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I will try to keep my story short. First, thanks to anyone reading this that can offer me a suggestion or help. I tried my first menstrual cup for my cycle at the beginning of July. I had been thinking about trying this, since having children tampons leak all over or I have to wear 3 at a time to even catch my flow. I still was having to wear a pad for back up. Worse yet was at night when a pad would leak all over, ruining my sheets! So the cup I was sure going to be for me.

I purchase the Mooncup (usa) from a reputable online retailer. I had no problem getting it in or having it unfold. I thought this in fantastic! Until, the stem kept poking my labia so terrible. I kept trimming it and thought that would fix my issue. I always felt the cup pushing out. It was like my vagina was spitting it out! Sorry, but I am so frustrated. Upon reading, I tried different folds, pushing it up high enough, twisting it to make it seal, turning it inside out, but still it works it's way out. The most it has stayed up where it belongs is about 10 mins. Reading some more, I began to think I might have purchased the wrong cup for me. I thought it must be too long. I have 3 children, ages 9, 7 and 2. So, started to think maybe my vaginal muscles need work and I should try a cup more designed for weak muscles. So since the beginning of July I have been doing kegel exercises.

I was so certain that when my next cycle came around I would be able to use a cup. On top of the kegel exercises, I bought 2 cups from the Meluna website. The MeLuna combi-pack, which included the MeLuna classic size L and the Meluna Mini M. These are supposed to be perfect for the mom who has weakened muscles and had vaginal births. I was really sure the Meluna mini would work because it was shorter. Again, no problems with getting it in or folded. It just won't stay up. It keeps slipping/pushing out of my vagina. I tried inserting on the toilet, in the shower, laying on my back, it just won't stay in. What or where am I going wrong?

Now I am on the other end of it thinking maybe my muscles are too strong??? How can you tell? My guy doesn't complain, so I can't even ask him! LOL I am very active. I am about 5'8" and 135 pounds. I worked out steadily before my kids with weights and cardio. I have been hit or miss with exercise now but still manage to maintain. Right, now I am biking and thinking of weight training again.

This would be a great thing if I could just get it to stay put. Sorry, for long post and if I gave too much info. Just really want to figure it out. Then I can pass this info on to my own daughters!! My mom never told me anything. Any help would be appreciated! Thank you all.
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Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 29th, 2013 05:46 pm (UTC)
It sounds like your "bear down" muscles are quite strong but your pelvic floor (the "hammock" that should support your cups and keep them in) is not.

Are you using anything to kegel? There are many different kegel tools. Some are hands-on and require interaction -- such as wands or tethered "orgasm balls" or gizmos that look kinda like speculums. My favorite tool is just plain Ben Wa Balls. Start with ones that are about 1" and 3/4oz apiece and then graduate to those that are appx 3/4" and 1oz apiece. The idea is to insert them and keep them in while you walk around, do the dishes, etc. Start with 20 minutes a day and build from there. The longer you keep them in, they harder they'll be to keep them inside. That's what's working your PCs -- hands free, no interaction required. Do this at home. Be sure to remember to remove them (relax, cough and catch) before going out or using the toilet.

But it has recently come to light that kegel exercises are not enough. You will need to add squats (for the butt muscles) and lower abdominal crunches to your exercise routine. They all work together to tone vaginal muscles.
scizzors76 on July 29th, 2013 07:08 pm (UTC)
Good info
Thanks for the reply. I will keep this in mind. I will continue my kegels and exercise and might incorporate what you are saying. In the meantime, there is not any cup I can use???
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 29th, 2013 07:43 pm (UTC)
Re: Good info
Your US Moon Cup is 54mm long.
Your Large Meluna is 51mm long.
Your Medium Mini Meluna is 45mm long. Wide cups don't get any shorter.

How about Insteads? Have you tried them yet? FYI, despite what the instructions say, they *ARE* reusable! It's easiest to alternate two. Remove one, insert the other, wash the one you took out for next time. (Repeat.) And have a wet paper/cloth towel handy because they can be messy.
Luceafaraluceafara on July 30th, 2013 03:31 am (UTC)
Sorry about your negative experience!
Have you checked out the diaphragms & cervical caps posts? Some food for thought, maybe...
Sayga: sp-camerasayga on July 30th, 2013 04:42 am (UTC)
Is it popping open too much before it's in place? Sometimes I think the cup is still closed, but it got full of air and so it can't go around my cervix enough (I have kind of a dangly cervix, and it sits slightly inside the cup). I either have to re-insert the cup, or pull the cup down while squeezing it together and pinching it till the air comes out, and it creates enough suction to hold it in place.