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14 January 2014 @ 10:26 pm
Lately, I have been reading dozens of posts on this WONDERFUL site, and recently, I posted two posts, which helped a lot (THANK YOU). I STILL don't know what to choose though due to the mixed opinions...
Ok so I think lunette is out of the question for a first cup (too stiff).
I want a soft cup, which is easy to insert AND remove. Since I am a 13 year old virgin, and my cervix is about 2 inches in, I am not sure what shape cup I want to use. I can stick one finger in just barely (only to check my cervix distance), so for insertion/removal, would a V shape or a U shape be best?
I have average/heavy flow, so something which could last overnight would be GREAT (though I don'n know if that's possible since I am getting small sizes). Do U shaped cups have more capacity? If so/if not, which cups are the most comfortable/ most appropriate for me.?
So far I am facing fleurcup, cuplee, and si-bell. All of them seem great... which one should I pick?
pascallewest on January 15th, 2014 04:06 am (UTC)
Hi! Generally speaking, U-shaped cups do have a better capacity. This is not to dissuade you from a V-shaped cup though. Go with your instinct. For what it's worth, I like the stems better on the Si-bell and the Fleur. Very easy to grasp, which is great for beginners. The CupLee, I think, has a tube stem, which can be annoying, because it's thicker around and fluids can get in there (of course it can be washed out easily). However there are a lot of people that swear by the CupLee… It sounds like you've got it narrowed down. Have fun getting your first cup!!
Serpent: suomiserpent_849 on January 15th, 2014 04:54 am (UTC)
when i got my small lunette, i didn't understand how anything could be considered even softer than it :-)))
you got quite few replies so far, don't treat them as sacred knowledge. do your own research.

for insertion/removal, V and U get folded to the same shapes. it's mostly while wearing that the difference matters.
note that the cuplee small size is unavailable, but their large is similar in width to the small diva or miacup. so as of now it's a one size cup that has all sorts of users.

and not to contribute to your "crisis", but if you get a meluna from the official site, you might* get a "sample cup" for free - fully functional but with a small fault that doesn't allow them to sell it. although i guess out of the meluna range only the medium is a reasonable option.
*a few years ago, this was a given. more recently not everyone got those free cups, and i kinda lost touch with this comm a little so i'm not sure about the current situation.
femininewearfemininewear on January 15th, 2014 06:17 am (UTC)
Cuplee recently brought out the small size, I sell both sizes and all 7 colours - the measurements are on here
Serpentserpent_849 on January 15th, 2014 12:48 pm (UTC)
oh oops, you make me feel like a bad russian :P between the ru comm and this one, i'd think i'd have heard somewhere...
so see OP, the fact that i know nothing about the sckooncup just means i'm not as informed as i used to be. for a new-ish brand, it does seem to enjoy a significant popularity.
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on January 15th, 2014 05:06 am (UTC)
Like the posters above me mentioned, the U cups have more capacity, but the shape only matters while you're wearing it. For what it's worth I find that sometimes my PC muscles "squish" the bottom of my U-shaped Si-Bell a bit and probably kill some of the capacity, but my periods aren't heavy enough that it's a big problem (and I wear a different cup on my heaviest day if I know I won't have a chance to change it all day) would only be uncomfortable if you had a really stiff and also U-shaped cup.
pascallewest on January 15th, 2014 05:37 am (UTC)
Side note:
Cloth pads are AWESOME! (for cup backup, overnight, or when you don't feel like dealing with a cup). Here's a video on how to use them when you're out and about:

Here's a few of my favorite shops for cloth pads:

They're both a bit low on stock right now, but they are constantly putting new items up.. I think they are becoming so popular that it's hard for the seller to keep up!
Just thought I'd share that with you!
pynki616pynki616 on January 15th, 2014 03:34 pm (UTC)
i agree with the cloth pads being awesome! i've recently started using cloth pantyliners as backup for my cup. my favorite are from


Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on January 15th, 2014 07:25 am (UTC)
mod note
hi amalicious4. Welcome to the community! I'm really glad you're finding it a useful resource. However, we do ask that users keep their posts to no more than two per week, in order to keep the volume reasonable. Since you've posted three times in the last two days, I need to ask that you do not post again until the 21st. In the meantime, feel free to participate in discussions and peruse the archives (which can be accessed by the tags on the side of the community page). These are great resources, and there's lots of them! Thanks.
amalicious4 on January 15th, 2014 11:07 pm (UTC)
Re: mod note
Thanks for the info :) WIll keep that in mind.. sorry for the overload.
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 15th, 2014 04:10 pm (UTC)
Just a quick note -- the small Fleur is just about the same firmness as the small Lunette. I have both. Both are medium squishy cups, but the Fleur's rim pops open a bit more readily and the thick grips at the base of the cup make the bottom much stiffer than the Lunette's. I don't like removing the Fleur because of the stiff, U-shaped base of the cup. I find V-shaped cups easier to take out because there's more room to slide a finger up along the cup and break the seal, but U-shaped cups usually have better capacity. If you like the shape of the Fleur but want something softer, the Si-Bell is probably a good choice.

It can be hard to gauge your flow without anything to compare it to! It wasn't until I joined this community that I realized I had very light cycles in comparison to most people. Many seem surprised at how little they actually lose when they start being able to measure it in a cup -- the 15-20ml a small cup holds is quite a bit.
amalicious4 on January 15th, 2014 11:10 pm (UTC)
I think you are talking about the old fleur, because in all the other posts, the new fleurcup is a lot softer than lunette (more like ladycup). :)
Anyway, should I get the fleur or the si-bell then... IDK, a si-bell just seems too soft... and the fleur is pretty soft anyway.
Any suggestions? Would the si-bell leak because of how soft it is, or for any reason? What about the fleur?

Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 16th, 2014 12:47 am (UTC)
I have a pretty new Fleur -- bought it about a year ago new from the manufacturer, so I think this is the current firmness. The large Fleur is supposedly softer than the small; I wonder if that's why people think of the Fleur as a soft cup. I used to have squish comparisons photos between the Fleur and the Lunette, but I seem to have deleted them from my computer. The LadyCup is different in that it has quite a firm rim and upper 1/3 and then is very soft the rest of the way down. It's hard to know what will work for you until you try at least one cup and figure out what you like. (Might be helpful to keep in mind that most cups can work for most people, though! I get along fine with medium to very soft cups, short-ish to quite long.)

My softest cup, the Meluna mini soft, will leak a bit if I am doing something very active that engages my core muscles, such as running or pilates, but I haven't had issues with the others as long as I have it positioned correctly. I haven't had any issues with the Cuplee, which is my softest silicone cup; I think it's probably has to do with the more elastic quality of the silicone vs the TPE that Melunas are made out of.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 15th, 2014 08:06 pm (UTC)
You're over-thinking it. They're all very similar sizes and you won't know how well they'll fit or how much you'll like/hate any of them until you try it. Just like trying clothes on at the store, just because it claims to be the right size doesn't mean it will feel comfortable or look flattering. Go with your gut. Get the one you wish you'd gotten if you'd gotten another instead. There's no way we can pick one for you. The ones you like are all equally good.

On the other hand, since you can't make up your mind, that implies that you don't like ANY of the ones you've listed. If you don't like any of them, don't get any of them. There are more and more cups on the market every day. Sooner or later one that you think you'll like will come along. Don't "settle" for one that you don't think you'll like.
amalicious4 on January 16th, 2014 02:41 am (UTC)
I think I am just gunna end up buying the fleurcup!
Thanks for all the help!
Kathlynekathlyne on January 16th, 2014 04:10 am (UTC)
I love my fleur cup. It has turned out to be my Goldilocks cup. Just remember that you don't have to buy the small just because you are young/don't have children/or are a virgin. Since you say you have a heavy flow go with the large if it isn't too long for you. Look at some of the charts and comparison photos.

Best of Luck.
pineapplewhippineapplewhip on February 5th, 2014 07:05 am (UTC)
me too
Fleurcup is my great love now. What a blessing. Love it.
pineapplewhippineapplewhip on February 5th, 2014 07:02 am (UTC)
fleurcup large is my goldielocks cup
I love cups, I tell everyone I know and it's so sad when they are looking like I'm a weirdo,lol, I wish someone had told me long ago. So, clearly I am a huge fan. I have heavy periods, in my 30's and haven't given birth yet, I am embarking on that. I am madly in love with my new fleurcup large. I bought a clear and red, I love the red. First try I never leaked, used it my entire period. Opening it low, then pushing it up, towards my back was the thing. I'm really impressed. Had it been my first cup (that was a small Lunette) I think I would have been intimidated by the size. Obviously that's not an issue when you get used to cups. If I had to have 1 it would be a large Fleurcup. I often love French things. No exception regarding their cups.