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23 February 2014 @ 11:45 pm
Hi! I'm trying to figure out which menstrual cup would be best for me to buy, I have never used a menstrual cup before but I've read a ton about it so I feel quite confident as to what I should expect, more or less. I don't have a heavy flow and I have never given birth so I know I need a small one (there's exceptions to this rule but I'm quite tight downstairs). I would like to have the most comfortable cup possible for my particular body and I'm not sure if a firm one would be comfortable.

I want to be able to sleep with the cup in, play sports, chill... Anything. To my understanding, the softest cups are the most comfortable generally? There's a slimmer chance that you can feel it while wearing it. So far I've narrowed it down to the small Fleurcup and the small Si-bell cup. I'm really confused, I've read some saying that there's only a slight difference between the two in firmness but some have said that the Fleurcup is actually quite springy/hard? I don't really know what's up. Could you fill me in about this? Thanks :)

And oh, I've checked and my cervix is placed quite low when I'm on my period. My fingers are super-short (reference: I'm only 5 feet tall, that should give you a picture, between average female adult size and kid size hands) and I have no trouble at all reaching it so any tall cups are out of the question.
Luceafaraluceafara on February 23rd, 2014 11:37 pm (UTC)
Those are two of my favorite cups!! The S Si-bell is one of the softest cups I know of (the old style Natu, which is still being sold in many places, is exactly the same shape/look/size, but just a tiiiiiny bit softer even, not sure about the new Natu), and the S Fleurcup is also pretty soft, but as you said, also springy. I think it has to do with the way it is designed, but it is as soft as my soft Melunas. It's just that the Si-bell/ Natu are crazy soft.

I never feel either one of them when I wear them.

What kind of sports do you play?
In general, I prefer to wear my firmer cups when I go running, but that could be just me. I'd be really interested to hear how others who have more than one cup pick between firmnesses before they engage in sports.

They are both wonderful cups, really. Another cup I just discoverd which is the same shape but is in firmness between the Fleur and the Si-bell is the Italian S Mamicup.

Edited at 2014-02-23 11:45 pm (UTC)
oopsiej on February 23rd, 2014 11:53 pm (UTC)
I don't do sports anymore regularly (I used to play soccer and I might pick it up one day, just quit playing because I live in a small town and there's only one team to choose from and I really don't feel like I fit in with the team) but in spring and in the summer I usually go out and play soccer with my boyfriend :) We run around a bit, take turns being the goalie... So there's a bit of running but no sprinting. I wanna be able to go out for a jog though with the cup, not that I am an avid runner but I don't ever want to feel restricted should I decide to go for a run one day.

I've read a bit about people complaining that their cup makes them feel like they need to pee a lot or they are in pain because of it simultaneously. I really want to avoid that... Primarily, I want a cup just for relaxing because I'm not a person who exercises rigorously often (I often hoop for exercise), should I experience any leaking during a run someday after I've got the hang of using the menstrual cup... I think I'd just buy another one then for that purpose :)

Would you say that the Si-bell is trustworthy for a day-to-day basis though? No exercise involved? I really want a cup I can sleep in :)

Edited at 2014-02-23 11:56 pm (UTC)
Luceafaraluceafara on February 24th, 2014 12:16 am (UTC)
For me, they are both trustworthy in a day to day situation. Hopefully others will comment as well, because my experience may differ from others'. I read about one user saying that the Si-bell will leak a bit when it overfills. My cups never get full, because I don't bleed a lot, and I only switch mine out once a day in the shower, so it's not something I would be able to confirm.

