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Hi there,

So like several others, I am a first-time cup user having issues with insertion. For background - I'm fairly petite, heavy flow, 26, not a virgin, but I've had trouble inserting tampons in the past so I've always avoided them. After doing some research last month, I settled on a small Fleurcup, which seemed to make most sense for me, but I'm getting really disheartened by all the trouble with trying to get the darned thing in.

Specifically, my Fleurcup is popping open before it's even half-way in, which makes things really uncomfortable and painful. I've experimented with a few different folds (C fold, punched down, triangle, origami, labia), staying relaxed, deep slow breathing, taking breaks and trying again later, but nothing seems to work :( I really want this to work for me, but I don't really want to spend the entire day in the bathroom forcing it in.

Any advice as to what I might be doing wrong? Did I buy the wrong cup?

Also - I'm on my period right now, so I don't think being lubricated enough is the problem at all.
 
 
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Luceafaraluceafara on August 6th, 2013 05:37 pm (UTC)
I can relate. The small Fleurcup does pop open very easily.
What I do is insert C-fold sideways while holding on to the top with thumb and second finger and pushing the bottom together with the remaining fingers. I basically just shove as much as I can of it inside and push the rest in after it is opened.
As long as I can manage to push the folded top past my pubic bone, it's all good. The rest is easy to get in after that. It is obviously important to relax despite the process.

I use imy small Fleurcup inside out, but not sure if that makes a difference.
Kai: BugsBunnykuradi8 on August 6th, 2013 10:34 pm (UTC)
Insert it deeper before you let it go?
elisamba on August 7th, 2013 05:48 am (UTC)
Agree with PPs. I found a narrow triangle fold the best for the Fleurcup, with one corner of the rim right down at the bottom grips, practically onto the stem. That way I could keep a firm grip on the rim right until it was fully inserted - which means inserting the fingertips holding the cup a bit as well. Then release once you feel it past the pubic bone.
veggie_girl13 on August 7th, 2013 01:59 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much for the tips. I will try the sideways approach and the triangle fold again. I think my problem was that while I was still holding it at the base, the rim had already popped open, so hopefully a fold that keeps the rim down will help.

Unfortunately, it might have to wait until next month, when I've got less going on and can take the time to practice and relax at home without worrying if I've got it in properly.


teacupcake89 on August 7th, 2013 04:49 pm (UTC)
use both hands to keep the cup folded, one hand near the top another near the base/stem. I like the triangle fold with my fleur as it has a narrow insertion point.

Don't dismiss the benefits of lubricant, you might find it helps if you want the cup to slide in more smoothly/quicker and not open up too soon. it will also help prevent you feeling sore and uncomfortable.
tjs77tsa on August 7th, 2013 06:28 pm (UTC)
This is what I do it may or may not work for you
I use the c fold and place my finger along the whole side of the cup and just use my thumb enough to keep it folded until I start to insert. once I start to insert I keep it folded with my finger that is all the way along one side and use that to press it against vagina wall to keep it from unfolding before I m ready (inserting the finger with the folded cup to keep it from popping open) I then slowly lift my finger and let it open when I get it where I want it. I do this with all of my cups.