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17 March 2014 @ 10:10 am
Hey guys. I've been lurking here on and off for quite a while (almost a year, I think!). I got a Skooncup (small) a while ago and this month I had the time and privacy to give it a try. Insertion was easy, removal was not. Details behind the cut because I am generally excessively verbose (sorry).

Background/cycle info: I'm a 26 year old virgin. I tried tampons 12-ish years ago and found them very drying. I gave up because they just weren't comfortable. My period is really light so I was always removing the tampon before it was full (a regular... I didn't know about/have access to light tampons), and it just felt bad. Nowadays I use Always Infinity pads. I usually only need 3 pads per day except for the first day or so when I might need 4. I go overnight easily, mostly because I sleep on my side. Morning flood can be an issue.

I am a virgin. I have a little experience inserting *ahem* things... but to say I have to be relaxed is an understatement. I need a lot of lube and nothing very thick... say, 2 fingers at most, and I *really* have to work up to it.

Okay, background finished.

Insertion was okay. I used a 7 fold. The little bit of lubrication made a difference (I failed a dry run a while ago, but was not surprised about that either). No issues getting the cup to pop. It quickly moved up and was quite comfortable, I couldn't feel it at all. I had some (mild) cramping, which is unusual for me.

I went to change it about 4 hours after insertion. First I had trouble getting hold of the stem. I tried inserting a finger to release the suction and try to pull down from the rim... no dice. That just pushed it further up. It took a *lot* of bearing down to get the stem far enough out that I could hold it with thumb and finger. Even after I had hold of it, the stem is so stretchy I lost it a couple of times, a couple other times I snapped myself with it.

I had to keep bearing down, hard, to be able to pull it out enough to pinch and pull on the bottom, and then I could  release the suction. If I stopped bearing down at all, the cup would slip back up and undo the progress. I couldn't get the cup far enough down from sitting on the toilet, squatting or standing with one leg up. I ended up sitting on the floor leaned back, legs bent and spread, feet on the floor. I only used the stem very briefly when I could reach and *almost* reach the bell of the cup anyway. Otherwise it just stretched, frustrated me (so I'd tense up, stop bearing down) and frequently slipped from my fingers and snapped back (ow).

After I was able to get a firm hold on the bottom, removal was easy and painless - I got the rocking motion to get the rim out and I didn't have issues with spill or snapping or anything. At that point, however, I felt so dry inside that the last thing I wanted to do was put anything in, including the cup.

tldr; the stem was really stretchy and almost useless until I could *almost* reach the bell of the cup. I had to bear down hard, for a long time, from a partly-reclined position to get the bottom of the cup enough to release the suction. After removal I was really dry inside and knew that reinserting the cup would hurt.

Suggestions? Tips?

- I seem to have a long vagina, I can't touch my cervix (I'm also heavy, so could it be that there is too much flesh externally to allow my fingers to get deep enough?). What am I missing when it comes to reaching the cup to pull it out?

- I noticed when I removed the cup that the holes all had stuff in them. Is that normal? I don't know if they were blocked per se, though i suppose they could be blocked "enough". What are the good ways to open those up?

- How do I deal with reinserting when I am, at that point, really dry? I don't really want to have to carry around lube (water doesn't seem to work).

Thanks guys, sorry for my verbosity.
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 17th, 2014 02:22 pm (UTC)
The small Sckoon is a very short cup. Do your best to get through the dreaded learning curve with it and then use what you know, like and don't about it to pick out a longer one down the line. On the other hand, don't rush into another cup purchase until you have a better idea of what you want in your next cup. Compare your Sckoon to other brands at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ and then use other features such as capacity, shape, etc to pick one that might fit/suit you better.
Luceafaraluceafara on March 17th, 2014 04:25 pm (UTC)
Sounds like you need a longer cup with a longer stem.
To clean the holes, I fill mine with water, then push them against my palm. That forces water through the holes.
As to the lube question, while away from home, you can try to use spit on the cup and on yourself, and, if this does not work, fill a small travel sized container with lube or coconut oil.

It's absolutely normal that the cup goes back up as soon as you stop bearing down, and that you are not relaxed in the beginning, but how awesome was not wearing a pad?! :)
Hang on in there and don't give up. The more often you wear your cup, the more you will be able to relax.

Edited at 2014-03-17 04:26 pm (UTC)
Galaxystar_wizard on March 18th, 2014 04:09 am (UTC)
The not wearing a pad was amazing! Even ultra-thin pads feel like diapers. This was so comfortable, even compared to a tampon (I could always feel those).

I'm going to try to open up the holes a bit on my cup, and then see how things go for a few months as I get the hang of things. I'm so not ready to give up on this - I would love to never wear a pad again! Thanks for the support/encouragement guys :)
missmojorisin71missmojorisin71 on March 17th, 2014 09:43 pm (UTC)
Don't give up! I experienced this at first too. I use both sizes of the SckoonCup. I have 2 days where my period is super heavy and the larger SckoonCup works better those days for me personally. The smaller SckoonCup traveled up higher as my cervix is higher on my lighter days towards the end of my period. I am very relaxed when I need to find the stem and bearing down allows me to pinch the bottom for removal.

I am heavy, but active, so I have found some great ballet/yoga positions to use when my SckoonCup travels up there! I hold onto my towel bar and do a ballet plie, you can google this for an image. There are many different kinds of plie's. I breathe in through my nose deeply, hold for a count of 4, and breathe out through my mouth, it's at this time I bear down and pinch!

Hope this helps out a little.
Ellenauditioning on June 8th, 2014 02:48 am (UTC)
long vagina is not because you are heavy!
I know this reply is really late, but I just wanted to assure you that your BMI has nothing to do with not being able to reach your cervix. Like me, you naturally have a long vagina. I consider myself a fit woman, and have never been able to reach it. I have really wanted to, and am familiar with anatomy, having studied to be a certified doula and having given birth. It's frustrating because I would love to see if it feels like nose cartilage as they say!!

If you want to learn more about your cervix/vagina/your body, I encourage you to check out this website and maybe order a speculum kit so you can check your own bad ass self out: http://www.beautifulcervix.com/

btw, just got a Diva cup 2 days ago and it's working pretty well. I'm working out the newbie kinks. It felt like I was birthing an egg all day until I realized it needed to be inserted deeper.