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14 August 2013 @ 03:17 pm
I'm thinking about buying the Lunette Model 1 this weekend because I am tired of the inconvenience of pads. My only question is, is it okay to use for those who have a death grip vagina? I'm so small down there (never had penetrative sex) that I haven't been able to use tampons, not even the slender kind. Even going to the gyno is excruciating despite the fact she uses the smallest speculum that is the size of a super plus tampon. So would this be an issue with the cup? If so, is there a way around it. I've already read up on all the techniques to get it in and out. I'm more looking for personal tips and experiences.
Luceafaraluceafara on August 14th, 2013 11:57 pm (UTC)
I'm not a virgin but am pretty small inside myself, and I had similar trepidations, which is why I picked the small soft Meluna as my first cup. It was a great experience from the first try.
Have you checked the size charts and also checked how high your cervix is?
mykinkysocksmykinkysocks on August 16th, 2013 04:18 am (UTC)
Yeah I've checked both. I think I may just go with cloth pads instead. I really don't trust putting something up there that may not want to come out. =/
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on August 15th, 2013 07:01 am (UTC)
see this article: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/a_few_choice_words_about_tightness
i'm a virgin and with practice I've learned to insert even three of my fingers. are you able to insert two? cups are very difference from speculums, and being "in control" can also help.
do your best to relax, it's always mentioned wrt removal, but it's important for insertion too. i'd get something softer (though my first reaction to my small lunette was "awww it's so soft!!!!!!!" :D), although there's also the risk of having to fiddle before the cup pops open. http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2618390.html

how did you choose a small lunette? ALL brands will tell you to get their small size, or the medium if they offer one.
mykinkysocksmykinkysocks on August 16th, 2013 04:17 am (UTC)
I can only insert one finger. Two is pretty unthinkable. I'm starting to think I'm stuck using pads. Oh well, I may go with cloth pads then. Still inconvenient but not as bad as the disposable ones.
Serpentserpent_849 on August 16th, 2013 10:34 am (UTC)
relax and consider lube, this should be possible. this might sound weird but just stretch yourself daily, especially in the shower. insert one finger and move it a little. sooner or later you'll be able to insert two.

or just go ahead and get a cup. there are some really tiny folds, like the triangle fold.
Kaikuradi8 on August 16th, 2013 05:29 pm (UTC)
If your hymen isn't in the way, you're probably clenching your PC muscles. To isolate them, next time you go pee, start and stop your stream a few times. Then insert your finger and give it a little squeeze. Now that you know how to contract them on command, practice RELAXING them on command. You'll need to do that for insertion and especially removal. Open your mouth a little and keep your jaw slack -- and don't forget to breathe! :o)

And final tip: If you don't already, drop your panties to your ankles so you can splay your knees comfortably. Keeping them up at knee height makes it hard to maneuver around down there.

Once it's in, cups sit above those muscles where the walls are quite elastic and capable of accommodating things much larger than a cup.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on August 16th, 2013 08:26 pm (UTC)
also check the tags for virginity and hymen. plenty of success stories from virgins :)
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 16th, 2013 10:31 pm (UTC)
I think cloth pads are great, worlds better than disposables (could never stand those but I love my fluff) but honestly if you want to try a cup, go ahead, I'm pretty sure you'll be able to do it sooner or later just like other virgins and even teenage girls before you. There's more room (with mostly no nerve endings so no pain) in there than you may think, past the tiny entrance, that's why cups work so well for the vast magiority of people. I also suggest you read the "virgin" tag and the Virgin's guide to cups, if you haven't already. I also recommend looking into softer cups such as Si-bell, Miacup, Cuplee, Sckoon cup and Meluna soft, because those will feel less bulky, more gentle and easier to fold tightly for insertion, and some for removal as well.

Edited at 2013-08-16 10:33 pm (UTC)
nutmeggray on August 17th, 2013 07:58 pm (UTC)
I think the mini soft small meluna is a great one to start out with. It's the smallest and softest on the market. I would definitely recommend trying a cup, the benefits are so wonderful!