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24 February 2014 @ 01:10 pm
First off, this community is great!

I started my period young, at about 9. Maybe even younger. But I hid it for quite some time because while I knew that periods happened my mother never informed me about them. I'm almost 21 now. Had my first gyno appointment at 18 because I had gone 5 months without a period. Everything checked out normally and a started a few days later. I had tried tampons before but didn't really understand how to use them but finally tried again and figured it out a couple years ago. At around 16 I was part of a natural dog care community and a human health topic arose in which menstrual cups came up. I was interested but didn't really look into it. Here I am now, tired of messy leaks and monthly inconveniences and I really would like to find a cup for me.

I have looked around a lot but still am not sure what to get. I was looking at diva cup and gladrags mooncup for the simple fact that I can get either for under $25 with free shipping. I don't have much money and I cannot afford trial and error.

I have tried to find my cervix several times but I don't think I was able to. I am short and heavyset with a long torso so cannot reach too well but got my middle finger about 1/2 the way up and couldn't feel this "nose tip" that people describe. I am 5' 3" and a virgin. My flow varies but tends to be heavy. Sometimes soaking a regular tampon in 2 hours.

Any suggestions?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 24th, 2014 06:33 pm (UTC)
There are some guidelines and size charts at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ There are more size charts at the Community FAQ. And there are many links to side by side photos to compare shapes.

Don't let price be a determining factor. It's not a bargain if it doesn't fit/suit you. Get what you think will be best for YOU no matter what the cost. You'll probably have it for 5-10 years so it will pay for itself many times over.
90subaru on February 24th, 2014 07:10 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't mind the idea of spending more if I was more sure that it would actually fit. I have looked at different size charts but I'm just not sure how much help they actually are since I am unsure of how high my cervix actually is
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 24th, 2014 08:27 pm (UTC)
Well, we have no way of knowing either. External dimensions don't necessarily indicate internal dimensions. If you're not sure, aim for something in the Medium length range. And go with your gut as to width. If you're comfortable with idea/act of insertion when it comes to tampons then you don't have to fear a wide rim width to get a cup with high capacity.

Cups with a wide flared rim like the Femmecup, and the US and UK Moon cups can be a little trickier to remove so think twice about those shapes -- but you'll probably want a cup with higher capacity anyway so they're probably already on your "No" list.

Another option is a knock-off cup from ebay. They're cheap enough to get one of each size so you can mix and match as needed. Get two different colors so you can tell which is which at a glance.
90subaru on February 24th, 2014 08:42 pm (UTC)
I totally missed this reply. Are there any knockoffs that should be avoided? I have read about concerns of what they are made of. So wasn't sure if any were considered no-nos.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 24th, 2014 08:47 pm (UTC)
Just because someone else doesn't trust them doesn't mean you should too. Personally, I think we put far more (quote-unquote) "dangerous" things into our bodies every day and don't think twice about them.

Decide for yourself. :o)
oopsiej on February 24th, 2014 07:52 pm (UTC)
At what time of the month have you inserted your fingers to check for your cervix? The position of your cervix changes all the time throughout your cycle. One day it might be high, one day it might be lower than the day before. It's important that you check the position of your cervix when you're actually having your period, the rest of the time is really not relevant when the cup is meant to be used when you're on your period :)

If you're having your period and you're reaching up as far as you possibly can with your middle finger and STILL cannot feel your cervix, your cervix is high up! I am 5 feet tall so I am considerably shorter than you (so my fingers are probably shorter than yours, at max they're as long as yours because I don't have long, slender fingers for my height) and I have no problem reaching my cervix while I'm on my period. What that means is that my cervix is low because my fingers are very, very short and since I'm not struggling... Yeah, you get the picture. Average tall women have short cervixes while they're on their period as well if they can reach it without struggling. I'm not sure how you'd define a medium cervix though, lol. Either you reach it or you don't, and from what I can gather here most people say your cervix is low if you can reach it and high if you can't. Correct me if I'm wrong ladies, I'm a newbie here.
90subaru on February 24th, 2014 08:06 pm (UTC)
Yep. I have tried checking both before and during my period.. I mean unless I missed it. But it feels like I could reach a lot further if my fingers were longer.. Not like I was at the end of a tunnel.. And everything was soft and squishy feeling. Nothing like a nose tip
oopsiej on February 24th, 2014 09:11 pm (UTC)
There's not a way that you can miss it if it's down low enough for you to reach. It should feel like a nub, something that distinctly "pushes" out from the vaginal "lid" wall (lid wall to me: the wall highest up, the one that has your uterus behind it). If you can't feel it, your cervix is definitely high up! :)
missmojorisin71missmojorisin71 on February 25th, 2014 12:49 am (UTC)
I have a traveling cervix, as in 2 days of my period it's very low. However, towards the end of my period my cervix is hiding high up there! I was worried about this issue, too. I had tried the Diva cup before and it was too long and the shape wasn't the best when my cervix is sitting low. But for some people, they love their Diva cup. It's about getting to know your anatomy.

