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Hi -- would REALLY welcome advice for a user in her 40s. First some stats on me: I'm petite, 5'3", thin and active. I haven't had children and haven't been sexually active in several years, so I believe things are pretty tight down there lol. I've read through a lot of posts on this board and ended up buying a Diva cup 1 -- even though I'm older, given my frame and lack of kids, I thought that would be the best fit.

I really struggled with using the cup for the first time during my period last week. Cup hurt going in, but seemed to settle in nicely -- almost seemed "suctioned on" and I couldn't get it to turn. I'm pretty sure it was fully open as I felt around it and it was comfortable in there. Unfortunately I had leaks -- not great gushing leaks as it did catch a lot of blood, but was still leaking. I tried probably six separate times, emptying and reinserting, but it still leaked. Sigh.

It did seem to go in tilted to the right (I'm assuming my cervix is tilted) -- not sure if that's part of the problem.

Can anyone help with advice on the leaking?

Also it REALLY hurt every time I took it out -- should I be looking for a softer, more flexible model?

Thank you in advance for any thoughts or advice -- I really want this to work!
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on September 16th, 2013 07:03 am (UTC)
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hi mas98! Welcome to the community. Could I ask you to please remove the gendered language from your post? We explain why we ask this here. Thanks!
mas98 on September 16th, 2013 11:13 am (UTC)
Re: mod note
yes -- done -- my apologies!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on September 16th, 2013 01:51 pm (UTC)
No, don't buy another cup. You're just in the dreaded learning curve.

You are probably experiencing "residual slobber," which is the flow that winds up in the nooks and crannies of your vag during a change and then dribbles out. There are ways of combating it (see the replies at the leakage tag) but I was never able to conquer it fully so wearing a liner a day is a small price to pay for all of the other benefits of cups.

Another reason for leakage might be that the Diva is too long for you. Once you master removal, try flipping it inside out to shorten it on your low-cervix days.

Turning your cup is only one of the many ways to ensure that your cup is open and seated properly. Many of us can't do it either. Will this method work for you? Insert your cup part way, make sure it's open fully, then give it a boost as you kegel it up and into place. Despite what the instructions and illustrations say, you want the cup to be (O) around your cervix.

The Diva has tiny little anti-suction holes around its rim. They help with popping open and removal. Sometimes enlarging them helps but if removal hurts so badly, it's probably because you're rushing the process. Slow down and take your time. The idea is to get air into/above the cup. Try using your finger to create an air channel on the soft back side of your vag to get air up there. Then rock it out at and angle so it's not "the whole cup" at once.
mas98 on September 17th, 2013 04:38 am (UTC)
Thanks - these are really helpful suggestions. I like the idea of "kegeling" it up as opposed to trying to turn it once it's all the way in -- I'll give that a try.

Regarding taking it out -- it really hurts right as it's coming out -- I had been folding it into a C shape (which was a little messy but made it smaller), but I will try angling it too.

Appreciate your comments!
juliiie87juliiie87 on September 16th, 2013 03:47 pm (UTC)
If it did catch a lot before it leaked, it sounds like it may have been overflowing (cervix sitting inside the cup reduces actual capacity). So besides emptying more often, you could try a differently shaped, higher capacity cup. Removal is mostly a matter of practice and technique; you can sort of refold the cup on the way out to make it smaller and don't forget to bear down through the whole process so your entrance remains as loose as possible. BUT it's true that osfter cups are typically easier to refold on the way out.

Edited at 2013-09-16 05:17 pm (UTC)
mas98 on September 17th, 2013 04:42 am (UTC)
You are making a good point about it possibly overflowing -- I have super, ridiculously heavy flow the first two days and I was literally taking it out about every 1-1/2 hours, so maybe it was overflowing. Are some cups more suited to the cervix not sitting in them (or I'm guessing it's just about getting more holding capacity)...

Thanks for your thoughts, I am really determined to make this work for me.

m03m on September 17th, 2013 10:44 am (UTC)
There are definitely cups with more capacity than the small Diva. And you will probably have no problems adjusting to a wider cup. If I were you, I'd pick a soft one, so you can easily fold it for removal and minimise discomfort.

The large Fleurcup or Si-Bell might be good options for you.

Just so you know, the size of your whole body doesn't relate very much to the size of your vagina. Thin people don't always have narrow vaginas; short people don't necessarily have short vaginas, either.
juliiie87juliiie87 on September 17th, 2013 01:41 pm (UTC)
I agree with m03m's comment, I was thinking of large bell-shaped cups like the large Si-bell. See how they compare stiffness-wise : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/
And capacity-wise : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

By the way, that does sound like a heavy flow, and I know it is the norm for some people, but if it's been getting worse lately, you might want to track how much fluid is lost and report those numbers to your doctor.
mas98 on September 17th, 2013 04:43 am (UTC)
I'd welcome any and all other comments -- thanks in advance!