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02 January 2014 @ 02:29 am
Hello, I'm new here, I know it's possible someone might have posted this question before, but I haven't quite found anything exactly the same as my question (but I probably haven't read all the questions here either, since this is such a huge forum).

I think I have a very very very very very high cervix, is it possible to have such an abnormally high cervix, or could I be doing something wrong, maybe using the wrong sized cup?

I have a Femmecup (only one size available) and a medium and large classic Meluna. I can't use the Femmecup or the large Meluna at all, the large Meluna has a ball stem. When I use them on heavy (*low* cervix) days it is very very hard for me to even find the cup or touch it at all. I can barely graze the bottom of the stem with the tip of my longest finger. There is no way I can pinch the bottom to remove the suction, because I can't even reach the bottom. And the "hotdog" method is out of the question, of course, because since I can't even touch the bottom of the cup I can't stick a finger up along the side either.

After struggling for more than an hour and bearing down for a long time (I've had 2 natural childbirths so it is not like I am untrained in this) I was able to barely slip 2 fingers (not my thumb, my thumb couldn't reach up that far) up against the stem and with the tips of both fingers pull down on the stem, which was hard to do because it was slippery. When I managed to pull the stem down far enough (after a load more of bearing down) I was finally able to pinch in the bottom and pull the cup out.

When I'm on a *high* cervix or light day, I can't even use these 2 cups at all, because I feel that they keep "swimming" away from me when I try to reach for them, and I am only able to grasp at empty air :( But I don't use them now even on heavy, *low* cervix days because it is just not worth it to take over an hour just to remove them and get panic attacks all the time thinking "this time it really won't come out".

I only use the medium Meluna cup right now because it has a ring stem so I am able to grab a hold of the ring in order to pull it down low enough to pinch it in, then I can pull it out by pinching in the bottom and rocking it back and forth while pulling downwards.

I was wondering if anyone has any advice / suggestions? From what I've read it seems that most people have no difficulty reaching the stem and most usually have the opposite problem, that is, that the stem sticks out. I wish I had that problem instead! Do I have a reeeeeeeally abnormally long vagina or something?

I also want to get another cup as back-up, what could you recommend for someone with such a swan's neck vagina like me? I've read that Divacups are quite long, but they also look quite wide. Would you recommend perhaps getting another large Meluna but with a ring stem and in the soft version (instead of the classic version) instead, since I've read that softer cups are easier to remove, and the classic Meluna that I have is only of a medium softness (ie. not very soft, especially the rim which is quite stiff)? How about a Lilycup?

By the way, I'm over 30 (don't ask how much over 30 haha!) and I've had 2 babies the natural way. Thank you!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on January 2nd, 2014 01:54 am (UTC)
Compare the dimensions of the cups you have to others at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ or any of the other size charts at the Community FAQ. There are many other longer cups (that aren't much wider) that might fit and suit you better.

The Diva is only 1-2mm wider but significantly longer. And if you don't think it's long enough, then check out the Lily. Its integrated stem makes it extra long -- but also look at photos of it because it has an inner lip that you might or might not like.
aveja_maia on January 2nd, 2014 02:52 am (UTC)
Hi! Thank you so much for your suggestions. I already saw the chart before, but the thing is that it doesn't include the length of the Melunas with the stems, since the different stems are different lengths, so I would also be interested in knowing how long the Melunas are WITH the stem length included for the different stems, as compared with other brands. And also if there is a type of Meluna stem that is easier for people with very very very very high cervixes like me to reach? For example, most people seem to find the ball stem the most comfortable, but that is the stem that I have on the large Meluna and it is impossible for me to reach and grasp.

The NaturalMamma looks interesting, since it's quite long but not very wide. Is it longer or shorter than the large Meluna with the ring stem (which is the longest stem)? Has anyone here had any experience comparing the 2?
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 2nd, 2014 03:01 am (UTC)
The cups you mentioned all have quite short stems -- check out comparison photos of the FemmeCup here: http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/t230-femmecup-comparison-photos . My cervix is not as high as yours, but I also had trouble fishing a small Meluna with a ball stem out.

I think you'll probably have better luck with a cup that has a long stem or, alternately, a long bodied cup if you need the capacity. I haven't tried the Lily Cup myself, but I've been fairly happy with the small Diva (long v-shaped cup with short stem) and very pleased with the large Cuplee (similar shape but softer). Short bodied cups with long stems include the small Lunette (medium firm hoop-shaped cup), small Fleur (medium firm U-shaped, super grippy stem), and small Si-Bell (same shape as the Fleur, longer, more flexible stem, softer). I've heard that the Si-Bell is so soft that it can be removed without breaking the seal of the cup, which might be helpful in your circumstances. Good luck!
aveja_maia on January 2nd, 2014 03:41 am (UTC)
Hi, thank you so much for replying! Yes, I'm considering a Cuplee now or a Si-bell, from what I'm reading and people are writing here on this forum. The Cuplee actually seems to be longer than the Divacup, which would interest me more. I'm also interested in it being soft. I need something with a high capacity too, because I have very heavy periods (on the heaviest day I can go through a SUPER PLUS tampon in half an hour, now that's heavy!).
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on January 2nd, 2014 04:06 pm (UTC)
That is quite heavy! There aren't many cups out there that are long, narrow, and high capacity. I forgot to mention the NaturalMamma in my earlier post. It didn't work for me -- it was probably a bit too long and U-shaped for me -- but as it is relatively narrow and quite soft, I think it could be a good option for you. It is slightly higher capacity than the Cuplee due to the rounded base. They go for $20 including shipping from eBay from the manufacturer, so they are one of the least expensive cups to try.