I agree that you might not want to buy the so-called "cheapest" cup as it might end up costing you more in the end. Unfortunately menstrual cup sizing isn't perfect, in fact, your anatomy will change throughout your life. Cups can be life changing, but they are not necessarily perfect!

I was very lucky to purchase the SckoonCup and both sizes work for me at different times of my period. The SckoonCup is an advanced designed cup, meaning that many people with different anatomy and sizes can benefit from the design. The small (size 1) SckoonCup might work for you. Luckily, it has a pretty long, but super soft stem that I can grab when my cervix is way up there and the cup can definitely travel "up" if your cervix is high.

I am not one of the people that have tried numerous cups, just a couple a different brands. I have stopped looking because I love my cups and see no need to purchase a different kind right now. Here's another option, I've heard of a few "book club" type of groups where friends (after proper sanitation) do a trade of their cups within a small group (3-6 people). Everyone purchases a different cup, so then you don't all have to buy a bunch of cups and try to sell the one's that don't work!

Best of luck to you!

Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 25th, 2014 02:04 pm (UTC)
You mean mc_sales? There's a link to that sister site at the top of the page. ;o)
missmojorisin71missmojorisin71 on February 25th, 2014 05:53 pm (UTC)
I wasn't referring to the mc_sales, but that's also a great place to buy and sell! I was actually talking about real groups of friends who see one another on a regular basis swapping cups and stories about their experiences.

Not all people will benefit from reading others' experiences because they might by kinesthetic (tactile) learners, which means they might learn by doing and physically talking with others in person and holding and testing different cups in their hands all at once. That's why I've heard of groups of friends doing this and meeting once a month to swap!
Luceafaraluceafara on February 25th, 2014 02:30 am (UTC)
I have a low cervix. Even though I own a bunch of cups, out of all of mine, the Si-bell or Natu would probably be the only ones that would be a good fit for a high cervix as well. Not sure about the Fleurcup. They are great cups, if they fit you.

You could try to gently insert a tampon applicator and see how far in it goes, then measure that out, to make sure whatever cup you choose can be reached, and won't stick out.
90subaru on February 25th, 2014 02:44 am (UTC)
Thanks for all the tips. When I insert a tampon the applicator can go in all the way. I suppose I should see how long they actually are
90subaru on February 25th, 2014 03:02 am (UTC)
3"-76mm So long canal for sure I guess
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 25th, 2014 12:06 pm (UTC)
not really, given that a cup can be too long without actually sticking out. this sounds quite average to me really.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 25th, 2014 12:05 pm (UTC)
actually it's better to use a "low cervix cup" with a high one than the opposite. apart from the really tiny ones like the small ladycup or meluna, high cervix folks can use relatively short cups with a good total length, such as either size of the lunette or fleurcup or for example cup lee.

basically if you want to get it right first try, avoid the "specialized" cups like the diva, mooncup, femmycycle etc.
90subaru on February 25th, 2014 04:37 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the tip. It looks like a foreign manufacturer is going to actually send me free samples. Looking forward to trying it out! Hopefully I'll have them by this time next month
teacupcake89 on February 25th, 2014 08:19 pm (UTC)
what foreign manufacturer? a new brand?
faranth22faranth22 on February 25th, 2014 07:16 pm (UTC)
I just thought I'd chime in and mention that many people find their cervix tends to point L or R, often to the L and you might want to try looking around, not just straight "up", if you will.

Also, I agree with serpent_849 above. If you cannot afford trial & error, it would be better to have a high cervix & shorter cup than vis versa. You can make I shorter cup and high cervix work, but if your cup is too long than can be a problem.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 26th, 2014 07:46 pm (UTC)
Gonna disagree, unless the OP wants to spend 3 hours trying to remove a Meluna Classic like I did. I'd highly recommend the Si-Bell becauase if the stem is excessively long, it can be cut readily, but a too-short cup cannot be made long enough...
super top secret7deadlysins on February 26th, 2014 11:41 pm (UTC)
I know my cup is in properly when it points slightly to the right, haha. It weirded me out the first couple times and I kept trying to push it back to center, but nope, that's just how my cervix is!
90subaru on February 26th, 2014 03:39 am (UTC)
I will try "looking around" better to see if my cervix is positioned differently.
As far as samples go I think it is iCare. I had signed up on alibaba.com looking to source pet products before.. I posted a quote and sample request on there for menstrual cups in all countries and got a reply offering free samples.
teacupcake89 on February 26th, 2014 09:48 am (UTC)
you might be interested in reading this post about icare: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/3113301.html

It's essentially a Chinese knock off brand, so there's no guarantee it's made from silicone or medical grade silicone despite what their page might say. it might be too long for you/not hold enough depending, but at least you didn't pay for it!
super top secret7deadlysins on February 26th, 2014 11:40 pm (UTC)
I've got a Gladrags Mooncup size B, the smaller one, that I don't use anymore (it just wasn't the right fit for me and I ended up getting a different brand). If you're in the US, I can mail it to you for free so you can try it. :) I'll wash it and boil it before I send it out, of course.