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09 July 2013 @ 01:01 pm

Good afternoon all!

I just recently purchased the size 2 LadyCup, and I'm a complete convert.  I had been curious to try cups for quite a while but decided to wait until after I had a baby to order my first one.  My son was born in October, and I had my first cycle last month, using the LadyCup.  What a life changing event!  I will never, never, NEVER go back to using tampons again.

I have a question for you all though.  For those of you who's cycles are NOT regular, do you wait until your menstruation begins before placing the cup?  Or do you take a guess and try to "catch" it beforehand?  My cycles are all messed up from my pregnancy and from lactating for several months, and my flow is extremely heavy the first few hours.  I'm tempted to start wearing the cup a few days before I think my period will happen just so I can avoid destroying my jeans in public.  Thoughts?  Suggestions?

Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 9th, 2013 07:24 pm (UTC)
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Hi outragme_982! I'm really glad you've found the community :) However, could you please edit your post to remove the non-gender neutral language? We explain why we ask this here. Thanks so much!
Running Mouseoutragme_982 on July 9th, 2013 07:28 pm (UTC)
Re: mod note
Actually, since I'm transgendered this very much applies to me but I don't pay much attention to gender labels so it didn't occur to me!! I will edit though :)
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 9th, 2013 07:36 pm (UTC)
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Thank you :) Obviously it doesn't matter to everyone but we want to make as many people as possible comfortable being here!
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 9th, 2013 07:25 pm (UTC)
And to actually answer the question, I wait until I start bleeding, but carry it around with me when I feel like it's that time. (Plus, wearing dark underwear.) I tend to start off pretty slowly, though, so that might not work for you.
Running Mouseoutragme_982 on July 9th, 2013 07:36 pm (UTC)
Yeah unfortunately that would cause major issues for me. It seems like post-baby I will have some big surprises coming for me.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 9th, 2013 07:40 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I remember that time. I think it took me about two years before I got back to anything that could even vaguely be described as "regular" or even "sort of predictable".
Running Mouseoutragme_982 on July 9th, 2013 07:42 pm (UTC)
Crap, really? I was never so much regular to begin with but at least I was light so it wasn't too bad. I think I may have to get a second cup to keep in my car with me. Oh darn, guess I get to go shopping.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on July 9th, 2013 07:43 pm (UTC)
Well, I was breastfeeding a lot of that time, and it's not always that bad!
Running Mouseoutragme_982 on July 9th, 2013 07:45 pm (UTC)
Man I hope not. It would be nice if things evened off a bit but I know it's still the beginning of getting back to "normal". I exclusively pumped for seven months before my supply took a major hit and I started lactating again. I was really hoping to push it for much longer.
Carriecarrieb on July 9th, 2013 07:42 pm (UTC)
Congratulations on your first cup! I also started using one after my son was born. . . 7 years ago. I had a complete panic when it leaked one day. How do people deal with tampons and pads?

I put my cup in at the very first sign of cramps. Somehow the cup totally takes my cramps away. If I didn't have that sign I would put my cup in around the time I thought the period would start, assuming I could get it in.
Running Mouseoutragme_982 on July 9th, 2013 08:00 pm (UTC)
Thank you, carrieb!

Although it's nice not having cramping anymore, it totally sucks not having any warning. hopefully next cycle I will have at least some mild cramping beforehand. Do you have trouble inserting your cup if you are not menstruating?
Carriecarrieb on July 9th, 2013 09:03 pm (UTC)
Yes, I can't get it in for some reason. I don't know if it is too dry, or just not big enough or what. If I have just had sex I can get it in, no problem.
bicyclegasolinebicyclegasoline on July 9th, 2013 08:05 pm (UTC)
My period varies between 28 and 40+ days. I tend to put my cup in late on day 27, ready to catch it whenever it arrives! Tho I did purchase a mini Meluna soft for this time for comfort :) I have no problems inserting pre-period, but you can always use water based lube :)
Running Mouseoutragme_982 on July 9th, 2013 08:08 pm (UTC)
Hate lube. Would love to avoid it if possible. The idea of a smaller cup sounds like a great idea for a first strike though!
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 9th, 2013 08:07 pm (UTC)
I'd say just go for it, cups are VERY conveninet that way, as long as you remember to take it out and rinse it at least every 12 hours. I use water as lube but you may use actual, water-based lube.
Megan: EhhSqrlhdsqrl on July 9th, 2013 08:12 pm (UTC)
Since no one else has mentioned it yet, I'll toss out the idea of cloth pads. There are liners that are really thin, and I rely on those during the days I think I *might* start but don't yet want to insert the cup (it frustrates me to keep taking it out to check only to discover that I STILL haven't started, heh.) And since the liners are cloth, you just toss them in with the wash, no waste at all. (plus-plus, because they're cloth, you don't have the awful plasticy diaper feeling, woot.)

