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true. | sencillo
09 September 2013 @ 10:53 pm
hello everyone,

WOW it's been a long time since i've logged into my LJ account! i'm a first-timer and i'm really excited to buy my first cup! i've literally been running around the house yelling "menstrual cup" at my boyfriend for the last 12 hours.

i would love to hear your opinions because, despite having done some research, i really have no idea what i'm doing or which cup would suit me best.

info:
- 24 y/o
- never pregnant
- very tall + thin
- first two days are heavy flow (1 super plus every 2-2.5 hours, but i'm frequently oversaturating them in that time, like saturation down the string, sorry for the tmi) and almost annoyingly light at the end of my cycle
- sometimes sexually active
- comfortable putting shit in my vagina
- my cervix positioning is at 2.75 inches right now and it's been three days since my period
- comfort is huge so i'm aiming for a soft cup, but also hoping for a manageable first cup
- worried about leaks because of my ridiculous waterfall vagina for the first two days

i'm really interested in the sckoon large (+++) and the meluna large (maybe) but i would love your thoughts! also, do you guys find you need to carry lube/hand sanitizer around with you when you know you'll be in a public bathroom emptying/reinserting? is there anything else i should buy specifically for this thing, like its own sterilization mug or anything? i'm making a shopping list! thanks! :)
 
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on September 10th, 2013 03:13 am (UTC)
Welcome!

Since I had some problems selecting a cup at first I'll let you know right away...you definitely need to know if your cervix is, at least, on the low or high side (exact measurements fluctuate depending on your cycle)...otherwise you might end up like me and spend several hours trying to fish a tiny Meluna out of a super long vag (or, the opposite problem, feeling like a too-long cup is going to pop out of a short vag). Your cervix supposedly dips lower during your period but I've found that this only happens a little bit for me and that's at the very end of my cycle when I don't always need to be using a cup anyway...otherwise it's basically unreachable. The rule of thumb seems to be that if you can't find your cervix with your finger (while not aroused), and your fingers aren't unusually short for your size, you prob have a high cervix, and if you can reach it before getting your whole finger in there, you can at least measure how much of your finger you were able to insert :) Height doesn't always have to do with it either so you don't want to assume a high cervix just because you're tall. Once you've decided where your cervix likes to be (maybe measure over a few different days) you can swing over to the size charts at sizecharts.livejournal.com and check out some options. Hope this helps!
true. | sencillohalodrag on September 10th, 2013 03:18 am (UTC)
i tried finding my cervix but i'm embarrassed to say i don't really know if i'm finding it or not. when i'm spelunking in the squatting position it becomes uncomfortable around my knuckle, which is slightly over 2 inches in. not sure if that's long or short or if it goes farther than that, and that was a day or two post-period. and i'm also not sure how different that measurement would be during my cycle. what to do?

Edited at 2013-09-10 03:19 am (UTC)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on September 10th, 2013 04:14 am (UTC)
Hmm, like sort-of-menstrual-cramp uncomfortable? Are you hitting anything that might feel vaguely like the tip of your nose when you get that uncomfortable crampy feeling? Particularly if you try looking left or right of where your finger naturally goes (my cervix leans left)? If so you've got it. Luckily at "slightly over 2 inches" you don't have an insanely high cervix, so you'll have a wider selection of cups to choose from then. The large Fleur and the Rubycup seem to be popular options for high capacity + soft + normal-to-short cervix, but others can chime in with more specific suggestions!
true. | sencillohalodrag on September 10th, 2013 04:25 am (UTC)
i just made my boyfriend find it (for science) and it was 2.75inches in. i don't know if that changes things at all, but i'm going to consult the sizing chart!
ginny587ginny587 on September 10th, 2013 09:20 pm (UTC)
Find it during your cycle, too! Usually they move lower, sometimes they'll move higher. I found mine low while not on my cycle, got a short cup, and then it vanished somewhere near my ribcage during (jk-but I couldn't reach it at all). There's no way to guess what it will do.
true. | sencillohalodrag on September 10th, 2013 09:25 pm (UTC)
thanks for this post. i had been wondering about that! does that mean i have to wait until my next cycle to buy? :(
elisamba on September 11th, 2013 04:38 am (UTC)
It's not a bad idea - I also had the "short cup suctioned to a high cervix" experience, not one I want to repeat.

But if your budget allows, you could try a one-size-fits-most cup which a stem, of which the Sckoon is one. Not too long or too short, juuuuust right (you'll see Goldilocks pop up on this board a lot). Other mid-sized possibilities are the Ruby cup (each one bought means a donated cup to a Kenyan schoolgirl), large Fleurcup (my favourite) and large Lunette (a favourite of many beginners, no personal experience). You'll see them all huddling together slightly right of center on the size chart.
juliiie87juliiie87 on September 11th, 2013 12:58 pm (UTC)
I agree with elisamba, it could definitely get a bit lower while on your period, or not. But cups that are around the large Sckoon-large Fleurcup size and shape tend to fit most people. Long tappered cups like the Diva and Yuuki are better suited for medium to long vags, so they're a bigger risk in that respect, while you're unsure of your measurments. The large Lunette though ? is both tappered and FIRM, so I wouldn't recommend it right off the bat.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on September 10th, 2013 03:19 am (UTC)
I see from another post that you found the size charts. http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ Good. :o) Also use side-by-side photos to pick out a shape that appeals to you from the ones that you think will fit/suit you. It's not an exact science. Just get into the right ballpark in sizing. Those who struggle usually do so because they picked a cup that's WAY TOO short or long.

If I'm in a public rest room with no access to water, I just dump the cup and re-insert it. The few drops that remain won't make any difference, and the more I (for example) wipe it with TP, the greater the chances of dropping it. =8oO (TP tends to stick too.)

Some others bring in a wet paper towel or a bottle of water with them.

At home, I just rinse it with water between insertions. Then wash and rinse it well when I'm done with it and then give it another quick rinse before using it again next month. "As clean as cutlery."

I don't boil my cups and I only give them an overnight soak in some hydrogen peroxide about once a year -- just because the yellowish one in my user pic tends to get very dingy and what the heck, I'll soak the other one too.

So what else do you need to buy? A small package of liners is a good idea for "residual slobber" and for catching "Oh no, it's in wrong!" while you're getting through the dreaded learning curve. It's not a Barbie. You don't have to buy it a wardrobe and a Malibu Beach House. ;o)
true. | sencillohalodrag on September 10th, 2013 03:26 am (UTC)
i was going to build it a castle, but forget it now.

thanks for the tips! liking the liner idea.
trejoytrejoy on September 10th, 2013 03:33 am (UTC)
I used a large, soft meluna for two years and now have a large sckoon. I have had less trouble positioning the sckoon, but that could just be my own learning curve with cervix position. I like the large sckoon over the large meluna because the sckoon slightly wider and shorter but the stem is long enough to find on my higher days and flexible enough to not feel it on the lower ones! I also like the texture of the grip pattern at the base of the cup. But if you want a marginally longer, narrower cup, the large meluna could work well for you.
juliiie87juliiie87 on September 10th, 2013 10:46 am (UTC)
It sounds like you'll want something with a decent length and/or a good long stem (look at the medium to long area of the chart) and with as much capacity as possible, so likely a wide cup too. The large Sckoon would be one of your options, it also seems like it's a fairly soft one. On the soft end of the spectrum I also like my Cuplee very much, but for a bit more length and capacity, large Yuuki soft might be an interesting option to consider.
true. | sencillohalodrag on September 10th, 2013 09:26 pm (UTC)
yes! the yuuki looked interesting so i'm going to do a little more research. thanks so much for the recommendations!