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Hello - first off thanks for all of the helpful comments! I am really amazed at how nice & helpful everyone on here is, esp. when discussing one of the most personal places and moments in the month!

Background: saw an interesting post, got period, went to Wholefoods one option avail = Diva Cup, bought it
Me: 35, non virgin, no kids, heavy flow

I spent 3 days in my home trying to get this down & I am super frustrated. I do not want to use tampons but crikey this seems overly complicated!

I have read the comments re: ignoring the twist (good bc mine doesn't want to twist once inside), I have checked that it's open and I have gotten that down but I leak! Boy am I leaking - but its also catching some which is perplexing - how can it get some but still leak?? I don't think this is that the sides or vagjayjay was drippy inside - this is an all out hose down. I forced myself to go to work the 4th day but gave up halfway through & just took it out - and I cant tell (like with a tampon) if its leaking or I am just paranoid - in this case it's a little of both. It seems to work overnight - maybe because I am lying down. I am forcing myself to wear it and not give up buuutttt: sitting down = leak, standing = leak, sitting here typing this = leak (maybe- this might just be paranoia) and now I am frustrated & feeling like I don't know how to use my MC or vag correctly!

I have tried: twisting (which I thought something was wrong because I cannot twist it 360, ever) just tried several folds, clearing holes, using finger to ensure it's open without indentations, bearing down while inserting, using muscles to grab & pull up, etc. and yet still I am leaking. Tried reinserting (nearly all morning at work and every evening when I get home I put it back in in the shower leak several times (reinsert each time) then go to bed (no problems overnight - SO weird - then reinsert in the am and leak before I am even done applying makeup!

For full disclosure even though I am 35 I never attempted a cervix hunt - I think I have found it but no totally sure if I hit the "nose"... sometimes it has felt like the pulley is too long (probably incorrectly inserted as I have tried not going too far up, way far up, aiming in different directions, etc. but I don't mind the size/length of the diva cup (occasionally feel a slight cramping but that was experienced with tampons so thinking vag just doesn't like this time overall - me either) only that it keeps freaking leaking! I know there's a "learning curve" but omgosh!
PS I would prefer to figure this out with this one cup before buying a bunch of different ones, these aren't that cheap and so wish the post I read had listed a link to this forum!! Anyway, anyone with helpful advice or info - -> Please help!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 12th, 2014 05:50 pm (UTC)
Tee hee, welcome to the learning curve. ;oP When you go to remove it, is it way the heck up there? Down really low? Or "just right?" If it's down really low, try flipping it inside out to shorten it and see if it fits you better that way. If so, it's perfectly OK to wear it that way if it works better for you.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 12th, 2014 08:24 pm (UTC)
And for many of us, our cervix is closer to our belly button than our tail bone. Have you tried aiming the opening in that direction? You want to wind up (O) around it, not next to it.
Luceafaraluceafara on March 13th, 2014 03:15 am (UTC)
Sorry you are having such a hard time!! Some people here found that they need to point their cup to the right or to the left, in order for it to work.
Also, does the cup start leaking instantly, or only after a while. Could be that your cervix takes up space in the cup and makes it overflow, though neither of these reasons would explain why the cup seals while you sleep.
Hmmmm. Wish I could be of more help :s

Hang on in there, don't give up!
megankgrmegankgr on March 14th, 2014 07:29 pm (UTC)
I had a very similar learning curve! What I found to be my problem (or what I assume was my problem based on how I corrected it) is that my cervix likes to move around a whole lot during my period. Some days it's more left, some days it's more right, and some days it's dead center. What I do now is check my cervix position each time before I insert my cup and aim it towards there. I was leaking a lot before I figured this out and now it's smooth sailing! Also make sure to feel around the rim of the cup (if you can) to make sure your cervix is in it and not next to it. Good luck!