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Hi I've been browsing the site for tips & tricks for about a month now and have found it VERY useful! Even when I went on pages like Yahoo answers or Youtube (videos) they'd always recommended this page! Well I come in ask of help :( I recently purchased the Lunette Cup Size 2 and it was a terrible experience :( Well I got it because of the good reviews & because it holds more/ I have a heavy flow (size 2 is even recommended for heavy flow gals). Little did I know that it's really hard to take out (or at least for me). Well I'm a virgin and when inserted it (7-fold) early this morning at 5am (finally!!) and I could barely feel the stem to take it out (I tried baring down...it didn't work)!! I was scared (lol), but lucky I went to the Women's Clinic at 8am this morning for them to tell me I inserted CORRECTLY (lol)! When it was inserted I couldn't feel it at all its just the suctions so strong/cervix is so high (which I found out today) that its hard to PULL out! I had the doctor/nurse pull it out for me and then I inserted the cup again (with them there to make sure I was doing it right) for the same results to happen again (I never felt so much pressure inside me in my life). And I was there for a total of 4 hours!

My question is what would you recommend for me: virgin, heavy flow, high cervix. I REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to give up on menstrual cups but I can NOT insert that Lunette Size 2 cup without someone else PULLING (mind you, only by the stem only because its tight up there) it out; which isn't viable in my everyday life (lol).

Another question: Is that how the cup is suppose to sit inside you, where I can barely feel the stem (if I inserted a finger or two I could feel the whole stem...I just couldn't pull it out myself)? I thought the cup's bottom hanged out a little bit in general (like a little bit of the cup's bottom & the whole stem hanged outside the vagina), but that's just me.

P.S- I've used tampons supers for years and never had any problems inserting or taking out.

Another question: Should I get a softer cup and doesn't cause that much suction? And is it normal for cups to have that much suction? Did make my first mistake by buying the firmest cup on the market? Should I get a really small cup since its tight down there?

Please please answer....I really want to have a happy stories like you guys have with your menstrual cups & feel better about my periods. IDK I might even go back to super tampons because it was so much easier :( wah. Help please and THANK YOU...I'm forever grateful for any info anyone's able to give!
Current Mood: uncomfortableuncomfortable
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 14th, 2014 08:13 pm (UTC)
yes, it's normal for those who have a high cervix. my mum had a similar experience (she didn't go to the ER but she thought she'd need to, before managing to remove it). i recommended her to remove it on the toilet (instead of the shower) and she's been a happy cup user ever since.

you definitely shouldn't get a very small cup, at least in terms of length. the width matters more for insertion and capacity than removal. in fact a narrow cup can sit very tightly around your cervix. look at the sizecharts and get something longer. pay attention to the total length and stem length, look at various photos to compare the stems.

for the time being, don't feel bad about using tampons! my mum didn't wear them for a few months after her bad experience, and then she got tired of pads and decided to give it another try. tampons are definitely easier for high-cervix folks than short cups.
iamallluv on February 14th, 2014 08:46 pm (UTC)
Aww thanks for the comment...its nice to know i'm not alone :D I will DEFINITELY be doing more research (even though I researched for over an year before getting the lunette) but I guess you don't really know until you experience it
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 14th, 2014 08:32 pm (UTC)
The Lunette is probably a bit too stiff and short for you - I had the same problem with Melunas! I'd highly recommend the Si-Bell, which is super-soft but pops open easily, because it has a super-long stem. The LilyCup might also be a nice option for you because it's even longer than the Si-Bell (slightly) but might be harder to get to pop open.
iamallluv on February 14th, 2014 08:48 pm (UTC)
Okay,thanks I will definitely look into them :D
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 14th, 2014 09:07 pm (UTC)
OK, so the large Lunette might have been a bit short for you but it was more your lack of technique that made it so difficult to remove. And the nurse's technique was no better, which made it so painful.

There are a bunch of size charts over at the Community FAQ. A longer cup might help you but you are still going to have to work on your removal technique to learn how to break the seal and NOT cause suction on the cup's way out. Read the good advice in the replies under the removal tags. The idea is to get air into/above the cup so you don't cause painful suction.

Edited for grammar.

Edited at 2014-02-14 09:08 pm (UTC)
Kathlynekathlyne on February 14th, 2014 09:19 pm (UTC)
I agree with kuradi (lack of technique) and think you should give it another go before jumping into buying another cup. I think you really need to relax. That will make removal easier.