If you experience any type of stress incontinence when you sneeze, trampoline jump, run, etc., I'd say go with the Fleurcup. It eliminates that problem as well. Otherwise they will all fit your bill. I can absolutely not feel them inside.
Some people reported discomfort from the grips at the bottom of the Fleur, but a nailfile will easily get rid of them - you can't really go wrong with any of those, I think.
oopsiej on February 24th, 2014 12:18 am (UTC)
Thanks! I think I'll go with the Si-bell cup because it seems like it is less likely to hurt and I can always "upgrade" to a stiffer one, should I experience any issues with it :) Thanks for your help!
Luceafaraluceafara on February 24th, 2014 12:06 am (UTC)
Here's a pic; top to bottom: Si-bell, Mami, Fleur

oopsiej on February 24th, 2014 12:12 am (UTC)
Great picture! :) Have you found that you can sleep with the Si-bell cup? No leakage?
Luceafaraluceafara on February 24th, 2014 12:17 am (UTC)
I can sleep with any of them: zero leakage whatsoever in my case.
oopsiej on February 24th, 2014 12:18 am (UTC)
Awesome! You've made my choice so much easier :)
Luceafaraluceafara on February 24th, 2014 12:23 am (UTC)
I hope it will be a great fit for you. I totally love mine, but every body (and everybody) is different.
oopsiej on February 24th, 2014 12:27 am (UTC)
If I remember, I'll keep you posted! :) Will probably be a month or two until I can get back to you because I don't know how I am on funds next month.
Luceafaraluceafara on February 24th, 2014 12:30 am (UTC)
Yes, definitely write back. I think there is one on mc_sales as well at the moment - a red one like the one pictured above. Should it not work for you, you can easily sell or swap it on mc_sales.
oopsiej on March 6th, 2014 07:56 pm (UTC)
I have now ordered the Si-bell cup! :) I live in Sweden and I ordered it from the UK (Femininewear), I order lots of stuff from the UK regularly and usually it doesn't take more than 5 work days for orders to arrive. I'm so excited to be trying it for the first time! I'm prepared that there might be a learning curve but I'm not too worried actually because I'm very much in touch with my own body, I won't be freaking out if something doesn't go smoothly at first :) My period is due in 16 days so hopefully (and probably) it will be here in time for my next period to test it! :)
Luceafaraluceafara on March 6th, 2014 10:21 pm (UTC)
Nice, I hope it will work for you. It's a great cup :)
oopsiej on March 13th, 2014 03:34 pm (UTC)
I just got the Si-bell cup today! I was too eager to try it so I couldn't wait for my period to arrive (in like 9 days), at first it hurt a bit because I bumped the rim onto the fragile opening tissue but I quickly learned to angle my hand so that it didn't bump. I'm not sure if it popped open but I guess it did? How do you feel that? Is there a way to check?
Luceafaraluceafara on March 13th, 2014 03:47 pm (UTC)
Congrats! Which color did you get?
You can try to feel around the cup. Since the Sibell always opens for me, the more important thing is to try and reach up, and make sure that the cervix points towards the cup/ that the cups sitsa round the cervix.

Also, leave it in for the day and see if it catches your fluids. If it does, you positioned it perfectly :)

Edited at 2014-03-13 03:49 pm (UTC)
oopsiej on March 13th, 2014 03:55 pm (UTC)
I got the pink one because I don't want it to stain over time :) I think pink is pretty too also.

Oh, if the cervix is supposed to be in line with the cup, wouldn't the best thing be to feel for the cervix first and then insert the cup? I will try leaving it in! :) Thanks for the suggestion
Luceafaraluceafara on March 14th, 2014 03:11 am (UTC)
Yes, knowing which way it points is preferable :)
How did you make out on the first day?
oopsiej on March 22nd, 2014 11:47 am (UTC)
The first day is actually today and I think I am doing this thing just fine! I inserted it this morning (I slept through the night knowing I'd get my period today, stupid move not wearing a pad or the cup because now my sheets are a little stained, sigh) and I didn't hear a seal or anything so I was a little worried that I didn't insert it right, maybe there was a sound and I was too tired to hear it, I don't know.

