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I'm 23, almost 24, years old and still a virgin(shocking I know) and I came across menstrual cups a few years ago while I was bored and on youtube. Not sure how I wound up coming across it in the first place. They piqued my interest, but I was too apprehensive to buy one at the time. Wasn't sure how my mom would have reacted if she found it, since she is fairly conservative. I've done research on some of the different popular brands, but am still too nervous to try one, but I am finally and completely fed up with tampons and pads and the associated mess and smell. Not to mention having to worry about timing and the pad leaking through to your clothes, or sitting wrong and bleeding through your clothes.
Which brand would you recommend for a first timer? After doing my research I've narrowed it down to mooncup UK, lunette, divacup and the new sckooncup. I like the mooncup for it's smaller size, and that I've not read too many bad things about it but am worried that it might be too small for some of my heavier days. The divacup I've heard mixed reviews about, and lunette is kinda large. I've not read anything about the sckooncup yet, possibly because its a newer brand. Which brand is the best for a first timer who is still a virgin? Any recommendations?
juliiie87juliiie87 on July 8th, 2013 09:00 am (UTC)
There's no such thing as a beginner's cup I'm afraid. Although if you want my personnal opinion, that would not be the Mooncup for several reasons (low capacity, thick firm rim). Everyone is different, and what matters here are the facts about YOU. Cups fit inside the vagina, so the first thing to consider is your anatomy : you want the cup to not be too long, and also not be so tiny vs. your anatomy that you can't reach it to remove it. So what I mean by size is mostly length (*preferably measured while on your period to be most accurate, because that can vary), vaginas don't really have a given width, they're usually closed and stretch to accomodate things. Start your research here : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

Consider actuall size and capacity, NOT what they are called. As you can see, there's a world difference between a small Sckoon and a small Diva, which is closer to a cross between a large and an XL Meluna. If you have a heavy flow, try to avoid lowest capacity cups if you can (Mini Meluna, Mooncup/femmecup, small Ladycup). You might find a large sized cup will work better for your size and flow. That's perfectly fine, cups are folded on the way in, and possibly onthe way out as well.

Once you've considered in which size/capacity ball park you fall, narrow it down by stiffness : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/ I personnally believe softer cups are easier to fold tightly for insertion and removal, less likely to put pressure on your nether regions, and not much difficult to use at all.

Good luck and welcome ! :)

Edited at 2013-07-08 09:15 am (UTC)
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on July 8th, 2013 11:45 am (UTC)
I am in pretty much the same boat as you (and no shame in still keeping your v-card! It's the only reliable way to avoid reproducing accidentally, right? I have more than a couple friends who conceived while faithfully taking their BC...anyway, I digress...) and like Julie, I'd advise checking the length of your vag before deciding on a cup. I first went with the Meluna small + medium classic 2-pack (I love two-fer deals and figured I could use a narrow cup, capacity is not a huge issue for me, etc). They were absolute hell to remove because I have a high cervix and they are fairly short cups. Trust me, if you have a high cervix you will not want a Meluna. I actually ended up going with the FemmyCycle because it has a removal ring that you can use with one finger (which is all I can fit up there) and it's so soft that it hasn't been a problem for me, despite the fact that it looks pretty large when you're holding it. If you're really long and tight you might also check out the Lilycup--though I admit I'm mostly saying that because it's new, I'm curious about it and want to hear what others think of it :) Good luck!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on July 8th, 2013 12:48 pm (UTC)
I hate to say it but... Start over. The actual dimensions of the cups you've picked out are all over the map. Do a little self-exploration and figure out what brands would fit you best. IGNORE the directions that show a cup sitting at the entrance of your vagina with a cup length or more between the rim and your cervix. That is just plain WRONG and why oh why do all the cup companies draw it that way??? In real life any cup will settle (O) around your cervix and height of the base of the cup will be relative the length of your vagina and the length of the body of the cup. You want the base to be just above your pelvic floor muscles. (Insert your finger, give it a little squeeze. That's them. Cups sit above them.)

If a cup is too long, it will press on your pelvic floor and shift off target or poke through, feeling like it wants to escape. If a cup is too short, you'll have a heckuva time reaching it for removal.

Also consider capacity to match your flow and both shape and stiffness for comfort. Softer is often more comfortable once it's in but stiffer pops open more easily and some say seals more securely. Compare side by side photos. Pointy or blunt base, flared rim or not, stout body or slim. There is a lot to consider but also trust your gut feeling. It's probably right.
akiratakamashiakiratakamashi on July 8th, 2013 02:55 pm (UTC)
I agree with Kuradi8. The cups that you are checking out are all very different. Also what do you use as far as pads or tampons? If you post that it will be easier to help you find a cup that will work for both your flow and body. Also, I highly recommend checking out http://menstrualcups.wordpress.com/. It is a really great site and it helped me a lot with picking my first cup.
trula_rtrula_r on July 8th, 2013 03:47 pm (UTC)
I know that this is the opposite of helpful, but from the choices you have listed, you might also want to consider the fleurcup. It is nicely shaped for many people, and a little cheaper than most of the cups.
elisamba on July 8th, 2013 07:42 pm (UTC)
Nothing shocking. 37-yr-old virgin here. Maybe in 3 years I can get a movie contract for the sequel to that other movie lol...

Paradoxically, I found my softer cup hard to remove because the rim flopped all over or suddenly popped open and hurt. My slightly firmer small Fleurcup suited me better for a few reasons. It was small enough to fold up nicely - the triangle fold is not only narrow, but also easy to control since you keep the rim pinched until almost the entire cup is in your body.

Also, the rim was stiff enough to hold its shape upon removal, a narrow oval taken out very slowly sideways, narrow edge first. To get this shape, I inserted my forefinger and thumb and pinched fairly high up (ETA while holding the stem with my other hand). It takes practice.

Third, I've heard the "bell" shape creates less suction than the "cone" shape. That seemed to be the case comparing my two cups. Though this doesn't have to do with virginity per se, I'm just mentioning it because the suction of my first cup freaked me out as a first time user. So you may want to consider this in choosing your first cup.

Also just a practical tip: before attempting the cup, if you have not done so already you might want to just get comfortable with inserting one finger all three digits, then your finger and thumb. You'll need that "skill" to get the cup out.

HTH :-)

Edited at 2013-07-08 07:48 pm (UTC)
Jennifer Monoteasy2begreen on July 8th, 2013 11:13 pm (UTC)
I think the small Lunette is a decent place to start -- medium firmness, shorter cup body but longer stem (trimmable!), but it didn't end up being my favorite cup. Knowing how high your cervix is will be very helpful in determining whether you'll be okay with a long bodied cup like the Diva or need something much shorter like a Sckoon. I haven't tried a MoonCup UK, but am a little put off by the thick rim (firmer rims tend to snap open, especially when you're still figuring out how to insert).

By the way, in case this starts to seem overwhelming, most cups can work for most people. I have an average cervix height and can use both the Diva and the small Lunette without problem, but prefer my softer LadyCup for all but the first, heaviest day of my cycle.