Also, was this a dry run? Those are notoriously dry, and, well, difficult. Things are different when you are actually on your period. Your cervix may also drop down during your period and make removal easier.

Take a deep breath, relax, relax your pelvic muscles, relax your jaw, relax you shoulders, and try again.
iamallluv on February 16th, 2014 12:41 am (UTC)
I definitely think lack technique played into my story...thanks for the advice!
Saygasayga on February 14th, 2014 09:55 pm (UTC)
I think your other questions have been answered, but I wanted to say the stem is NOT meant to hang out of your vagina. I have a low cervix, so I always have to cut off the stems/balls/rings on the bottom of my cups, but if anything is sticking out of you and would be visible if you were wearing tight leggings, it's too long. And I am pretty sure that it would bug the crap out of most people if it WAS sticking out, even a little bit. The longest I can stand is about a fingertip inside me. If it's flush with my vagina, it has fallen too low (and is usually heavy and full; that's my indication it's time to empty my cup).
trejoytrejoy on February 15th, 2014 04:04 am (UTC)
Excellent point!
iamallluv on February 16th, 2014 12:40 am (UTC)
Okay thanks that good to know >.< I never though it would sit this way before I put it in lol
REGEEregee0304 on February 15th, 2014 11:09 am (UTC)
As stated, RELAX. When removing bear down, this has always helped me. I'm surprised no one has mentioned kiegels to you. This is an exercise but I think of it as a practice for how to move my muscles inside. It helps me move my cup down and removal easier.
Hope you get it!!
juliiie87juliiie87 on February 15th, 2014 01:02 pm (UTC)
kegels are actually the opposite of bearing down, so they would only move a cup higher (if I understand them correctly, anyway). But bearing down, as if you were trying to poop or give birth, is excellent advice.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 15th, 2014 02:34 pm (UTC)
well, it's important to identify the kegel muscles. but yeah, for removal (and actually insertion too) you need to relax them. do your kegels when the cup is not inside.
iamallluv on February 16th, 2014 12:43 am (UTC)
Okay got it: do some kegel exercises and use my inner muscles more to bear down...thanks ladies!
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 16th, 2014 01:11 am (UTC)
also, if it's uncomfortable right after insertion because it's too low, you can do kegels to help it find the proper place. though i guess you don't like the idea of moving your cup higher :D
juliiie87juliiie87 on February 15th, 2014 01:07 pm (UTC)
I agree with others, you most likely need a longer cup with a good stem, but before buying anything else, make sure to try while on your period if this was a dry run, as your cervix might very well drop lower then. Research should start with your body, it doesn't matter how many people recommend a cup to you if it won't fit your particular body. I do think a large stiff cup is a bit much to take for a virgin, I personnally tend to go for the softer cups as they are typically easier to pinch and fold for removal. I will warn you that the si-bell can create a bit of suction due to its flared rim and it's not actually longer in the body than the Lunette, as much as I'm convinced it's a great cup. So, start with your body, preferably "measured" (using your finger as a self-exam tool) while on your period, and look closely at the charts and comparison pictures, also bringing stiffness into consideration (there's a stiffness chart linked to the sizecharts.livejournal page). A large soft Yuuki might appeal to you, or a Natural mamma, or yes, if indeed your cervix is that high while on your period (as that can change over a cycle!), a Lilycup.
iamallluv on February 16th, 2014 12:33 am (UTC)
Oh okay I'll look into those cups thanks :D
jchammondsjchammonds on February 15th, 2014 05:03 pm (UTC)
Were you breaking the suction before trying to pull it out?

I had the size 2 Diva for more than a year before I tried a different cup. I wanted something just a bit shorter, so I bought a Moon Cup and I thought I would never get that thing out! It was really stiff and I found it hard to break the suction. I never used it again - it wasn't worth it - and I went back to my Diva.

A while later, Fleurcup had a great sale and I researched and found that it is a really soft cup. I bought one and I love it! It's my favorite, exactly what I'd been looking for.

You might want to dig around a bit on the Internet and see what cup is soft and long, since it seems like those are the two issues you're having trouble with.
iamallluv on February 16th, 2014 12:37 am (UTC)
Yeah I'm definitely going to be doing more research before getting a softer cup...but I couldn't really break the suction b/c the bottom was hard to grip/reach so I (or in other worlds the nurse) only depended on the stem to get it out *oh the memories*