 am (UTC)
Yes, there are charts that include the stem at the Community FAQ. Pictures too.
Luceafaraluceafara on March 20th, 2014 06:01 am (UTC)
Since I have a low cervix, I cut all of mine off. If you do need a stem, which seems to be the case, I just wanted to point out the Si-bell and Natu cups to you, which are unfortunately twice the price. They have the softest, slimmest stems of all the cups - absolutely no poking, and easy to shorten and still keep comfortable, because the stems look like little balls on a thin thread.

I absolutely love my Fleurcups, but the stems are definitely sturdier.

Ashatenlegspider on March 22nd, 2014 12:59 pm (UTC)
People have said that the Lunette's flat stem was less irritating than a hollow stem, though it sounds like it wouldn't be as flexible as the ones you mentioned.
Luceafaraluceafara on March 22nd, 2014 03:54 pm (UTC)
I noticed that as well. Hollow stems don't have as much give, plus are an additional thing you have to clean. For instance, the hollow Eco-cup/Lybera and Rubycup stems are noticeably more rigid than the flat Fleurcup and Mamicup stems, but the softest are the Si-bell/Natu. The Sckoon stems are somewhere in-between.. a bit more rigid, but making the end pointy was a weird design decision, as it can poke you.