I left it in for like 3 hours the first go and there was a little blood on the outside of the cup, more like blood clots though, no big ones. Maybe that was because I didn't wipe myself clean inside there with my fingers before I inserted it? Either that or I did in fact insert it wrong, because I can't remember a seal sound. I'll never know whether or not I inserted it right the first time haha.

The second time around I emptied the content, rinsed it in cold water and made sure my fingers were clean. This time I did hear a sealing sound :) "schlewp", haha, do you recognize it?

I used the 7-fold both times and I really like it, it makes insertion quite easy, i also wet the rim a tiny bit with water to avoid friction burn. I follow the trick that this girl describes http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePtKMYTuXQM and it's really helpful to me! I insert it a little bit deeper than I need it to be, then I tug carefully on the stem to bring it a teeny bit down, that's when I heard the sealing sound! :)

I can't quite make out if my cervix points backwards or not... I did feel for it before I inserted the cup this time and umm... When I bring my finger in the "nosetip indent opening" points straight down, it's not aligned with my vaginal walls so to speak. I really hope my explanation of that doesn't suck, if it does, hit me up again and I'll try to explain better because I want to know which way my cervix points!
Luceafaraluceafara on March 22nd, 2014 03:45 pm (UTC)
Sounds like this cup is a winner! I pull it a tiny bit down as well, sometimes, to ensure good suction, but I have never heard or felt the suction form any of my cups, other than when i feel it break before I take out the cups.

Yes, what was outside the cup sounds like what is "affectionately" called residual slobber on this forum. That's why I like to insert my cups in the shower , to ensure there is none if this.

Isn't the Si-bell awesome? I love the feel of platinum silicone, and how soft the cup is.

Wherever you cervix points is good to know: make syre your cup's opening points towards the cervix. If I understand this correctly, your cup should point back and up, since your cervix points South. If you can fit a finger in, you could run a finger around the outer rim to ensure the cervix is not outside it. I have a very hard time doing this myself, because I can hardly fit a finger in with the cup, but I always try.

Anyhow, congrats to your very successful first tries, and welcome to the rest of your life :)

BTW, how was your wearing comfort? I know that was one of your concerns.

Edited at 2014-03-22 03:46 pm (UTC)
oopsiej on March 22nd, 2014 05:13 pm (UTC)
The comfort has been quite good! :) I don't know if I'm overanalyzing things because I've felt like I've had to pee a lot more today than other days, but maybe not. I haven't been going to the bathroom every hour or so, maybe every third or fourth? But towards the fourth hour it's been quite urgent. Maybe it's putting a little pressure on my bladder... Did you feel that in the beginning, and did it go away?

I tried doing that but it's very hard for me, it's way too tight.
Luceafaraluceafara on March 22nd, 2014 05:26 pm (UTC)
I think, in the very beginning, I was so aware that my cup was there that I felt it.
And that was a soft small Meluna. Now, I can't even tell, since I am so used to the feeling. I wear cups every day, so I don't even remember what it felt like before.

I never feel bladder pressure with the Si-bell, so hope that will go away for you. I know there is at least on person here on mc_cups who gets irritation from every cup they have tried, including the Si-bell, but this seems to be very rare.

Edited at 2014-03-22 05:26 pm (UTC)
oopsiej on March 22nd, 2014 05:48 pm (UTC)
I do feel aware that the cup is inside of me but there is no uncomfortable feeling, except for the fact that *I think* it might be putting a small amount of pressure on my bladder. Again, I could be over-analazying this and I need some time to establish if this is true or not :) I also need to cut down the stem a little to be totally comfortable. It's soft so even if it's resting between my labia majora, it doesn't hurt, but it feels a little awkward.
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oopsiej on February 24th, 2014 03:18 pm (UTC)
Thank you for reaching out! Hearing that there actually is a significant difference makes me more inclined to buy the Si-bell. When I first narrowed it down I thought that they were roughly the same, but feedback from this forum has taught me I was wrong. I will definitely go with the Si-bell cup!