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Hi all :) I'm a first time cup user and also a first time livejournal-er. I tried to find a post that would answer my question but I couldn't really find what I was looking for, so sorry if it actually exists and I just didn't see it :/

Anyway, about two weeks ago I did some extensive research on menstrual cups and decided I wanted to buy one. I finally decided on the Lunette Selene, model 1. I was really excited when it arrived this afternoon. I immediately took it out of the box and read the instructions (even though I'd read them a million times on several websites) and I played around with different folds. I decided to do a dry run so I wet the cup and my body with water and got to work. Let me tell you, it was not easy. I'm 17 and a virgin, and I'm very familiar with my anatomy. But I unsuccessfully tried to insert this cup about 3 or 4 times but I just couldn't, it hurt so bad.

I played around with positions and folds and eventually got it in but it was SO painful, both insertion and removal. I have a high pain tolerance, and I figured it was going to hurt at least a little. But this? I don't think I can do this 2-4 times a day for the duration of my period. It doesn't hurt once I've got it in, but I can feel it there. I've heard that you're not supposed to feel them at all. Does it need to be farther in? After I get the whole cup in I kind of lose my grip and it unfolds (at least I have no trouble getting it to open), and after that I have trouble moving it up. Or is it just because I'm not on my period?

Anyway, after about 6 attempts (and about 4 successful ones) I felt like I'd just stuffed a cactus up my vagina for 2 hours afterwords. I even think I literally tore my hymen a little.
Why is this? I'm being gentle, I'm trying different folds, I was relaxed and I wasn't scared (mostly). Will it always hurt this badly? I'm sort of hoping it's just because I'm doing a dry run, and because I over did it a bit. What can I do to reduce the pain?
 
foofookachoo on August 16th, 2013 05:03 am (UTC)
I can't really be of much help, as I haven't successfully used any of my cups for a cycle. However, I made a lot of progress today (after a year hiatus from trying...) and realized that:
a) insertion is a lot easier when I'm actually menstruating,
b) running the cup under warm water helps me fold it,
and
c) the water helps it not stick to the labia, as well as pulling them as far open as possible with the spare hand. I can get away without doing anything to my labia using an OP tampon (aka applicator free) but the cup is a different story.

Good luck!

Edit: also, I use the Labia fold [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjG2ZlnsqIA] which is the only one I can get to open. Or, it feels crushed when I test with my finger, but hasn't leaked at all today, haha. The other folds I've tried haven't ever opened.

Edited at 2013-08-16 05:15 am (UTC)
fee_parisienne on August 16th, 2013 05:31 am (UTC)
Use some water-based lubricant (on yourself rather than the cup - it can be hard to hold onto a slippery cup!) if you can get hold of some.
teacupcake89 on August 16th, 2013 08:31 am (UTC)
THIS THIS THIS. Or coconut oil is also good.
divagirl98 on August 17th, 2013 09:46 am (UTC)
Definitely THIS!!! I use KY Jelly (it's water based so it should be okay) and they sell it practically everywhere in the sex aisle of the pharmacy section.

A tip... if you don't wanna try applying the lube directly to yourself, put it on the tip of the cup only then rub it around the opening a little... as you're inserting, the lube will rub against your vaginal walls and make it slide right in without getting the cup slippery. I wish I'd known that lube trick before I dropped my cup in the toilet from getting it so slippery (I sterilized it... don't worry).
teacupcake89 on August 16th, 2013 08:34 am (UTC)
Wait for your period to start, use lots of lubricant and take your time.

In the meanwhile read The Virgin's Guide to Cups: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html

and an faq post on getting cups to pop open: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2618390.html
nutmeggray on August 16th, 2013 08:22 pm (UTC)
I had the same problem, with a size small. I'm 17 and a vergin also. I've never had trouble with tampons but the cup was so painful to insert! I cut off the top rim, that helped a little but not enough. I eventually bought a small mini soft meluna cup and it was SO easy to use! Glides right in painlesly! I re-tried my old cup and found that it is much easier to insert now too!

I have had trouble with my meluna leaking or over flowing at night. It is very small so I can't wear it a really long time. I would think a small meluna classic or soft would work well. I also use aloe Vera gel and that helps too. I heard that its not good to use oil as a lubericant because it can cause an infection, so be careful about that. But aloe Vera gel is water based so its safe as long as its good quality. They sell it as a personal lube at stores.

Let me know if you make any progress, I'd love suggestions, I'm still workin through the problem too!
m03m on August 18th, 2013 02:17 pm (UTC)
Not all oils are likely to cause infections. Coconut oil is very safe. It's even mildly anti-bacterial and anti-fungal.