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04 March 2014 @ 06:55 pm
After inserting my cup I can't manage to get a finger up to the top of the cup to check for suction.The first time I got my cup in it didn't open. The second time it did, but I couldn't check for suction and I bled a bit when taking it out. I did use lubricant.

Am I just not meant for menstrual cups? I really don't want to give up, but I don't want to leak either.

I'm 16 and a virgin if that helps at all. Any tips are greatly appreciated.


I've made it through my first cycle with RuMPs! I didn't leak at all on my first or third day with my cup, and I only had a tiny bit of leakage on my second day. My period was significantly shorter than usual this cycle (whether it's do to RuMPs or just cause I don't know). I definitely am a convert to cups! I want to start doing reviews and stuff on youtube and tumblr!
Luceafaraluceafara on March 5th, 2014 12:04 am (UTC)
Which cup do you have? There are some that work well for people with a high cervix; I am assuming you could not check the rim of the cup because you coudln't reach that high?

nerdswithswordsnerdswithswords on March 5th, 2014 12:11 am (UTC)
I use a small meluna classic, and I couldn't check the rim because it's very hard to fit my finger in with my cup because of how tight it is.
trejoytrejoy on March 5th, 2014 12:43 am (UTC)
Suction is not as important as having an idea of your cervix position. Have you checked out the tag on virginity? The learning curve takes a couple of cycles, so breathing slowly and deeply as well as being patient with the process will help a lot!
nerdswithswordsnerdswithswords on March 5th, 2014 01:59 am (UTC)
I've tried to find my cervix but I haven't had much success so I'm assumed it was high, but when I put it in it sit very low and is difficult to push it higher. I have been perusing the virgin tags for tips and tricks. Hopefully this is just the learning curve.
bklynmom on March 5th, 2014 01:08 am (UTC)
Are these dry runs? I noticed the tag. If so, it gets easier when you're bleeding. There's more natural lube and it's easier to see if it's in the right place and open - you'll leak if it's not.

Not everyone runs their finger around the cervix. I admit I do, but you can also learn to feel it open (with a kind of pop).

Don't give up, just keep trying. Use a backup pad . If you're really not sure it's open, try using it only when you're home and it's not such a big deal to readjust. You'll get the hang of it and be using it all the time before you know it!
megankgrmegankgr on March 5th, 2014 01:22 am (UTC)
I just wanted to add to the above suggestions, make sure you're relaxing your pelvic muscles! Keep your jaw slack and possibly practice contracting these muscles so you can get a better idea on how to control them. It might take some practice, but I've found that it makes a major difference in being able to get up in there and make whatever adjustments you need to make
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 5th, 2014 02:21 am (UTC)
Read this about suction: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2091967.html

Insert your cup so the rim is just beyond your pubic bone. Allow it to open fully there. Take your time, don't rush this step. Then, when you know it's fully open, give the cup a boost as you kegel it up and into place. Despite what the instructions say and illustrations show, you want the cup to sit (O) around your cervix. No, there will not be a cup length or more between the rim and your cervix. Why, oh why do they ALL draw it like that??? :o/

If you can't get it to open, try a different fold and/or try turning it around so the folded part faces the other way. Up instead of down, left instead of right, etc. Sometimes that makes all the difference in the world.

There is a learning curve and it's wise to wear a liner or pad as a back-up against leakage until you get the hang of it and learn to trust your cup. It takes a few cycles.

Hang in there, you've almost got it. :o)
jchammondsjchammonds on March 5th, 2014 04:23 pm (UTC)
I used cups for two and a half years, and I've never been able to reach the rim when they are inserted.

Cups are so easy and convenient once you really get the hang of them - don't give up!
britbritandmebritbritandme on March 6th, 2014 01:04 am (UTC)
When I was a virgin and tried using a cup, it was a nightmare! But I realize now it's because I would tense up when i couldn't get it to let go, the suction was so strong.

Any kind of nervousness, anxiety, or tension will make the process difficult! I really had to first practice relaxing those pelvic muscles through deep breathing exercises. This seriously makes a HUGE difference.

I also noticed the "dry run" tag in your post. When I'm not on my period I cannot find my cervix. The cervix tends to sit a little lower than normal during menstruation. I would check for your cervix a couple of different days during your period and compare the difference about 7 days after the last day of your period. You might see quite a difference!

Don't give up!
nerdswithswordsnerdswithswords on March 6th, 2014 02:34 am (UTC)
Thanks, and I'm actually quite good at relaxing my muscles. Hopefully I'll be able to find my cervix when my cycle comes up. I just really worry about not being able to check for suction.
m03m on March 6th, 2014 11:39 am (UTC)
I've been using cups for years and I don't check for suction, ever. I wouldn't even know how. It's not something that needs to be done: when your cup is open, and below or around your cervix, that's all you need to know. And you'll know because it will catch your flow.

This is one thing you can stop worrying about. Good luck!