If you need a super high capacity cup and are willing to deal with additional width, there's the new LuvUr Body cup, which offers a whopping 38ml of capacity and is 82mm long, which is almost a centimeter longer than most cups. http://www.femininewear.co.uk/luvur-body-menstrual-cup---clear-8025-p.asp I actually use different cups depending on how much capacity I need on a given day. Larger cups are generally a bit less comfortable for me, so I reserve them the one heavy day of my cycle and use teeny tiny cups the rest of the time.
pascallewest on January 2nd, 2014 06:25 am (UTC)
This photo comparison page was really helpful to me: http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library

Other than that, I have a Natural Mama and a Large Meluna with a tab stem. Natural Mama is maybe like 3-4 mm longer in total length. I use both for different times, but I gotta say i like the Natural Mama better. It's squishier than the Meluna classic, and I really like the length. It also retains the circular shape, unlike Meluna that turns into oval.
Jennnakedfaery on January 2nd, 2014 01:21 pm (UTC)
It sounds like natural mama would be a good idea for you. I have the same problem with a very high cervix. I have to basically squat down with my butt almost to the floor and bear down to get my cup out and I can rarely ever feel my cervix.
aveja_maia on January 2nd, 2014 07:37 pm (UTC)
Hi everyone. Thank you for so many wonderful replies. I'm thinking for the moment of getting a Femmycycle, because the huge huge huge problem that I have is REMOVING the **** thing! Yesterday it took me soooooooo long and it was sooooooo hard for me to fish out the LARGE meluna with a ball stem that I had (it was the one that they sent me for free in their buy one get one free offer), I kept trying to reach for it with one finger and it kept swimming away from me, that I got very tired and have decided to give up for this month, since that large Meluna is also the longest cup that I have.

So now I have a month to decide what to do next. I am thinking of the Femmycycle because it seems the easiest to remove, but if it doesn't work, or I decide in the end not to get it, I will probably try either the NaturalMamma or the large Si-bell, I guess it would depend in the end on which of those has the greatest capacity, is cheaper, easier to get where I live, etc. I'll update and let you know. :D

Yes looking at those comparison photos I can see why I wasn't even able to FIND the Femmecup (the first cup that I got, basically because it was the only cup that I could just pick up from a store here, as opposed to ordering online). The shop assistant told me his wife used it and was very happy with it, I guess we high-cervixed people must be a very rare, green-coloured breed or something haha! It took me forever to find that Femmecup, the instruction paper (and logic) said that it was impossible for anything to get lost "in there" since it is a closed space, but I thought, I've done the impossible, I've actually LOST a cup inside, it's disappeared!

Has anyone with a high cervix tried the Femmycycle, by the way?

Edited at 2014-01-02 07:50 pm (UTC)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on January 4th, 2014 03:34 am (UTC)
My cervix is high--not quite as much as yours but definitely on the high side--and once I got the hang of my FemmyCycle it's become the 8th wonder of the world on my heavy days when I'm working on my cruise job in sketchy ports with questionable bathroom access! It depends just how high yours is, though. I wonder if you could find some way to measure yourself, or just add the lengths of your long finger + the full length of the Meluna to figure out how much length you need. Good luck!
Lilianenurselily on February 1st, 2014 04:37 am (UTC)
Did you finally get a different cup? Si-bell or other? I also have an abnormally high cervix and would love to find out what cups you have liked or which ones work for you
aveja_maia on October 1st, 2017 01:15 am (UTC)
High cervix
Hi Nurselily. I've never dared to try another cup again, partly because they're all quite pricey. But I'm thinking of getting the medium Luv Ur Body cup which is the longest on the market, since people with very high cervixes have left reviews saying that they're very happy with it when no other cup would work for them. Have you found your goldilocks cup yet? :)
elisamba on January 2nd, 2014 09:18 pm (UTC)
I sympathize over trying to get a small cup off a very high cervix. As a high cervix person myself, I personally find a longer body easier to remove since I can pinch the base faster. Pulling on a long stem on a medium cup may just create a lot of suction. Edited to add: but my large Fleurcup is OK, I just have to squat and push.

You can compare total cup lengths on this chart, though it is unfortunately not as complete as the Livejournal Sizecharts. http://menstrualcup.co/brands/compare-menstrual-cup-table.html
Just click on the top of a column and the chart sorts by that parameter.

One long, soft, yet springy cup not mentioned yet is the Gaiacup, which I wholeheartedly recommend. It is one of the longest. The diameter is intimidating at first but really not a problem (I am a virgin).

Another possibility I am dying to try is the InCiclo (still called its old name, Misscup, on the chart). It is long yet narrow. But I have no personal experience with that one, yet.

Edited at 2014-01-02 09:23 pm (UTC)
Luceafaraluceafara on January 31st, 2014 01:30 am (UTC)
Have you seen the gorgeous Lunacup yet? It's nice and long - the large one is 7cm long, the medium 6.5.

Here's a blog post with some comparison pics:

Google translated link to shop:

Edited at 2014-01-31 01:41 am (UTC)