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07 January 2014 @ 02:16 am
Hi, I'm 16, 5'5", 115 lbs and am on birth control if that matters. I've been reading about menstrual cups because I can't use tampons most of the time and pads are really annoying! I also tend to get pain if I wear a tampon for more than an hour. The problem is my mom and sister always make jokes about cups and think they're disgusting so I can't bring the subject up around them! I have a really light flow for most of my periods(the reason why I can't use tampons) and pads are uncomfortable and cause irritation. I'm really scared about the whole sticking-it-up-there thing because I'm afraid I won't be able to get it out. I've been looking at brands but they're all just kind of blending together and I'm getting quite confused. I also have no idea where my cervix sits but I do know for a fact that I'm a virgin(; but seriously, I am so lost and somewhat scared! Haha I've been searching to see if my questions have been answered before but I think I need them answered directly. Please help! Thank you!(:
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Alwynsabishii_kirito on January 7th, 2014 07:32 am (UTC)
First, you may want to get used to feeling yourself to get more comfortable. I don't mean sexually, but if you can relax while sticking a finger or two in, it might help make things easier if you do get a cup.

A lot of people have trouble getting it out at first, but it isn't generally a common problem once you get used to it. One thing you can do is try to find your cervix (stick finger in, feel around for something that has about the same feeling as the tip of your nose--firm, though it'll probably feel a little wet) and see how far up it is. Some people can sort of gauge what size cup to get based on that. If your cervix is really far up, you may want a longer cup, but longer cups may be uncomfortable if your cervix is low. If you do go searching, make sure to wash your hands first with an unscented soap! Some people are sensitive to fragrances and can get yeast infections, so be careful.

I forget what tag it's under (maybe diagrams and pictures?) but there is a really nice table that shows the width, height, and capacity of each cup. If finding your cervix isn't a problem, a smaller cup might be a good idea to help you get more comfortable with it. Since your flow is light, it would make sense anyway (assuming your cervix wasn't super high). Some discomfort might be caused by the stem, but with many brands you can cut it off or trim it carefully to prevent any pain.

As for your family members... That's a tough one. It's hard to get people to understand something that they find disgusting, though they might be more willing to listen after you get yours (if you get one). It also might open their eyes once they realize how much waste reduction there is and the cost reduction over time.

If buying one is a problem, SoftCups (disposable) are sold at some Targets, and sometimes their Facebook page offers free samples; they actually just had a promotion, but I think it might be over now. DivaCups are sold in some sports stores in North America, and sometimes natural grocers/health food stores will also have a few brands (I've only noticed Diva Cups and Moon Cups). They will probably be more expensive than they are online, though, so if money is an issue finding a sale would probably be easier on the internet.

AND if all of that fails, reusable cloth pads might be an option. They are much more comfortable than cotton pads, can be bought from companies (like LunaPads) or Etsy. Of course your family might still say things about them, but if you really wanted to you could keep it fairly private (assuming you have your own room) by washing them by hand in the bathroom and then hanging them up to dry in your bedroom somewhere.

Regardless of what you choose to do, good luck! I still get crap from my mom about using one, and I'm 27. Sometimes people just don't learn, and you just need to ignore the criticism :p
neumeindilneumeindil on January 7th, 2014 07:40 am (UTC)
For some pics, scroll about 2/3 the way down this page:

For all of the pics, try here:

If you're in the States, it can be easier to get a Keeper, a Keeper Mooncup, or a Diva Cup but they may not be the best choice for you. I have a Diva Cup because it was the only one available to me without ordering online and it was somewhat uncomfortable but SO MUCH BETTER than anything else, I ran with it until I could order a better one.
mallt on January 7th, 2014 02:34 pm (UTC)
Also, you'll want to check for your cervix position during your period as is can move... I thought I could use a long cup as I could never find my cervix (I had to check for IUD strings) but found it dropped down during my period & I can only just fit one of the smaller cups.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 7th, 2014 01:32 pm (UTC)
Go to the Community FAQ and read the Virgin's Guide to Cups. Also get more comfortable with the concept and act of insertion. In the mean time, check out the guidelines and size charts to figure out what brands will fit/suit you best. The chart at divvies them into 3 width and 5 length ranges. Then use capacity, shape and other features to make your final decision.

At this point, it sounds like you're too anxious about sticking anything up there so don't rush into a cup purchase.
megankgrmegankgr on January 9th, 2014 03:44 am (UTC)
While I'm personally in love with my cup (heavy flow since my iud insertion), I kindof want to recommend that you look into the natural sea sponge alternative to tampons. If you're anxious about cup removal, sea-sponge tampons can be a nice transition. You can sew a string onto them to make removal easier, and you moisten them a bit before insertion, so they aren't uncomfortably dry upon removal like commercial tampons. If your flow is as light as it sounds, these might be an easy solution for you. And they're only recommended to use for a cycle or two (I think, can't remember exactly) before you replace them, so it could also be a commitment-free way for you to get more comfortably with your body and inserting and removing a different type of menstrual product before choosing a cup.

Additionally, I was super excited when I first started using a cup and I told my mom and my best friend. My friend was much more receptive (and actually got one for herself a month later) to the idea but my mom was grossed out and told me she didn't want to know anything about it. My thought is this; it's not their body, so their opinion doesn't matter. </p>

Good luck and well wishes in whatever you choose!