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Hello everyone.
This is my first time posting to the community. (I apologize in advance for the long post)
To be totally honest, I am feeling a little bit embarrassed and quite clueless.
I'm really hoping someone can help me..

I am 31, married, no children.
I purchased a Diva cup a few years ago, which I tried unsuccessfully, and then gave up on.
The troubles I had then, are pretty much the same as I am having now.
To be honest, I don't think I know the placement of my cervix (high or low). My gyno said that it was rather low, however, I can't feel it with my own fingers, so I would assume that means it's higher then the length of my fingers..?

When I insert the Diva cup, I follow all the instructions along with suggestions I have read to-the-T. It seems like its fully opened, (I hear a snap/pop sound, and I run my finger around the rim, and the sides do not seem to be puckered or anything like that) but it still causes me quite a bit of discomfort, pain and cramping.

I haven't been able to keep it in more than an hour or two, due to the cramping.
Also, most importantly, its not catching anything! When I remove it, there is essentially nothing in it, and everything has just leaked out around the sides.
I am trying to figure out if this is because its not actually fully open, or because my cervix sitting over the top of it..?

Lastly, removing it has been really difficult as well. I can feel that it's super suctioned, and the muscles of my pelvic floor are really really tight so I have a lot of trouble even getting two fingers inside to break the seal and pull it down.

What am I doing wrong?
Is it possible that the Diva cup is just wrong for me, and I should try another brand/style/size or do I just need more practice?
It's hard to want to keep trying it when it's so uncomfortable.
Any and all suggestions would be super appreciated!
Thanks so much!
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 23rd, 2014 01:00 am (UTC)
IGNORE the instructions! Insert the cup so that the rim is just beyond your pubic bone and allow it to open full there. It will draw in a little as it does. Once it's fully open, then nudge the base/stem rearward as you give the cup a boost and kegel it up and into place. Your cervix is probably closer to your belly button than your tail bone. You probably shoved the open rim against the back of your vagina instead of (O) around your cervix. And that's why no flow got inside. It was like trying to fill your mug by pouring coffee down its side.

It will probably sit more comfortably there too.

Try again at the angle I suggested. You've almost got it.
outsidelectric on January 23rd, 2014 05:45 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much for the suggestions.
I tried it again, the way you suggested, but I am still having a lot of difficulty.
It doesn't seem to be opening up, like, at all.. basically, if I insert it just past my pubic bone, and I can tell that it's not opened I just can't seem to maneuver it to get it to open. And the process of trying to do so is really painful. I also tried flipping it inside out, just for the hell of it.

Question: I have read that if your vaginal muscles are really tight/strong, then a firm cup is better because it should pop open and stay open better, but this seems the opposite for me. Its as if my muscles are squeezing it so tight that it prevents it from opening. Is this possible?

Also, the fact that the diva cup is so firm is what is making the whole process so uncomfortable. I purchased a softer cup, and should be receiving it soon. Im just concerned that I will still have difficulty getting it to open (as I have read, that can be an issue with the softer cups.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 23rd, 2014 06:11 pm (UTC)
Actually, the Diva is a fairly soft cup and your issue isn't with the cup itself, it's your technique. You're simply in the dreaded learning curve.

"Tight" is a function of your PC muscles, your pelvic floor. Cups sit above them. If you read the replies to posts in the insertion and removal tags, you'll see that you need to relax those muscles for insertion and removal, then you can go back to holding them as tightly as you normally do. Similarly, there are many good tips at the insertion tags for getting stubborn cups to open.