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21 October 2013 @ 12:58 am
Hello! It's my first time using this site, so forgive me if I do something wrong. :)

So I bought some instead softcups a while back, and never got around to using them because I could never insert them properly.

I've been using a divacup for some time now, and I have a hate-love relationship with it... It's so much better than pads, but I must have a heavy flow or whatever because I always end up leaking and it drives me crazy. I can't go more than a few hours before having to dump it out, and it's a huge hassle to change it while I'm not at home, which is most of the time. :(

I was thinking about trying out the softcups again... hoping for it to be somehow better than the diva... so I attempted to insert one, but the cup seemed to be really close to popping out of my vagina. It was almost poking out. I felt like if I laughed or sneezed or anything it would have create a disaster, and gave up again.

Is it just not the right size for me? I don't quite understand the hooking thing I'm supposed to do with it, either. Ahhhh. :(
nemesis27nemesis27 on October 21st, 2013 08:04 am (UTC)
instead softcup

I´ve never tried a instead softcup, but I think this cup only have a size, the vagina is flexible so I think the size is not the problem, maybe this cup is more dificult to use than the rest.

try again, do dry runs if is necessary.

tobilei on October 21st, 2013 08:14 am (UTC)
I'm no help with the softcups but is it a large or small diva? I assume it fits height wise? How bad is the leaking? Could be what others on here call residual slobber.

I have a bit of trouble on my first day with mine but after that it's fine. Could be a placement issue (talking about your Diva cup). I usually do a sweep around the top of the cup to make sure my cervix is actually above the cup and not beside it or below the rim because that can cause leaking. I also only get about 4 hours out of mine at the most on day 1 so it has to be emptied a few times. I just wear a pantyliner with it on that day to catch any issues.
wheekwheekwheekwheek on October 21st, 2013 08:20 am (UTC)
It's a small. The leaking is definitely not residual slobber. :( When I remove my cup when it leaks, it's pretty full.

Maybe it's a cervix thing! I've never done a top sweep!
Or maybe I need a larger cup...

The thing is, four hours brings a lot of inconveniences. Sigh.
tobilei on October 21st, 2013 08:36 am (UTC)
Unfortunately smaller cups all have lower capacity and if the cup is pretty much full when you take it out it's probably full rather than your cervix being outside. When my cervix misses I get leaking even when the cup is empty.

If it fits you fine lengthwise (as in doesn't poke out at the bottom) then you can probably look at a larger cup for more capacity and stick with the longer one's (have you viewed the menstrualcupinfo size charts? Once you figure out whether your cervix is high or low it's easier to steer yourself in the right direction).

The large diva has pretty good capacity (some of us only get 4 hours regardless, just how it is if you have a heavier flow). The best for capacity I believe is the Yuuki cup (large). It comes in both a firm version and a soft version. If you don't get any bladder irritation from your diva the firm version is probably easier to pop open. MiaCup is another option. Unfortunately some of us don't find our dream cup first go (I have a large diva as I mentioned but also 2 MeLuna softs that don't work for me at all, have just ordered a small and large Yuuki cup).

There are plenty of other cups out there though (I have a high cervix so that rules a few of the shorter one's out for me and I don't like rounded bottoms but they're good if your cervix is stealing some of the cup space which they can do in the pointier cups like the diva).
juliiie87juliiie87 on October 21st, 2013 09:30 am (UTC)
Sounds like you'd benefit from a larger, high capacity cup !

http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ large Yuuki, XL Meluna, large Fleurcup and Femmycycle are a few worth considering, but they vary in size and shape so compare them carefully. Insteads are not one size fit all, seems link that huge rim is simply too long for your vagina.

Edited at 2013-10-21 09:32 am (UTC)
an idea is bulletproofelizalavelle on October 21st, 2013 10:02 am (UTC)
I started with Instead cups. You need to make sure that the front of the cup, the part that you feel is about to pop out of you, is pushed behind your pubic bone, then push it up it up a bit so it will stay put. You should feel it settle into place. Similar to the pop open feeling you get with a cup. Then when you are ready to take it out you need to hook your finger under the rim and pull down so that it moves from behind your pubic bone.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on October 21st, 2013 12:57 pm (UTC)
A higher capacity cup might help but if your cup is full, it's full! Plan ahead to empty it more often. I'm also (ahem) blessed with a heavy flow. Imagine how much more often we'd have to attend to tampons or other disposables. Suddenly a cup isn't so often after all.

I found that Insteads work better on light days than on heavy for me. They need to be aimed (excuse me) down toward your asshole instead of up toward your tailbone like other cups. They didn't want to pop out for me but like you, I discovered that I could partially empty them by bearing down really hard sitting on the toilet. What if that happened coughing, sneezing, laughing??? =8oO On the other hand, I like them for administering home remedies like yogurt for yeasties (etc.)