My friend encouraged me to buy the diva cup as my first cup, but I cannot for the life of me insert it, so I'm looking for an alternative. I'm 21, virgin, never liked using tampons (a bit painful and they never expand when they're inside -- anyone know why that might be??). Anyway, I've tried various folds on the diva cup and finally got it in once, but it was so painful I couldn't even turn it and pop it open. I'd like to get something softer and smaller, so there isn't so much pain when I try to insert it (and that ships within the US, or affordably to here! I'm considering picking up some instead softcups to see if inserting those are any easier.) My guess is I'm having this trouble because I have a low cervix, but that is only a guess because I have no other idea why this might be. Any product recommendations or tips on how to get the Diva Cup to work?