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14 August 2013 @ 12:38 am
Thanks for this forum. My head is spinning. Please help me select the right model for my first cup.
I plan to buy two, but hope to buy just two as money is a factor.

Width/Tone: I am 34, have had two children: one 18 months ago and one 18 months before that. The first was big (9#6) and the second was a vaginal breech (but thankfully 2# smaller)...so I'm done my share of stretching (and tearing). However, I do have a strong pelvic floor, I believe, and I continue to kegel and squat and generally workout.

Length: I have a high cervix mid-cycle, only the tip of my middle finger can touch it when I am squatting. I will need to check again during my flow, but I believe if I remember right, it's pretty high then too. This being teh case, I am a bit nervous about getting anything that might "poke" me. I am very comfortable with my anatomy and am not nervous about being able to remove a cup. And I like the freedom of love-making with my cup in.

Capacity: My flow is usually pretty medium, I only use "super" tampons for a day, then switch to regular. I've never bought the really big tampons, but my most recent period I had a very heavy day where I kept flooding my backup liner (that was unusual). My period has just been back 6-9 months, but the cycles have been pretty regular.

Economy is important to me: both for my wallet and for the earth. So I'd like a cup that will last many years. However, I admit that the non-latex ones all *look* much more appealing. And somehow latex seems like a bad idea with my sensitive skin, though I've never had a latex allergy/problem.

I'd be so grateful for your help! Like I said, my head is spinning. But I'm very excited to get on the bandwagon. I used Instead back 15 years ago or more, but I had no idea what kind of products were out there... or I would have done this sooner! Thank God for facebook! :) Thanks, All.
juliiie87juliiie87 on August 14th, 2013 11:49 am (UTC)
Hey, welcome.

I would strongly advise that you check from your cervix again at the beginning of your period. If it doesn't move much, it sounds like you might want a long-ish cup, most likely a "large" size (wide) for capacity's sake. I'm not sure what you mean by poking, you could get a stemless Meluna or just remove the stem on any cup, although that's a bit counter intuitive with a high cervix. Love-making is more specifically advised with Instead Softcups for pokiness reasons, but there have been occurrences with bell-shaped cups too... but you'll want something fairly rounded and preferably stem-less or at least very soft for that, so it kind of limits your options. Regarding stiffness : do you have a sensitive bladder, lots of period cramps ? that would also be relevant. The charts if you haven't checked them yet : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/
rev_mama on August 14th, 2013 01:06 pm (UTC)
I do get cramps regularly, usually one day general achey-ness with less than an hour of intense cramping. Never had a sensitive bladder.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on August 14th, 2013 12:54 pm (UTC)
Length and Width: Yep, use the size charts to pick out some brands that you think would fit you. Sounds like something medium-to-long and wide will suit you. Also compare side by side photos of those cups to pick a shape that appeals to you.

PIV sex: Cups are not designed to have PIV sex. Some have done so successfully but it's not recommended by the makers. However, Insteads are -- so there's no reason you can't swap for one of those for that purpose.

Capacity: Since you don't need a super-high capacity cup, you have a lot of options.

Economy: With proper care, a cup could/should last about 10 years so whether it pays for itself over disposables in 3 months or 10 months won't matter all those years down the line. Nearly all brands of cups are made of silicone. Exceptions: The Keeper is latex and the MeLunas are thermoplastic elastomers (TPE.)

You mentioned buying two cups. Start with one. Get the hang of it (there is a learning curve) and then use what you know and like/dislike about it to pick your second cup. You might get something similar -- to refine the fit of it. Or you might want something completely different -- for example, a light days cup to supplement your all-around heavy days cup.
rev_mama on August 14th, 2013 01:09 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the advice! Yes, I'm thinking one now and one after I try it. I was just thinking it would be nice to have a backup.

All of this is great info! My only problem is I feel I have too many options! How would you narrow it down?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on August 14th, 2013 02:32 pm (UTC)
http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ Since you claim to be long and recently a mom again, the bottom right hand quadrant of the size chart is probably where you'll find a cup to fit. Look at photos and pick the one that looks the best.

Finding the right cup is not an exact science. Those who struggle usually do so because they picked a cup from the wrong end of the spectrum. Just get into the right ballpark in size. And then pick the one that calls to you from those. Go with your gut, it's probably right.
elisamba on August 23rd, 2013 07:02 am (UTC)
By "my head is spinning", you're maybe wanting some concrete names of cups, am I right? :-) Combining your OP and replies, I would say that easy-pop rim + soft body + colour selection + silicone + affordable + longer body = large Fleurcup. Check out the dimensions to see if the length corresponds to your cervix height while on your period (bearing in mind that the stem can be trimmed and filed smooth). The capacity is just under 30 ml, I believe, so you'd be covered for lighter and heavier flow days.

In my experience, for removal it is better to have a bigger, longer cup corresponding to your cervix height, rather than a smaller cup because of reasoning that you aren't collecting as much flow. The cup wiggles its way up to the cervix, so a small cup suctioned to a high cervix can be quite the production to remove.

Also, if your cup works, you don't need two, that is the beauty of cups. At the end of your period, just pop the boiled and dry cup in its pouch, into your purse, and you are ready for any unexpected flow. Have fun choosing your cup!