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28 December 2013 @ 11:53 am
Hi everyone, another convert here~ I'm 32, not been sexually active for too many years, and not had kids.

Just here to say it took me about 4 cycles to suss it out, but I'm there! Still not 100% but I managed to use my fleur cup successfully. It's still a battle and a half to get it in and even more so to remove, but I'm getting better and I love not having to wear pads in the middle of summer SO MUCH!!


My main problems initially were very sensitive bits around my opening, whenever I tried to insert the cup there would be a raw/stinging feeling(same reason stops me from using non applicator tampons), and once I got past that the cup would pop open too early and blast my bits to smithereens! Each cycle I would try and give up, and over the past three months I only managed to insert it once, but removed it after a short time because I wasn't sure it was sitting properly, and the tab was a bit uncomfortable.

But today, today I'm going to the beach! So I practised yesterday, determined to master this art, and I finally did it!! I even used it overnight without having to link a small pad to an overnight pad, then put towels under my bum! I'm still quite messy when removing it and wouldn't attempt to re-insert away from home, but at least now when I go to work I won't have to worry about what bottoms to wear and how many pairs of tight shorts to go under that in case of leakage.

Basically, I am reborn! A free woman!
elisamba on December 28th, 2013 07:51 am (UTC)
Great! Is it a small Fleur? You might try a triangle fold since it is so springy - the triangle controls the rim until almost full insertion. The elastic-on-lady-bits feeling is not one I want to repeat often lol. The small point may help you, too. Have you tried lube or water? Also trying different angles for insertion may help, including aiming straight back, towards your coccyx.
Kathlynekathlyne on December 28th, 2013 04:43 pm (UTC)
Congrats! Things will get easier with practice. If the stem is still bothering you after a cycle or two you can trim it. I've cut the stems completely off all of my cups. Best of luck!
lacrymaslave on December 29th, 2013 04:09 am (UTC)
Thanks for the suggestions. I have a small fleur and have had the most success with the labial fold, the triangle fold doesn't open readily for me :( I'm getting better at it, haven't found a lube without glycerine yet, so I've just been using water. Oh and I did cut one segment off the stem, I still need the rest to grab onto as otherwise it's almost impossible to break the seal because I have trouble reaching far up :S

Even though the learning curve has been quite steep, and I'm still really slow at removing it, I wouldn't go back to tampons and pads, that's for sure!
elisamba on December 29th, 2013 08:15 am (UTC)
If you are reaching up high to remove it even with the stem untrimmed, it sounds too short for you. There are a number of longer cups with a similar diameter, or you could go for the large Fleur, which I prefer to its little sister. It is softer but still springy, the texture is not as pronounced, and it collapses nicely when being removed.

I alternate that now with the small Gaiacup for heavy days, which is actually one of the longest cups and has 30 ml capacity.

When you have been digging for your too short cup like I was, it is such a relief when you can reach the base of your longer cup easily.
lacrymaslave on December 29th, 2013 09:01 am (UTC)
Thanks for the help :) I can reach the base of the cup, I just can't break the seal easily, and I can get my finger to the rim, but then my thumb won't fit up there to pinch the other side without pinching flesh. I find it comes out easier when it's full. Another thing I have trouble with is that the cup doesn't rotate when I try to turn it, I don't know if that's important?

So it sounds like I need a longer cup and maybe trim the stem off? At the moment with one segment off, the stem sits just inside the entrance and occasionally pokes out a bit. I actually did buy a big fleur but haven't tried fitting it yet as it seemed harder. I'll give it a go tonight :)
Kathlynekathlyne on December 29th, 2013 06:25 pm (UTC)
Rotating the cup is totally unnecessary--so don't worry about it/bother with it.

You may not need a longer cup. My stem is completely trimmed off, and I never reach all the way up to the rim to release the seal (even though I can). If you can reach the base then try to pinch it and rock it side to side to release the seal and then pull it down/out.

Since you have the large Fleur give it a go. Things will get easier/better.

Keep on keepin on!