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Recorded Filthiness of Abominations
05 February 2014 @ 08:10 pm
So I just bought my first cup, after doing a bit of research I settled on the MCUK due to size and reviews that it's a softer material. I should be starting my period in a few days and I thought since I was home today, maybe a "dry run" might be a good plan. I got it in with minimal issue, which is to say that I pinched myself a little, but nothing too bad. I wore it for about 2 hours (maybe less, I wasn't watching the clock) as I walked around, sat at the computer, whatever I might do on a normal day just to make sure I couldn't feel it, which I assumed would mean it was in the right place. Everything went smoothly.

The problem was taking it out.

In case this makes a difference, I want to mention that I have a tiny cervix, every gynecologist I've ever seen has commented on it, so even though I'm over 30, I choose the smaller cup (size B). The website said there wasn't too much difference, so I thought I'd err toward what I know of my anatomy. Anyway, I reached in with a finger and pressed against the side of the cup, which I thought would break the seal... but instead it just felt rather uncomfortable and I still couldn't get it to come out when I pulled my finger down on the side. So I pushed harder against the side, the cup was about half collapsed and I still couldn't get it out, it didn't feel like the suction was broken at all and it wasn't a particularly pleasant sensation. I tried bearing down, I tried standing with one foot on the edge of the tub, nothing was working.

At this point, I got up, washed my hands and headed to the internet. I watched a video of a woman showing an example with her Diva Cup filled with whiskey where she explained she pinches the bottom slightly, gives it a twist and pulls. I headed back to the bathroom and when I went to pinch the bottom, it turns out the cup was still collapsed, so pinching wasn't going to do much. The twist was a terrible idea by the time I got here because I somehow managed to pull it out sort of sideways with the stem poking where no one wants to be poked- at least not like this! And now I'm a touch crampy, which I assume was from tugging on my cervix via suction cup. In the TMI department, there was a fair amount of (normal) discharge in the cup, so I'm wondering if I suctioned that out with my tugging.

I'm not about to give up on this! Surely I can figure out how to use a cup if scores of other people can do it! But clearly I am in need of some advice. I don't want to be removing a full cup only to pull it out in a painful sideways maneuver that ends with me spilling an ounce of blood on myself- I mean, it's my blood and I'd survive it, but you know, not really my thing. I'm thinking maybe I'll have to change it in the shower a time or 2 for practice. Does anyone think that maybe the suction of doom was due to it being empty? The cup has these little perforations up by the top, so I didn't think the suction could be that bad! Or could this be due to size? Or am I just straight up doing it wrong?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Edited to Add: I am very comfortable with my vagina and am not squeamish. I had an IUD for 7 years, so I know where my cervix is and what it feels like and while it tends to be low near my period, I still have to bear down in order to touch it with the tip of my middle finger- though I do have weirdly small hands! I couldn't reach the rim of the cup, though I tried. Neither could I get my thumb much past the outermost band of muscles at the entrance of my vagina, which made pinching difficult. Maybe if I bear down more first, then try to break the seal, instead of trying to break the seal then bearing down?
hinata42691hinata42691 on February 6th, 2014 05:23 am (UTC)
I use a different cup (diva) but they seem to all work about the same. What I usually do is try and relax those muscles as best as I can and then work the tips of my index finger and thumb inside. Then I bear down until I can grab the very base of the cup. Then, while holding on the that as best I can I relax and then push down again to get a good hold on the bottom of the cup. Then I try to work my thumb up the side/back to pinch the cup with both fingers. That usually breaks the seal and then I can just pull the cup down and out. Sometimes I have to pinch it again partway out because it reseals, but this generally works. (Sorry if this ended up being tmi...) Good luck!
Recorded Filthiness of Abominationssyducingfate on February 7th, 2014 02:00 am (UTC)
No worries about TMI, it doesn't bother me at all :)

My only question is that if the cup was completely smooshed, with the sides touching inside of me, shouldn't it have broken the suction? It felt like it wouldn't let go of my cervix! Not a very pleasant feeling at all.
hinata42691hinata42691 on February 9th, 2014 04:35 pm (UTC)
Usually that should break the seal but I've had it happen a few times where it re-suctioned itself to me mostly flat (with the rim still open). When that happens I take a couple minutes to breathe and relax before trying again. It seems to help to try and rock it back and forth as much as I can to try and convince it to let go. It tends to happen less when I'm actually on my period.