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Ive heard some remarkable things about the Diva Cup (or, I should say, menstrual cups in general). After giving birth, I found that I could no longer use tampons as Australia does not sell the OB brand, and all other tampons available here on the Australian market expand in length (rather than in width - as does OB), and would slide out in a matter of minutes (an hour at most) - I have had to resort to pads ever since.

Ive been wanting to try out menstrual cups for MONTHS, and finally got around to ordering one online. As Diva Cup seems to be the most popular brand, I went with this one. I've never been so excited about getting my period!

The first evening was OK - it seemed to go in easily and relatively painlessly, overall very minimal spotting. Besides the stem of the cup constantly poking me, it didnt seem too bad at all. I left the cup in overnight, and was relieved that I wasnt able to feel the cup stem during the night while I was lying flat in my bed. When I woke up in the morning - there was not a spot of blood anywhere - yipeee!

During the morning however, as I was walking around and doing my regular duties etc, I pretty much felt the stem again with every single step that I took, and everytime I sat down. By lunch time I was terribly annoyed, so I followed the advice of many a diva-cup-user, and shortened the stem to probably about 2-3mm at most. I shouldnt have done this - not only could I STILL feel the stem, but it was a more extreme, sharper pain than beforehand!! The annoying dull pain had now turned into something much worse, and by the end of the day, I couldnt get the friggin thing out of me quick enough... You cant imagine what a relief it was to get it out - I was in so much pain!

Truth be told though, it actually came out kind of 'by accident' when I went to have a pee... I sat on the toilet as per normal, and although it hadnt been a problem beforehand, I suddenly felt the urge to 'push', as if giving birth... I had been put through so much pain today by the damn thing, I was actually quite happy to get rid of it, so I just sat there and kept pushing it out.

Overall, I am astounded at how well the cup worked in general... Besides the first couple of spots at the start, I had no leakage whatsoever. But the pain of the stem just became unbearable, and theres no way in hell I could put up with this for 5 or 6 days straight... Certainly not at work when I need to be concentrating on others things...

So, I suppose my first question to you is - has anyone else had the same difficulty? What did you do to get over it?

Im disappointed in myself for 'quitting' so early, as I know that some users take months of persistence to get used to wearing a cup... But I just cant put myself through cycles of pain like Ive had yesterday and today.

I am now exploring other options - Ive ordered the Instead Soft Cups, and will see next cycle if they work any better. They will be less painful, for sure, as they dont have that annoying protruding stem. Has anyone used these before? What is your verdict?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on November 24th, 2013 01:57 pm (UTC)
Take a look at any of the size charts at the Community FAQ or at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ and you'll see that the Diva is one of the longest-bodied brands of cups. It simply does not fit many people (myself included.) Try trimming the stem off completely. File down any sharp edges that remain. If the cup is still not short enough, then flip it inside out and try again. It's perfectly OK to wear it that way if it works for you. (It does for me.)

And then decide whether or not you'd like to try another shorter brand. Don't go from one extreme end of the size charts to the other. That's too great a jump. And once you think you know what size ranges might fit you, use side by side photos to compare the shapes of the cups within them. Narrow or full bodied? Flared rim or not? Pointy base or blunt? Etc.

My experience with Insteads is that they work better on light days than heavy. They're quite messy upon removal. Despite what the instructions say, they *ARE* reusable. Alternate two. Remove one, insert the other, wash the one you took out for next time. The ring is 70mm wide so (like the Diva) they don't fit every one. I keep some on hand because I think they're ideal for administering home remedies like yogurt for yeast infections, etc.
juliiie87juliiie87 on November 24th, 2013 03:39 pm (UTC)
Yeah, it does sound like you picked the wrong cup for your anatomy. Despite being soooo popular, the Divacup isn't "the best cup" (no such thing) nor does it fit everyone. If I told you size 6 or whatever shoes are the most popular, that doesn't mean they'll fit you. What you say about tampons points towards a shorter cup. BUT filing off the stem comletely and flipping the cup inside out might very well be enough for you to make it work. How short a cup you actually need is something you can figure out simply by reaching in and feeling for your cervix - cups typically sit (o) around it, so there's usually some leeway around the sides of it. Instead softcups have a record of fitting awkwardly for low-cervix folks I believe, as their 70mm rim has to fit lengthwise inside your canal, as opposed to how other cups sit. I haven't tried those myself though. Once you figure out that length issue, I'm sure you'll be able to make cups work for, you, so don't despair ! :)
flightopheonix on November 24th, 2013 05:03 pm (UTC)
I had this problem with my cup when I first got it- not a Diva- a Lunette, in my case, but it was still too long and then when I cut the stem, I was still annoyed by it. Turning it inside out made it fit SO much better.

I've ordered a few other cups to try out to replace it- as it was lost, and frankly, I wanted to try some alternatives.
elisamba on November 24th, 2013 08:39 pm (UTC)
It's a little late to give you this tip, but just in case other newbies are reading - on a practical note, noone should keep wearing their cup if it's hurting. Something needs adjusting. I think we get used to thinking no pain no gain, "I have to break these shoes in", "I'll get used to my IUD", etc - a friend just recently wore her cup several hours with the stem mostly out, figuring she just had to "get used to it". :o

But if a cup is giving you that much grief, it's better to take it out and start again when your body is more receptive or you figure out the problem. :) The beauty of cups is you won't feel it at all with the right one.