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29 October 2013 @ 11:15 am
I have been a cup user on and off for about 2 years. I started with the Diva, not knowing there were so many choices out there. The Diva was ok but it felt like it kept slipping down and becoming uncomfortable. I then moved on to the Lunette Selene. It has been the best cup for me so far. I never worried about trying to find my cervix because for the most part it worked fine. The issue with it was on my heavy days. Sometimes I would take it out because it was leaking but only half full. I assumed my cervix was taking up room so I bought both the Yukki and Fleurcup. All of my cups are large because I have 3 children and a heavy flow. I've tried using all 3 cups for several cycles and they have ok but not perfect. This cycle has been a complete failure and I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong. For the past 24 hours I have been trying all 3 cups in every fold and angle I can think of. I haven't been able to place it one single time without leaking. It's like I'm going backwards in the learning curve. I've tried everything possible to find my cervix but can't. I thought I felt it at one point but it was so close to the vaginal opening I don't think that's it. I have no trouble inserting any of the cups and they are completely comfortable when they are in. When I pull down on them they have suction so I assume they are open and sealing. Also, when I insert and let go it seems to shoot up like a rocket as soon as I let go. I think I've read every post on here and tried every technique and nothing works. This is my last ditch effort before having to go back to tampons and I'm so disappointed. Is there anything you can think of that I haven't tried.? It just doesn't make sense to me why I'm leaking with every cup.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on October 29th, 2013 03:22 pm (UTC)
Every once in a while I think we all have a period during which none of our cups want to cooperate. Sounds like you're having one now. Growl, grumble, say many bad words and it's OK to revert to tampons if that's all that will work for you this time around. Maybe tomorrow will be better. Until then, hang in there and don't get too frustrated.

Perhaps a nice glass of wine tonight? ;o)
m03m on October 29th, 2013 03:50 pm (UTC)
It sounds to me like your cervix may be closer to the opening than you think, and so your cups could be missing it completely. Maybe it would help to let your cup open lower?
treebeegirl on October 29th, 2013 03:56 pm (UTC)
That's what I was thinking but I can't seem to get it to pop open unless the whole thing is past my pubic bone. If the bump I'm feeling so low near my vaginal opening really is my cervix, how do I open the cup but get my cervix in it at the same time? Anyone with a very low cervix have any special folds or techniques to share?
m03m on October 30th, 2013 08:08 am (UTC)
Mine is pretty low. I use the Labia fold with the folded side down, and let the cup begin to open when it's halfway in.
Kathlynekathlyne on October 30th, 2013 01:05 am (UTC)
Sometimes when my cervix is very low the cup opens up to the side of it. I usually sweep around the cup to see if this is the case, and if it is, I pull the cup down, but not out, and aim it toward my cervix.

I have a dangly cervix, and it definitely takes up room in the cup. And I think I've only ever had *one* perfect month with no leaks. But I keep trying. And things have definitely improved.

And like someone else said we all have those months when the cup just doesn't want to work. Hopefully next month will be better.
tobilei on October 30th, 2013 08:27 am (UTC)
Do you have trouble your entire period? I've found I leak somewhat (even with an empty cup) no matter what on my first day. No idea why but 8 years has not done anything to help me figure out what the problem is. I just use it anyway and wear a waterproof liner for my first day.

If what you're feeling right at the entrance is your cervix then you probably need a much shorter cup (I believe MeLuna Mini's are short and wide so they still have okay capacity).

I 2nd doing the sweep once you have your cup in to make sure you can't feel a rounded bump to the side of the cup.

Last but not least, are you angling the cup backwards? It could be a placement issue. The pictures all make it look like you have to put the cup in straight up but mine sort of has to be pushed towards my tailbone and sometimes off to the right just a little or it misses my cervix.