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08 June 2013 @ 07:24 am
I have a femmecup, which when I insert (I make sure it's opened and positioned properly which it is) I get severe, sharp abdominal pain. I don't think it's touching my cervix because my vagina isn't that short and the femmecup isn't exactly a long cup. I'm on my first cycle with the cup and I'm just finding it painful once it's in (I've mastered insertion and getting there with removal) and also pretty messy. I wore it last night, put it in at 11pm and woke up at 5am with it leaking. Not sure whether it was full or not because I emptied it over the toilet without looking, but there was a lot in there.
One of the main reasons I bought one was the length of time you could wear it and by extension that you could wear it overnight. Tampons are fine with me; they don't dry me out and my only issues with them is TSS and how you can only wear them 8 hours. For reference, on my heaviest days the minimum time I could keep a tampon in is 6 hours, usually up to 7-8. I assumed that due to the bigger capacity I'd be able to leave the cup in longer, up to twelve hours and have never considered myself to have a heavy flow. I've had to empty my cup much more frequently for some reason and I feel unclean compared to tampons. It was so painful and impractical I have put a tampon in and the cramps went.
When taking it out, it hurts and when I squeeze it to try and break the seal all the blood will come out if its fairly full.
Any suggestions to make it easier/stop the pain?
I'm fourteen by the way :)
 
juliiie87juliiie87 on June 8th, 2013 12:35 pm (UTC)
Hang in there, you're in the dreaded learning curve !
You seem to be doing great already, but I promise it'll get easier.

Cups can be worn for a maximum of 12 hours, but many, many users find that their flow is too heavy for that to be realistic, at least on their first couple days. It could be that you are one of them. Some cups also hold more than others due to their shape and size. Some people also have to use a pad (reusable cloth or traditionnal disposable one) on their heaviest night or if they can't access a bathroom on time to empty their cup. Sometimes cups can get full and start to overflow without actually looking quite full : that's because your cervix sitting inside the cup can sometimes steal some of the cup's capacity.

Cups usually settle (o) around the cervix, however high or low it happens to be, or at least that's how they work best. Can you find your cervix, and make sure it's not peeking out of the rim ? Because that would be uncomfortable, but since your cup is catching blood it, seems like it's working right.

Your pain can be from several things : it could be your body getting used to the cup, or it could be that this particular cup is too long or too firm for your anatomy/sensitivity. Were you in pain when you left it overnight ? is it getting better? Have you tried nudging the cup a bit higher once it's open, if that's possible, see if that's more comfortable? It could also be that there was too much suction, which you should avoid by letting air in when you insert & unfold the cup : http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2091967.html Cups are not supposed to suck the blood out, they just sit in place held by your inner muscles.

Finally here's a video with tips for insertion & removal :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLPBZz3uJEg check out the rest of her channel too! :) An extra tip we like to recommend here is the "hot-dog in a bun" removal method : insert your longest finger next to the cup (for me it's easier underneath) as high as you can, then press against the body of the cup (basically squish it flat & in half) and drag it out that way, once it's near the entrance you can use your other hand to sort of re-fold it into a c-fold. Do this over the toilet or in the tub, because it IS messy on a full cup! The "squeeze the base & rock it back & forth" method should be less messy.

As to why you feel "cleaner" with tampons... that's the difference between tampons sucking *all of the fluids* from your vagina (basically drying you out) and a cup just sitting there without distubing or absorbing anything. Personally wearing my cup or cloth pads before my period even starts helps me feel "covered" & generally "cleaner", although there's nothing "dirty" about having a period, it's just natural.

Edited at 2013-06-08 12:39 pm (UTC)