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18 March 2014 @ 10:02 pm
For the second time, my menstrual cup has drifted upwards, and I cannot get it out. I can feel it, but I can't get a grip on it to pull it out. The last time this happened, it was even further up, and I went to the gynecologist and had it removed. I could barely feel it that time. Because it's further down this time, I really feel I should be able to get it, but I can't. I have read tips from other posts on this site. I am relaxing. I took a hot shower. I squat in the shower, I bear down, it doesn't move at all. I cut the stem off because it was irritating me, which of course makes this more difficult. I'm probably going to end up going to the doctor tomorrow, and may give up on the cup all together - though I love it apart front this one issue. I figured it was worth reaching out to see if anyone had any advice. Any help you can offer is much appreciated!!

Oh, and in case this matters, I am 23, never been pregnant, and I have the size b (smaller) mooncup.
Luceafaraluceafara on March 19th, 2014 02:46 am (UTC)
Don't give up on cups! Get one that is better suited for your physique!!

OK, try this: take a book to the bathroom with you and do some reading on the toilet. It sounds stupid, but this should relax you enough that you should be able to reach the cup while sitting on the toilet after a while. Hopefully. The trick is really to relax relax relax, and bear down on it.
At least, it SHOULD work. I hope. Make sure you don't read anything racy though, as being turned on makes my cervix go way up.
fluffmyflamingofluffmyflamingo on March 19th, 2014 07:35 am (UTC)
I second this, you evidently have a high cervix. I originally used a Mooncup UK and had this problem numerous times. I thoroughly recommend my cup of choice, a si-bell. I use mine with the stem completely untrimmed, even if the stem protrudes when you first insert it, the stem is that flexible and soft it causes no discomfort and when it comes to removal the ball on the end really helps! But whichever cup you choose to go for, definitely don't give up on the idea of cups based on your experiences with one - I had to try a few before I discovered my 'goldilocks' cup!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 19th, 2014 03:16 am (UTC)
Sometimes a spoon is a good tool to break the seal to work it out.

Edited to add: It sounds like you need a longer bodied cup. Compare your Mooncup to others at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ or any of the other size charts at the Community FAQ and try again with something longer.

Edited at 2014-03-19 03:18 am (UTC)
90subaru on March 19th, 2014 03:24 am (UTC)
As mentioned I have also heard that a spoon can be handy. Or even a small crochet hook that you can hook onto the rim with. And I have also heard that cups can come down some if allowed to become full. Let us know if you get it worked out. I'm about to become a new cup user and always look for follow ups
faranth22faranth22 on March 19th, 2014 03:45 am (UTC)
The key is to relax. You are doing everything I would suggest (squatting, bearing down, etc). You are probably just anxious because you ended up in the doctor's office last time and that is cauing you to become tense and frustrated. Take a break, and only attempt removal once you are relaxed. The good news is that your cup is not going anywhere and there is no harm in letting it stay there until you are ready for removal. The worst thing that could happen is that it may overflow, in which case yo can wear a pad. Also, as another commenter said a fuller cup can migrate down. It sounds like you know what you are doing. Good luck!
sofia_airodebas on March 19th, 2014 04:06 am (UTC)
I hope you're having your period now cause I've also noticed that a full cup will slide down more easily when I bear down.
elisamba on March 22nd, 2014 03:32 pm (UTC)
A longer cup (not just stem) will really simplify things since you can reach the base faster to release the suction. A small cup and long stem could just make for more intense suction. Don't be afraid to branch into a larger soft cup despite the "over 30" instructions on the package. I would recommend a small Diva or small Gaia for you, maybe even a Lily (but I have no personal experience with that brand).

Also, the Mooncup is a bell-shaped cup, not the best ones to cut the stem completely off, I believe - for that, the slightly conical cups are better IMO.