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18 October 2013 @ 01:46 am
My friend encouraged me to buy the diva cup as my first cup, but I cannot for the life of me insert it, so I'm looking for an alternative. I'm 21, virgin, never liked using tampons (a bit painful and they never expand when they're inside -- anyone know why that might be??). Anyway, I've tried various folds on the diva cup and finally got it in once, but it was so painful I couldn't even turn it and pop it open. I'd like to get something softer and smaller, so there isn't so much pain when I try to insert it (and that ships within the US, or affordably to here! I'm considering picking up some instead softcups to see if inserting those are any easier.)
My guess is I'm having this trouble because I have a low cervix, but that is only a guess because I have no other idea why this might be.
Any product recommendations or tips on how to get the Diva Cup to work?
nemesis27nemesis27 on October 18th, 2013 09:31 am (UTC)
I suppose you have a small diva, haven´t you?
if you have a large one, I think it work better a small one.
there are cups soft, like de lady or iris, more comfortable than the diva (I think)

but if you want to try with your diva, use a lubricant to introduce the diva, did you try the "c-fold"? for my is the easiest.
be quiet and try to do dry runs, every week for example, maybe helps you get used.

purplelover11 on October 18th, 2013 10:07 am (UTC)
I always had trouble with tampons too, and have a Ladycup and a Lunette (both large). In terms of comfort I would say Ladycup (can not feel it at all, though it takes a bit of manoeuvering sometimes), but I find Lunette pretty much pops open on its own with a punchdown fold. Perhaps the "squishiness" of the Diva wouldn't allow you to do this, but maybe give it a try if you haven't. I put the punched-down part towards the back, if that's any help...
juliiie87juliiie87 on October 18th, 2013 12:23 pm (UTC)
Use some lube to ease insertion, relax. Make sure you're not clenching your pelvic floor muscles. Relaxing them is similar to what is needed to use the bathroom, bearing down. And ignore the instructions that say it should sit low and to twist it. That's difficult at best and useless for most. It sounds like you may not have put it high enough, if you can still feel it. The way to know if this is related to your cervix is simple : insert a finger and look for a roundish bump standing out from your vaginal wall. Don't get a new cup just yet, since you already have the one, and you don't know yet what you'd want to be different in a cup. I wouldn't know what to advise if you haven't tried locating your cervix first. There's a learning curve, but you can do this ! take it slow.

Some pointers for a baby steps approach : http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on October 18th, 2013 12:44 pm (UTC)
Don't buy another cup yet. It's not the cup, it's you. You're just in the dreaded learning curve. It's not going to be any/much different with another cup. Figure this cup out first.

Read the Virgin's Guide to Cups at the FAQ. Get familiar with your body. Practice contracting and relaxing your PC muscles. Try using a little lube. Most of all, RELAX and BE PATIENT.

Then once you're comfortable with your Diva, decide whether or not you like how it fits.