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16 August 2013 @ 12:46 am

Hey guys!

I am 20 years old, stopped being sexually active approx. 2 months ago after a breakup, suffer from pain during the insertion of literally anything, and I first posted on this site a little over a year ago. I left after being harassed by someone and after failing for two cycles to even get a cup to open, but I'm back and have been a little more successful today! However, I have questions.
I own a Diva Cup (small) and two of the "original"/old style Meluna (small and medium, classic stiffness).
If I read correctly, their original style is now called Mini, and they changed their cup shape for their standards...? Please clarify if I'm incorrect.
My cervix seems to be very low, and I have difficulties with tampons. They leak literally within 20 minutes of insertion, despite being correctly inserted, and only generally only absorb blood at the very tip and the very bottom, sometimes along one side as well. Because of this, I was hoping to use a cup and NOT leak, as birth control has made my period much heavier (but also much shorter).

I previously had problems with the Diva, as it was too long, and then bought the two Melunas, which I couldn't get to open. Today, however, I am home for a menstrual cycle in the first time for a year and decided to try the cups again. Surprise, they worked! I have not leaked at all today, except for some slight residual,  but the stems caused me pain for all three cups. I kept switching between them, but no matter how long the cup was, the entire stem stuck out of each cup, and the bottom of the cup sat just above my labia. I sucked up my fear and cut the stems off, which has made the Diva painfree, if not for a slight irritation at my inner labia, but the Medium Meluna is a monster! The entire time I was wearing it (~3 hours) I suffered from intense cramping, plus a sharp pain where the stem (the ring-style) was rubbing. I removed the stem after removal, but was too afraid to try it out, and instead chose to attempt the Diva for my first sleeping run.

Can anyone explain to me what the issue is...? Is it because the Meluna is too wide? Or is it because of its thick rim? The small Meluna does not cause the same pain. Maybe the cup is too firm? Again, the small Meluna doesn't do this.

Also, because my cycle is so heavy for two days, I think I would need to change my cup every 3 hours or so, much like I need to change BOTH a pad and tampon every 2 to 3 hours. Judging from tonight, this would literally rip me apart. Is there any cup with a larger volume that isn't as long as the Diva? I had been looking into get a Lunette, but I don't know anymore...

I seem to have conquered my previous issue of opening, though the cup does not feel open when I test with a finger. Does this mean my muscles are too strong for the cup?

edit// Diva cup leaked sometime between 10 or 11pm and 2am, halfway full. Normal or am I being too picky about capacity? I'm tired of going to the bathroom every 4 hours to change myself. My cycle was never this bad before I turned 20. ):

teacupcake89 on August 16th, 2013 08:46 am (UTC)
The small Divacup only holds 20mls to the airholes so it's not uncommon that you have to empty it often on heavy days. Plus, if your cervix is low then the Diva's pointy v bottomed shape means if your cervix is sitting in the cup and stealing capacity, then there's not much blood capacity left! a solution would be a wider round bottomed cup with high airholes like a large Fleurcup which is 5mms shorter than the small Diva, softer than the Diva or your melunas and only 1mm wider than your medium mini meluna.

the material melunas are made from means that they mould to your body shape more, so they might remain oval after removal for a while, if the cup isn't leaking don't worry about it.

AFAIK: Meluna changed their cup design/shape so that they would hold more, but continued to produce the older pointy 'mini' designs because of the demand from low cervix cup users.
Megan: SafeToComeOuthdsqrl on August 16th, 2013 01:01 pm (UTC)
To add to teacupcake's comment - imagine sticking your fist into a large cup. The cup can now hold less water than before you put your fist into it, right? If you were to put your fist into the cup, and then fill the cup with water, and then remove your fist, you might think something was wrong because CLEARLY the cup should be able to hold more water than that. The same is true for menstrual cups. Lots of people will leak, and then find the cup to be half-empty when they remove it, and will think something is wrong. It's not - the cervix just took up that much room in the cup (cervix = fist, in this example.)

Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on August 16th, 2013 04:56 pm (UTC)
Compare the dimensions and the capacities of your cups to other brands at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ or any of the other charts at the Community FAQ.

Yes, there are many cups that are shorter than the Diva (it's one of the longest brands) and there are also several others that hold more. But you will probably have to go for something called "large" (the rim width really isn't that different) for high capacity. The large Lunette and large Fleur are favorites of many. Compare their shapes -- pointy vs blunt based. And compare their stiffness -- stiff vs squishy.

The large Sckoon and the (one size) Ruby are gaining in popularity as short cups with only slightly lower capacities. The large Ladycup is also an old favorite in that category though some complain that it's "too slick" to get a good grip for removal.
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 16th, 2013 09:32 pm (UTC)
In addition to what everyone else said : if the Diva is decidedly too long for you, cut off the stem, and FLIP IT INSIDE OUT. Seriously, it works for many people that way and makes it shorter by a good bit. The only drawback is it's going to be completely smooth, so removal might be a tad more difficult, but your comfort should improve greatly. Re: the medium Meluna, it's possible the combination of the width + especially the stiffness is giving you cramps. And regarding your issues with tampons, it sounds to me like you had to stick them NEXT to your cervix instead of under, that's why they wouldn't catch absorb blood so well. Fyi, cups need to sit (o) around the cervix, something to check for in case of impromptu leaks. But if it looks partially full ? consider it full, like others explained. Seconding the rec for a wide, soft, bell-shaped cup such as large si-bell or Sckoon cup, in case you decide to get another cup. Large Fleurcup is also an option and a fairly cheap one as cups go, a tad stiffer than those 2 but less so than the Diva or classic Meluna.