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04 February 2014 @ 12:38 pm
Hey, I've been lurking for a good few months now.

I've been reading a bunch of first time use posts and all about the cups. I finally settled on getting a Classic MeLuna - small and medium. I tried for the past couple of nights to get it inserted while in the shower, and I'm having a bunch of troubles, and wondering if ladies had any extra advice.

A little background info: I'm 27, and rarely used tampons in the past (probably once or twice only), I'm pretty unfamiliar with my anatomy. No children, not a virgin. I tried to find my cervix, but I'm not really sure what I'm looking for. I think it's about 5.5cm in? I tried to Google an "average height" sort of thing, but all I got were pregnancy heights.

Anyway, I tried the C-fold and 7-fold, but they're too big and I can't get it in. The punch-down-fold is the only other one I've tried, and I can get it in, but I can't for the life of me get it to pop open. I run my finger around the bottom and I feel the dimple of the fold there..I've made sure the air-hole is where the fold is. I've tried to twist it..and nothing.
I've even tried some lube to get it in there, but it's just not working? do I just wait until my period and try again?
I feel like I'm just tensing up every time I move the cup near it. I haven't even tried to use the medium if I'm having this much trouble with the small.
Also, on the side - I keep pinching myself when I try to run my finger along the edge/front/back of the cup once it's in to check, is that normal??
 
Tessgryphonwing on February 4th, 2014 03:26 am (UTC)
You probably are tensing up, which is part of the challenge. You know the muscles you use to stop a stream of urine? You can consciously tense them, but you can also try to relax them. It won't hurt. :)

I used to rely on the punch-down fold. It's generally trickier to get open, I think. My way of doing this might work for you, if you're comfortable using your pelvic floor muscles. I put the cup in just past my pubic bone, but don't push it in farther until it opens. I hold the base with finger and thumb and do one of two things. Either I bear down like I'm trying to push the cup out of me while pressing in with my hand, or I squeeze like I'm trying to pull it in while pulling down with my hand. They both work okay. Generally one or the other will pop the cup open. :)

You might have better luck if you change which way the cup faces as well... If the fold is usually in the front, try turning the cup so it's in the back.

Oh and yeah, I often accidentally punch myself. Not so much anymore, but that was part of my learning curve in a big way. I have a history of vaginismus, so any kind of pain in the area is a bad idea. I had to consciously relax a lot while I was learning. It got much easier after the first few successes, because my vagina stopped anticipating discomfort. These days I can just shove the cup up there, no fancy folds required. :)

Oooooh! I forgot to say... some people have am easier time staying both relaxed and comfortably lubricated if they masturbate before trying to insert their cup. If that's an option for you, it might be worth a try. Again, like trying to relax, it's not going to hurt anything. :)
ruby+;_____☆★contradictz on February 5th, 2014 01:10 am (UTC)
I think I finally managed to get it to open up last night! But it's not a round or even oval shape. It's still got the slight c-shape to it, but felt smooth. Guess I'll wait to see if it leaks when my period arrives! Or I might try to insert it backwards and see if that still happens!
This really helped! Thanks! :D
I just need to keep relaxed, which is super difficult!
Luceafaraluceafara on February 4th, 2014 03:40 am (UTC)
Hi and welcome to cups!

I do pinch myself with the classic Melunas when I double-check. It will happen less once you are more used to the whole process, but it may still happen every now and then.

When you insert your finger as far as you can, the thing you hit in the back/top that won't let you go further is your cervix.

Sounds like you are doing everything right. Have you tried inserting a finger between cup where the fold still is and your vaginal wall to let some air in and smooth out the fold? The classic ones usually pop open right away.
It will get so much easier!
v_veronika: peacev_veronika on February 4th, 2014 08:57 am (UTC)
Have you tried slipping your finger in next to the cup, and pushing the vaginal wall away from it a little? That always does the trick for me.

You could also try inserting the cup while sitting on the toilet, it might be easier to relax the muscles in that position. Just be careful not to drop it.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on February 4th, 2014 04:09 pm (UTC)
Welcome! Since the Meluna is made of a different material (TPE, not silicone) some users find them more difficult to pop open and more likely to mold to your anatomy. I might suggest a more complicated fold, inserted with the folded part toward the back. I like the labia fold: http://menstrualcupforteens.wordpress.com/folds-and-insertion/
ruby+;_____☆★contradictz on February 5th, 2014 01:11 am (UTC)
And wooow..there's so many folds! I will try some with the fold facing backwards. Thanks!
Lilianenurselily on April 4th, 2014 04:12 pm (UTC)
My favorite fold is the half diamond one. makes it super small and insert the fold downwards not facing up. then when its partially inserted (a part of it is sticking out of your body) use a finger to push on the fold to open it up. I find my M meluna harder to pop open then my S sibell or natural mamma