So I've been reading through this for hours. Lots of information and so many different cups.
I decided to try a menstrual cup a few weeks ago for several reasons. But as many newbies, I'm having a struggle.
First some, if too much, information on me: I'm 33 and a non-virgin. With that said, I'm a lesbian and haven't been with a man in 12-13 years. I also don't use toys for sex. I'm mentioning this because I'm very small. If I'm not in the full forces of being on my period, inserting a tampon is very difficult. I also have to use an applicator as it's smoother and goes in easier. I'd use teen tampons if they made them in the brand I use. Over the last year or so, I've been experiencing pain when inserting tampons. I feel like my insides are being torn apart. In fact, my last pap, took 3 doctors to get. Granted, the first two were GP's. They were extremely painful and they never got a proper swab. They finally referred me to a Gyno, who didn't seem to have much of an issue. This is really what provoked the thought of using a cup as it has no rough edges at all. But I was concerned with the size and being able to insert it. Again, two fingers even is a bit much for me. I can do it, but sometimes it's more difficult than others.
So, I did a little research before purchasing, but probably could have done more. I went with the MCUK in the small size. I have very light periods so capacity isn't an issue. I had heard this opened easy enough and was weary of the "slapping" experience that my friend speaks of. She won't go near her cup anymore. So I tried inserting it as a dry run, but honestly, that simply won't happen unless I get lubricant or do it whilst aroused, which would be awkward. Today I started my period though and gave it a shot. I had already tried several times, so I already found a fold that would most likely work (the smallest fold I could manage). Since I'm unable to insert the cup with two fingers at once combined with the cup size, I kind of had to coax it up. As you know, the MCUK has quite a stem on it. I didn't cut it because I didn't want to cut it too short. But at this point, it's sticking out quite a bit. It's not overly comfortable. I can't tell if it's just due to the stem, or if it's more than that. I also don't have the means to cut it right now as I'm in a hotel traveling. But I'm not sure if I've inserted it far enough. It feels like it's fully open, but I can't imagine it's in far enough? I don't know how to tell. Apart from that, it is also making me feel as though I have to pee and I know I don't.
It was also painful getting it to open up. Like it felt like the rim was digging into me. I don't know if I should keep trying with this cup or go for a softer cup? Maybe a shorter cup? Or maybe I'm just not getting it in far enough?