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04 March 2014 @ 11:07 am
Hi everyone,
25 yo female, never given birth. I've been lurking around here forever. I finally decided to jump into the menstrual cup world following my decision to discontinue hormonal birth control. My periods without HBC are much heavier, and tampons are a nuisance.

I bought a Diva Cup in Size 1 yesterday. I'm currently having my period. My first insertion and removal yesterday were not too difficult. I didn't have any leaking other than what I assume was a bit of residual blood when I wiped after peeing.

This morning, not so great. I tried to remove it while squatting in the tub, but every time I reached for it, it felt like I pushed it further up there. I could barely reach the stem, let alone the base. The cup's stem was basically blocked by my pubic bone, making it very difficult to get at. After a few tries and a few breaks to calm myself down, I finally got it out. I'm having the same issues trying to remove it a few minutes ago, and decided to step away from it for a few hours.

I really don't want to give up on this, because I love everything about it besides the removal process. Is my cervix just super high? Will removal get easier over time? Is my vagina just a weird shape? I really don't want to have to send my SO up there after it with pliers...
super top secret7deadlysins on March 4th, 2014 04:33 pm (UTC)
maybe you just need a different shape/size? you can still use the "large" size if you've never given birth, and if you have a high cervix the little extra length might help? also, the diva cup is kind of pointy, maybe more of a bell-shaped cup like the sckoon or fleurcup would work better for you? then again, maybe not, if you're having trouble reaching the bottom of it... could it be that you just accidentally trimmed the stem too short on the diva cup? it's my understanding that the cup will "travel" upwards to sit around your cervix, no matter where you initially place it.

i had problems with insertion and removal with my first cup (mooncup) as well, switching to a different brand helped a lot for me. :) you probably just need to find one that works a little better with your body shape!

hopefully somebody else here who's more knowledgeable can chime in as well :)

Edited at 2014-03-04 04:34 pm (UTC)
elisamba on March 4th, 2014 05:26 pm (UTC)
Try inserting your thumb first to hook the cup off your pubic bone. Push back towards the bowel. Then bear down and pinch the base to remove suction, and fold the cup into a C for removal. Green cycle pads on YT just put up a good cup removal vid. A little early to switch cups, you're still learning:) Since your cup moves up, the Diva is a good length (one of the longest cups). It does get easier.

Edited at 2014-03-04 07:19 pm (UTC)
Megan: EhhSqrlhdsqrl on March 4th, 2014 10:04 pm (UTC)
I can't remove mine at all in the shower, but it's easy to remove while sitting fully relaxed on the toilet. Maybe try that? :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 5th, 2014 01:41 pm (UTC)
Well, the good news is that the Diva is one of the longest cups and you seem to need the length. Could you imagine trying to reach a shorter one? =8oO

I second the advice to remove while sitting on the toilet instead of in the shower. Drop your panties to your ankles so you can splay your knees comfortably, bear down, keep your jaw slack and don't forget to breathe. Try creating an air channel on the soft back side of your vag to get air into/above the cup.

"Too tight" usually means you're clenching your pelvic floor (PC) muscles. Insert your finger and give it a little squeeze. Now that you know how to contract them on command, practice relaxing them on command. You'll need to do that for insertion and especially removal.

Next time it's out, try enlarging the tiny little anti-suction holes around the rim. They help with popping open and also with removal. The holes on the cup with the largest holes are 2mm. Something like a piercing punch might make a less ragged hole than scissors or a drill bit.
britbritandmebritbritandme on March 6th, 2014 01:15 am (UTC)
I completely agree with kuradi8. Another cup that's shorter could really get lost by traveling up too high! I've had this happen towards the end of my period. My SckoonCup has a long enough stem that doesn't bother me and I can grab that and bear down for a comfortable release. SckoonCup is a shaped more like a bell, so I like how it sits inside of me.

However, there was one time I was trying to grab the stem as it was sitting behind that pelvic bone, and I had stop to go cut my nails because I was aggravating my vaginal walls. Ouch! I haven't had that happen again, but our bodies sometimes like to challenge us a little!
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on March 7th, 2014 05:59 pm (UTC)
If you need something super long (after trying the above posters' techniques to remove the Diva) I'd recommend the Lily--it's also super soft and comes in pretty shades of pink! Now that my cervix has decided to hang a little lower and dangle at certain points during my period it's almost too long for me sometimes (never imagined that would happen) but it may be your Goldilocks :)