I am new to this community, although I've been in the shadows for a little while. The supportive feel of your posts and comments overwhelms me! I am about to order my first cup- and wanted a little guidance from more experienced users. I have looked through many posts, but haven't found a direct answer to my question. Please forgive me if it has already been addressed before though.
[My Journey thus far] I'm 25, no kids, 5'4" medium build, sexually active and very comfortable with my body and its functions. I have always had very painful cramping for 2-3 days. ( pain medication sometimes dulls the pain but never removes it. And normally I avoid meds, so they are mo potent when I break down and use them.)About 4 mos ago I had some worse than normal cramps, so bad that I couldn't function for 2 days, even with a fairly high pain tolerance. So I started doing research on reducing period pain. And stumbled across RUMPs. I was immediately intrigued. With further research into the dangers of disposables, I decided to ditch them completely. I have not used tampons since, and have only used some disposable pads I had on hand.
At the time I could not afford buying a reusable cup, so I bought Instead Softcups. (The disposables, although I have been reusing them for the length of my period) I have used them with some success. I have mastered inserting them, and know that they are in the right position. However I still have leaks with any muscle movement. (Urination, bowel movements, or even just changing body positions sometimes.) This seems logical to me since the thin plastic bag offers almost no resistance to my muscles. But having gotten comfortable with them, they are STILL better than tampons or pads. I am hoping that a reusable cups will fix my leaking problems.
After having weighed out size and price options, I have settled on a cup from Meluna. However I cannot decide on the firmness. The website recommends classic if you are new to cups. But I have heard of many people experiencing trouble with that firmness. Particularly trouble urinating while it is inserted and trouble removing due to the heavy suction. I believe that the insteads I have been using have a fairly firm rim. I am not overly worried about removal, I know that there will be a learning curve, but removing the soft cups (which sit much higher up) was a breeze for me, and while I know it is a completely different experience I am confident I will get the hang of it. (Eventually (-; )
So many users like the soft Melunas that I am unsure if that would be the better option. I certainly don't want any leaks which I know depends on getting a good seal. Basically I just don't know which one would be better for someone starting out. What do you think? Also do any of you have a stem you particularly prefer from Meluna? I'm leaning toward the ball stem, but would love to hear feedback!