Running Mouseoutragme_982 on July 9th, 2013 08:14 pm (UTC)
I've been thinking about cloth pads, honestly. I cloth diaper for my son so I am already familiar with good washing habits. I think I'm nervous to invest because I hate pads so much. I feel like I would almost rather buy a different cup to use preemptively.
Megan: FullCheeksSqrlhdsqrl on July 9th, 2013 08:38 pm (UTC)
I can understand that. For me, I've found them to be invaluable, as I use them for backup even on my cup days. While they do make huge pads intended for pad-only use, they also make short, thin ones that are perfect for "just in case" or backup use. I'm not at all sure I'd like the giant ones, but the liners are great.

(My cycle tends to do 3-4 days of a teasing sort of discharge, then 4-5 days of actual bleeding before finally wrapping up, and I'm less happy with the idea of jacking with a cup for 4 days longer than necessary, plus every time I feel ANYTHING, I panic that I've started and am most assuredly bleeding a path all the way to the bathroom, hah. Hence: cloth liners keep me sane.)

If you're on the fence, check etsy for reasonable prices and buy just a small pack of 2-3 to see what you think. :)
jwthemathsterjwthemathster on July 9th, 2013 09:07 pm (UTC)
Like you, I despise disposable pads. However, I'm a cloth convert now, from the wisdom and encouragement of everyone here, and on the cloth pad community. I ordered a sample set from Amy's Rag Bag to try out. Love them--absolutely nothing like disposables. Totally worth trying out, even if for a backup to the cup (leaks can happen, even to the most seasoned cup user).

That said, I do wear my cup preemptively to prevent the "crimson surprise." I do find my go-to cup (Large Fleurcup) is not comfortable to insert pre-menses, so I use either a small Fleurcup or my Femmecup. Something like that may not give a high capacity for an extra heavy flow, but better than being caught with nothing. Also, like tisiphone does, carrying a cup at all times is a wise choice, too.
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on July 9th, 2013 08:57 pm (UTC)
I pre-emptively wear a small mini Meluna soft (sometimes even for discharge). With my other cups, I can feel a little pressure, but I really can't feel a thing with this small, soft cup. I don't know if it has enough capacity if you start suddenly and gush, but it should buy you enough time to put in a larger and slightly less comfortable cup. Another way to go would be to buy or make a few thin, waterproofed, cloth pantyliners. They're more absorbent than disposable and breathe well.
Luceafaraluceafara on July 10th, 2013 11:54 pm (UTC)
I have been wearing my small Meluna soft every single day since I got it a few weeks ago as well. It catches all the discharge and I no longer need pany liners. So happy!
tjs77tsa on July 9th, 2013 09:03 pm (UTC)
I put mine in before I start so as not to ruin any clothes. I wouldn't go get a smaller one though as you said your "flow is extremely heavy the first few hours" which would mean you would be taking a chance of overflowing the cup during those first few hours with a smaller one and that seems to me it would defeat the purpose of putting it in ahead of time.
teacupcake89 on July 9th, 2013 09:15 pm (UTC)
I pre-emptively wear my cup too, sometimes for a couple of days before it actually starts (cleaning regularly) as it's great for spotting/heavy discharge/after sex clean up.

I use a large Fleurcup, I have to use lube of some kind to get it/anything inside me, you could use coconut oil as a lube as it's anti-fungal and a great moisturiser!
lurkmaster10lurkmaster10 on July 10th, 2013 12:35 am (UTC)
My cycle is slightly irregular, so I put my Diva cup in the night before I expect my period to start. It hasn't cause me any problems, and I love the security it gives me.
tryingljtempwaterlily on July 15th, 2013 12:33 am (UTC)
thin pads can be awesome.... and I'm in awe...
I haven't been able to insert the small Lunette I bought yet even on a heavy day, so I am in awe of people somehow getting a cup in preemptively.

re: cloth pads, I'm not up on the etsy vendor selection, but I can say that Party In My Pants pads are super-slim, leak-proof, and easy to hide -- I keep ones tucked into all my work jackets. I hope to get a cup to work, but no luck yet.

I also have flooding issues, so I hear ya on wanting to be prepared!

Edited at 2013-07-15 12:36 am (UTC)