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11 January 2014 @ 06:26 pm
When I got my femmecup in the mail, I was super excited. All that ran through my head was "no more soft cups, better yet no more pads". I actually couldn't wait for my next period. But when it came along, day one was too light for it to be properly lubricated. So I gave it another try on day 2, my heaviest and most dreaded day. I chose to try it out after school so I won't have to rush anything, and after school that day I was kinda fuming over a big leak at school (I don't bring backup pads). So I decided this would be the perfect chance for my Femme cup to save the day.

I don't know any folds except the punch down and the c fold. The c fold was too big and hard to keep in place. So I used the punch down fold which worked pretty well. After panicking, chickening out, and taking lots of deep breaths to try again I got most of the cup in. (For all first timers, keeping your lower lip slack really helps.) However, my hand slipped off the cup and it popped open half way, which hurt a lot. Luckily I did my research, because if I didn't, I would have tugged the stem. Instead, I started panicking and pinched the base of the cup. I heard something and thought the suction released so I tried yanking it out, which is what I always do for softcups. The cup did not budge and now it really hurt. So in a panic frenzy, I reached up to the rim with my index finger and pushed the rim to the side, sorry if that's too much info, and then I yanked it out. I washed and dried the cup and since then, it's been in it's pouch in my drawer because I grew a bit scared of that thing. But I'm not ready to give up, because I paid for that and went through the trouble of sneaking it into the house. Also because I can't stand Always pads, they always leak. I wanna know what caused the cup to hurt so much and maybe some better folding tips, and what I could do to avoid this next time

In case this helps, when the cup popped open, it felt kind of like something was sort of pulling off my insides. Shortly after removing the cup, I felt as if nothing ever happened.

Oh yeah, sorry for all the words, but is femmecup good for a person with a high cervix? I have a really high cervix but femmecup was the first reusable cup I've seen in person, so is it considered long or short?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 12th, 2014 01:03 am (UTC)
There are size charts over at the Community FAQ where you can compare the dimensions of the various brands. You'll see that the Femmecup is fairly short.

What makes you think that you have a high cervix? You didn't have any trouble reaching the base of your Femmecup so that implies that if it's not the "perfect" length for you, then it's pretty close.

Read some of the tags about removal for helpful hints. The idea is to get air into/above your cup so it doesn't create painful suction as it works its way out. Rock it this way and that, and then pull it out at an angle so it's not "the whole rim" at once.

At this point, you're still in the dreaded learning curve but have gotten past some of the hardest parts. So HURRAY for you!!! All you need to do now is polish your techniques and learn to trust your cup. :o)
helina1helina1 on January 16th, 2014 09:02 pm (UTC)
Thanks for all the replies, you all replied quicker than I would expect. But the reason I think I have a high cervix is because one day, I tried reaching for it. On the first day, it sits pretty low but on all the other days I can't reach it with my middle finger.

Well, now that I know how a learning curve feels, I *might* not panic as much. Ironically, I took the "Which Menstrual Cup is Right for me" test and my number one result was Femmecup, then a small Diva, then a small Lunette, so I think that after I get over the learning curve I'll try those. But before I do, is the suction for the Diva cup strong? I do NOT want any strong suction based on that incident.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 17th, 2014 08:51 pm (UTC)
Well, I don't put much credence in those tests because their answers are all over the size charts. Using what you know, like and don't about your Femmecup, pick a cup that you think will FIT you and suit your capacity and comfort needs.

See what you think of the Femmecup's length. How easy is it to reach (on average?) Do you need more capacity? Do you like its narrow body or would a fuller one suit you better? Do you like its pointy base or do you think you'd like a blunt one better?

Use your own experience and preferences to pick length, width, shape, capacity and other features.

As for suction: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2091967.html
trejoytrejoy on January 12th, 2014 02:33 am (UTC)
Learning insertion and removal takes patience and practice. Do check out the size charts, but give the Femme a chance (3 cycles at least!) since it can take a while to get to know your body and the cup. Cheers!
juliiie87juliiie87 on January 12th, 2014 02:26 pm (UTC)
A few things :
a water-based lube or coconut oil can help with insertion, or just making sure the cup is wet.
folds : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ep5hh0W-nFw
and charts : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

Also relax, take your time and be gentle with yourself, I promise it'll get easier! Have you seen this ? http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html