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Hi everyone,

I have a b size moon cup (the smaller one). This is the first time I've used it and I'm having some trouble figuring out what is normal and what isn't.

The first time I put it in, last night, I had already trimmed the stem a bit, but the bottom part of the cup and some of the stem were right at the entrance of my vagina. Walking and sitting were making the stem rub on my labia and it was really uncomfortable, but I powered through it and just thought I'd need to trim the stem more.

So maybe an hour and a half later I decided to check on it, and it turns out that it barely collected any blood, and the rest just seemed to run down the sides and onto my underwear. So I washed it and put it away because my vag was sore (from the stem, and also from fighting to remove it).

I tried it again this morning, after trimming the stem some more. I also stuck a finger up there this time to make sure it was expanded fully, and I felt some air go in, so I'm assuming my problem the first time was that it wasn't open all the way. But this time it seems like it went up way higher than I expected. There is still a few mm of stem left on it, but it's all the way up inside now. I have to put my finger inside my vagina to even feel the stem. It feels like the stem is sitting just inside the muscles (kegels?)

Is this normal? Do I just have a really high cervix? I've only tried to feel my cervix once and I had to struggle to reach my middle finger as far up as I could. I don't really want to get a bigger cup because I'm already kind of having problems getting the lip of the moon cup in even after folding it.

Also, I am pretty sure it's open all the way now, I tried to run a finger all the way around and make sure but it was like there wasn't enough room in some spots for my finger to be in there with the cup. Also, the stem is pointing to the right. I tried to push/pull it to the center but it's like it doesn't want to go. Is it normal for it to be tilted a little to one side or the other? And how can I tell if it's opened properly if I can't feel all the way around it to make sure it's round?

I guess I will find out in an hour or two if it's working properly, but I'm really upset and frustrated right now and I need feedback/reassurance. I really want this stupid thing to work but I feel like I'm either doing something wrong or my vagina is shaped wrong for it, or something.
 
Dabbily Abbilyeskimoabby on February 15th, 2014 11:38 pm (UTC)
It sounds like your first problem was from the cup not being all the way open, it's important to always check, as you did the second time and make sure that it's fully expanded. I'm just guessing, but I think that the first time, it was probably sitting below your cervix, rather than around it, possibly because it was still partially folded. As for it sitting higher the second time, that sounds like it's where it should be. In my experience, if the stem is outside of your vagina at all, it can be very annoying, or even painful, so you want the stem to be inside.
As to the cup pointing to one side- every body is different! It's possible your cervix is just a little tilted to one side, which is totally normal :)
You also mentioned that you didn't want to get a bigger cup because you had trouble getting the lip of the mooncup in. I use a mooncup as well, and it has a very stiff lip. It sounds like this cup fits you pretty well, from what you've said, but if you think you need a bigger one, one that's softer than the mooncup might be helpful :)
Also (and this is just me being nosy and curious) what fold are you using? A lot of beginners go straight for the punchdown fold, but I find that the c fold opens up MUCH more easily.
super top secret7deadlysins on February 16th, 2014 12:35 am (UTC)
thanks for your reply!

I have been using the c-fold! it's a little difficult to insert but it seemed like the one that would pop open the easiest. I guess I just need to figure out the best way to wiggle/poke it into place once it's up there! I've been using it all day today with only very minimal leakage, but I think that may have been blood that was already below where the cup sits.

I thought I might need a larger size cup because of how high up this one sits, but if that is where it's actually supposed to be, then that's fine I guess! After looking around for a bit I purchased a large Fleurcup too, it looks almost exactly the same size as my current Moon cup but the shape of it looks softer/smoother. So hopefully that will help with insertion. It seems like the "small" Moon cup is actually on the larger side, compared to a lot of other brands!
Dabbily Abbilyeskimoabby on February 16th, 2014 01:04 am (UTC)
Yeah, as long as you can get it out easily, and it gives you the protection you need, then there's no reason for you to need a larger one :) Although it is always nice to have a spare around just in case!