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24 October 2013 @ 10:11 am
Hi all! Thanks for having this wonderful community! It takes a bit of moxy for me to write here, but I'm glad I'm not alone.

So, I purchased a Diva Cup (size 1) last month. It was an investment for me (yes, $40 is an investment for me.) I'd heard all the rave reviews on cups and wanted to try one for myself after months of toying with the idea. I got it home eager to try it, and soon realized that there really IS a learning curve! Guess this would be the time to tell you that I'm 21, not a virgin but not sexually active, and quite...petite. I had too much trouble inserting it last month, and decided I'd try this month. Well, "this month" is here. I *can* insert it now (I'll explain the asterisks), but now I have two issues....the first being a trust issue. I think to myself, "wow, this is so cool, I'm actually DOING this! It works!" and then, as I'm ready to let go, (to put it simply) I chicken out. I think, "OK, do I reealllyyy want to GO THERE? Yikes!" and I pull it out, and feel quite discouraged. I have visions of it getting totally lost or stuck (even though my brain knows this isn't possible) and ending up in the ER or in a situation something akin to childbirth. By the way, I can find my cervix. I think it's average (index-finger-length in). But the reason, aside from fear, that I haven't left it in is I haven't been able to get it to pop open. I use the punch down - C-fold is too big. I wonder if it's because I'm so tight? What would I do about that?

I've managed to not panic, by the way - I know being calm is key.

Have any of you gone through this? These highs and lows and chickening out when you're soooo close? I want it to work, since I took the plunge and bought it, not to mention that pads feel so unhygienic to me, and I'm not a huge fan of tampons. Last month I threw away all of my...waste...into a paper bag, and I couldn't believe how much it was. I'm not necessarily an environmentalist, but if I can prevent all that garbage ending up in the landfill AND do my body a favor at the same time, I'd love it.

Thanks a million!
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on October 24th, 2013 07:20 pm (UTC)
Well, the good news is that the Diva is one of the longest-bodied cups so if it does migrate north, you have the best chance of reaching its base (and not just a stem) for removal.

If you're worried about "poppage," practice feeling it unfold in your cupped hand.

As for removal, the best advice is to bear down, try to "push" it out, stay relaxed and TAKE YOUR TIME! Keep your jaw slack and don't forget to breathe. ;o) Some other tips are to drop your panties to your ankles so you can splay your legs loosely, lean forward or back to change your angle, or even squat in the tub/shower so you won't worry about dropping it or making a mess. And finally, a spoon can serve as a good pry-bar removal tool to break a stubborn seal.

Don't worry. BE PATIENT! If you have too much anxiety about using the cup, put it away until next time. NO PRESSURE. Do it when you feel mentally and physically up to it. And yes, it does take a while to learn to trust it. That's all part of the normal learning curve.
fiberartfanatic on October 24th, 2013 08:55 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much for your response! Really appreciate your advice. Great tip about practicing with your hand! I tried it, and it's very helpful. I'm all for visual aids :) Makes it seem less intimidating too!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on October 25th, 2013 01:13 pm (UTC)
Another thing you can do while you're gathering your courage is enlarge the tiny anti-suction holes around the rim. They help with popping open and with breaking the seal for removal. Something like a piecing punch might work better than scissors or a drill bit that could leave ragged edges. The holes on the cup with the biggest holes are 2mm.