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kitty_katt90
12 June 2013 @ 04:12 pm
First off, I'd like to introduce myself, my name is Katt. I've been quietly reading in the shadows for a while trying to figure out which cup I should get. Thanks to the help of the comparison chart (after I had a big fiasco with the Diva) I settled on a Small Ladycup.

The small Divacup (can't remember which model it is) was too long, and the bottom stuck out even after I cut the stem off. I even tried it inside out, it just wouldn't go in any further. It was a purchase I rushed into before I found the chart.

So I ordered the Small Ladycup. It arrived a week ago, and my period came yesterday, so I put it in, had it right, suction and all, took it back out to trim the stem (and it had already collected some fluid). Since then I feel like I just can't get it in correctly again! And I like to consider myself a fast learner, so believe me when I say this thing is trying my patience.

It pops all the way open, I rotate it, kegel it in there, give it a slight tug (i don't want to tug too much as I have a Paraguard IUD), run my finger around to make sure it is in fact open (pretty sure I'm over any squeamishness I had in regards to my coming in contract with my menstrual blood). I've Read countless posts on here as to what to try next, I can't keep them straight anymore.

The "c fold" is what worked the first time before I trimmed the stem. So I figured I would stick to that, since with the Ladycup Sm I can't even hold the "punch down" long enough to get it in. I'll try the other ones. I just get frustrated really easy.

No matter what I do now, it just leaks. And its not residual, because the cup won't catch anything and I'll have blood on my liner and the outside of the cup, and I'm not even that heavy yet.

And I do make sure the little holes are clear of anything.

Sorry for the length of the post, and I know that this problem had probably been posted a lot, but any advice would be greatly appreciated before I start pulling my hair out. Haha.

Additional info: I'm 23 years old, never pregnant, sexually active, Paraguard IUD.

(Oh, and I'll put it in "straight" and the stem will start to point/rotate to the right, well right if your looking down. That makes me wonder if I'm lopsided in there lol. But I'm sure it's just because there's something I'm missing or not doing right, or it'll start to point "up".)
 
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 12th, 2013 09:29 pm (UTC)
Cups work by a simple concept (concept is simple, practice, not always so much) : they catch your menses as they come dripping from your cervix. It sounds like you may be trying to fill up your mug by pouring coffee down its side, like kuradi8 says.

Look for your cervix. By the sounds of it, look towards the left. Remember where it is. As you insert, aim the rim the cup so the rim faces it. You want it (o) around your cervix. Don't insert it too high so you do't squish it next to your cervix by accident. Once it's unfolded swirl all the way around with a finger, see if you can feel the tip of your cervix poking out. If so, readjust. That should do it. Hang in there! being "lopsided" makes things a little more technical yes, but it's manageable!

Edited at 2013-06-12 09:33 pm (UTC)
kitty_katt90kitty_katt90 on June 12th, 2013 09:53 pm (UTC)
Thank you! That does make sense.
I do run my finger around, but it's difficult to get past a certain point before I run out of room, but I will try that.
I feel like my cervix is playing a game of "Haha! I moved again!" Which I guess isn't the cups fault.
I think I got it in right this time, now the trick is to remember exactly what I did and get consistent with it.
trejoytrejoy on June 13th, 2013 12:28 am (UTC)
My cervix moves crazily at times ~ last cycle I had a dickens of a time getting a cup to sit right! Before finding this community I regularly 'missed' my cervix which was horribly frustrating.
kitty_katt90kitty_katt90 on June 13th, 2013 12:34 am (UTC)
That makes me wonder what would happen if it moves while you have the cup in already... Nothing good I imagine.
trejoytrejoy on June 13th, 2013 12:40 am (UTC)
I'm pretty sure, if I have the cup centered around my cervix, that the cup moves with it. But if I miss, it won't find it's way around!
tjs77tsa on June 13th, 2013 12:43 am (UTC)
If it moves too much when it is in (ie. shifts sideways more then a little)it might be too narrow.
trejoytrejoy on June 13th, 2013 04:34 am (UTC)
VERY true. I started off with narrower cups which leaked awfully!
kitty_katt90kitty_katt90 on June 13th, 2013 05:58 am (UTC)
I think I went with the Small LadyCup because of the length not so much the width. Because the divacup was way too long! I mean it seals really well, because boy! Do I feel it when I remove it. So I would think the width is good? Or does this not mean anything?
trejoytrejoy on June 13th, 2013 06:40 am (UTC)
For now locating your cervix and aiming the cup that way is the priority. The small LadyCup may work perfectly well for you, this could just be part of the learning curve. It can take a few cycles to get to know how your cup and body work together.