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16 February 2014 @ 01:31 am
Hi everyone i've been reading these posts for a while and decided to get some help.I'm a 14 year old virgin and looking for my fist cup.I'm trying to decide between the meluna soft or classic as I have heard of problems getting the soft to pop open.Also I need spme advide on how to pesuade my mum to agree, but I'm going to get one anyway.
Thanks! :)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 16th, 2014 03:43 am (UTC)
Welcome! It's great that you're finding out about cups now.

Before going automatically for the tiniest cup (the Melunas) you really, really want to make sure you actually have a low cervix, or it's going to be near impossible to get the cup out of you (I learned this the hard way). Cervix height can also vary depending on where you are in your cycle. To get an idea, next time you're in the shower, lube up a finger with coconut oil or KY Jelly or something and just see how far up you can stick your finger before you hit your cervix, if you can reach it (it feels like a wet nose). Take note of how much of your finger fit inside you and measure that. If you can fit a whole finger, or you can't find your cervix at all, stay far away from the Melunas - I'd recommend the Si-Bell because it's extremely soft, not super long in the cup itself but it has a really long, skinny stem in case you need it (and if not, you can cut as much of the stem off as is comfortable)
elisamba on February 16th, 2014 07:33 am (UTC)
This ^^ Once you know how high your cervix is - how *long* a cup you need - the sizecharts on this website can help you narrow it down.

The classic would be a better choice, but Melunas are not the "poppiest" cups for some users. I hear lots of good things about the Si-Bell as PP said. As a virgin, I can also recommend the small Organicup (one of my favourites) but it is pricey so you can check out Groupon - it seems to have specials on that cup every couple of months. It has a long stem so I can use it comfortably despite my high cervix and someone with a lower cervix could trim the stem.

Precious star pads on YT has a video called something like "how to talk to your parents about reusables". You might like to check it out. :)

Edited at 2014-02-16 07:37 am (UTC)
Serpentserpent_849 on February 16th, 2014 07:48 am (UTC)
it's been attempted to come up with a parents' guide here: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2953666.html
with my mum, it helped to show her the videos on youtube. does yours have any specific concerns? also, do you and/or your mum use tampons?

yeah, the small meluna is very tiny and there's actually no reason for a cup for virgins to be so short. (in fact it's a pretty bad idea since if anything, being a young virgin makes a high cervix MORE likely since it can move lower due to childbirth, prolapse, age)

the woman who introduced me to cups is from the uk and she wore a mooncup as a virgin since it's available in stores and she didn't know other brands. in general prior to the lunette and ladycup, many virgins/teens used 43-mm wide small sizes just fine, and now PLENTY of them use the slightly narrower 41mm cups just fine. 38mm is an overkill, lol. it also reduces the capacity, just like the length does. don't get me wrong, i'm not saying it's a bad cup/brand, but it's really more like XS. (but it doesn't correspond to the size of the rest of your body! it's just a comparison)

the issues with soft cups are kinda overrated. http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2618390.html yes there's a bit of a learning curve, but with stiff cups there can be a learning curve of not letting it pop too suddenly! ouch. but if you are worried about that, you can consider other brands, nowadays there are way more soft cups than firm ones. you don't really choose a brand and THEN choose size, they just pretend that one of their sizes/options will fit everyone. in your case something like a small fleurcup might be a good idea, or really just making sure you choose a cup with 4 holes instead of 2 should help.
Luceafaraluceafara on February 16th, 2014 10:16 am (UTC)
Kudos to you for finding out about cups so early! They will make your life so much easier, if your mom cooperates. Maybe if you tell her that medical grade silicone and TPE are safer and cleaner than any of the throw-away products that contain chemicals, it may convince her. You could also say that it is a choice between a cup and organic products, because you fear the chemicals, which will maybe make her realize the cost of organic products is not tennable.

I agree what others said in terms of finding out how high your cervix is.

If your mind is set on Meluna, which I have a bunch of myself, mind that they come in many different sizes. They range from the super tiny S mini, to the XL. Melunas come without a stem, with a ball stem, ring stem or regular stem.The reason why they are not recommended for high cervix folks is that all stem choices are rather short, and you need to be able to reach it and the base once inserted (you have to be able to pinch the base to break the seal before removal, especially if you choose a soft Meluna).

If length is not an issue, now comes the part with the firmness. I personally don't feel a difference once inserted, but some people may find the classic uncomfortable. The advantage of the classic is that it pops open easily. The disadvantage of the soft Meluna is that it is a bit harder to open, because it has two small holes only, so sometimes, the walls will get stuck together. It is not impossible to open a soft Meluna, there just is a bit more of a learning curve than with a Fleurcup or the super soft Si-bell, which both open readily.

My first cup was my small soft Meluna with ballstem (I have a low cervix and don't need stems on my cups), and I used it just fine. Once I added more cups and had a chance to compare, I realized that I had started off with what I consider the hardest to open Meluna.

My Meluna minis open easily, whether they are classic or soft, as do the classic mini and classic and soft medium, so I would say, choose the classic if you absolutely want the small - with the other sizes it does not matter. Melunas are very cheap and so you may be able to buy two or three to test out different sizes for the price of one cup of another brand. I'd check out meluna.org (click on the tiny union jack to change the language to English) - their prices are cheaper if your shipping address is outside the European Union, and during checkout, they'll deduct the 19% sales tax you see included in their prices.

And, again, the Fleurcup (fleurcup.com), Si-bell and Natu (old style was super soft, not sure about new style that just came out), which I also have and love, are also great and easy to use cups. They don't need as much explanation, as they only have two sizes and one firmness, but click on the Natu tag to see one of my posts about it, and the Si-bell tag (to the right of this screen) to see one of my posts with pics of the Si-bell next to my first Melunas.
milliee126 on February 16th, 2014 10:58 am (UTC)
Hi thanks for all the comments.Before, I was thinking about the fleurcup, but I thought it might be too firm for me (I've never used tampons) and also the si-bell but I prefered the meluna because they were cheaper.I'm gonna go have a shower now and check how high my cervix is which should be extra helpful because I'm on my period now.
Thanks for all the links and stuff! :)
m03m on February 16th, 2014 12:42 pm (UTC)
The Fleurcup is not a very firm cup, it's pretty soft. Might be a good option since the softness allows it to fold up nice and slim.

Good luck!
Luceafaraluceafara on February 16th, 2014 06:05 pm (UTC)
I second that. It is a bit firmer than the soft Meluna or the Si-bell, but it's not a firm cup. It springs open easily once inserted - I just bought my third: that's how awesome it is :)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 17th, 2014 03:24 pm (UTC)
Speak of the devil! Someone just offered a Si-Bell up for sale on mc_sales. I won't be able to receive packages for several months and I think you'll love it, so you might want to give it a try!
missmojorisin71missmojorisin71 on February 27th, 2014 05:15 pm (UTC)
Have you found a cup yet? You might want to look at a SckoonCup, soft yet firm enough near the rim/opening of the cup! It is really comfortable, too. My friend's daughter who is 17 is doing great with her SckoonCup size 1. Best of luck to you and congratulations on finding menstrual cups, a really great alternative to tampons and disposable pads!